Penis Size -- Wider, Longer, or Uncut

A very nice post from Alyssa de Jour

I don't always quote entire posts but this is a worthy exception. First of all it's worth repeating. Second, I'd be sorry if for some reason the original was ever lost. So here goes. My comments follow.

Penis size.

The other day a friend was reading my blog, and suggested I do a "tip for how to impress a woman" on penis size... he was saying this is a topic guys may find particularly helpful as it is topic that makes all guys paranoid.

Well, I can't really do a "how to" on the subject because it is not something you can really "how to", rather you are stuck with what you have! No less, I have taken the suggestion on board, and thought I would write an entire piece on the subject. What do women really think about penis size? And about penis' in general.

So this is an honest account of my own opinion taken from my own personal experience and from frank and honest discussions with other women. And yes boys, we do discuss you all -- in detail so graphic it is frightening! This is a fact, so deal with it!

Firstly, I'd like to make the point here that the size of a flaccid dick is of no consequence to a woman. So don't go looking at each other in the shower or peeing etc for comparisons - it means nothing at all. You can be quite large flaccid and not grow much when hard, or you could be tiny flaccid and Godzilla is reborn when you become erect!! Women know this! So next time you are taking a piss at the trough, know that how you measure up to the guy next to you means nothing at all (hopefully this will assist if you have stage fright when trying to pee).

Now guys can be too big -- there is actually such a thing, believe it or not! By too big I mean too long. I have never heard of a guy being too thick. But if any of you out there know of such a guy, do let me know, I have some friends who would really like to meet him (and my husband Jim is already off the market)!

But if a guy is too long he can hit your cervix, and let me tell you it hurts like hell! So if you are so endowed, there are certain sexual positions you should avoid -- doggy style in particular is out! A good alternative is to make love to your women while she lies on she stomach with her legs together. This way the penetration isn't as deep, but you get great access to her g-spot.

What makes for a good-sized dick is really the thickness - the thicker the better! Shorter in length doesn't really matter. This is the main consensus of the women I have spoken to.

But if you are really, really short and really, really thin, then you are in trouble! But don't worry, on the positive side you are likely to cop lots of head-jobs! She will be able to be like a porn star and take all of you in her mouth, and she will really like this. This is of course unless she can deep throat, but if she can chances are she's the type that would have already walked out the door by now.

I guess the main tip for guys when it comes to size is to explore sexual positions that best compliment your own anatomy, choosing deep or shallow penetrating positions to suit. And of course, practice, practice, practice!

The shape can be important to, but it's not critical. A slight Banana-like bend can be effective, with the bend up for the best access to the G-spot. But like I said, it is not critical -- you can choose positions that best compliment this also.

Now to the old argument of ‘circumcised vs. non-circumcised'... during sexual intercourse itself, there is very little difference. I guess from a women's point of view, if you still have your fore-skin, it makes it much easier to "handle" in that the skin moves, so you can get a good grip with minimal friction (not all women are comfortable with spitting on their hand, particularly early on in the relationship!). But if you are un-cut, make sure you are diligent with your hygiene! (This ranks up there with "tip for how to impress a woman #1... brush your teeth" -- there are no exceptions to this rule!).

And as for staying power, most men generally fall into 2 categories -- the quick to shoot, and they stayers. Now most men are under the false impression that being a stayer is what most women are looking for, and can even become quite anxious about coming too quickly. Can I be the first to dispel this myth -- that's right -- myth!!

From my own frame of reference, there is nothing worse than a guy who doesn't come until Christmas. In fact, there is no bigger ‘blow' (pardon the pun) to a woman's self -- esteem. You lie there while he's pumping away thinking "man, what the hell's wrong with me, am I that unattractive that he can't get-off... is this ever gonna end?!". Not only this, once a stayer does blow, generally it's all over rover for quite some time. So if the girl has yet to reach that moment of pleasure, she can then kiss goodbye getting it (from intercourse anyway) for the next few hours.

It is much better to be a guy who's quick to shoot, but quick to recover! It's actually extremely flattering for a woman when a guy is so aroused by her he just can't help himself, but is still so aroused that his back again in 2 minutes flat!

But no matter what you are like -- being a master of fore-play is the biggest asset you can have. It's like this -- you can be with the most beautiful woman on earth, but you won't have memorable sex with her if she just lies there like a silent corpse (unless of course that is what you are into -- ugh!). So be sure to pay attention to her full body and know how to please her with more than just intercourse -- read books if you have to on the subject! Oh, even the chick magazines have some good tips (but you boyz out there already knew this... we know you read ‘em!)

So the bottom line is, you are going to be judged more by how the whole experience made her feel than just from your dick. Remember this!!!

Brilliant and original post, Alyssa! Thanks.

First of all yikes! Women talk about us with their friends? Most men are so
stigmatized by the whole "locker-room talk" myth that we never mention anything we do with our partners... after the first time we actually have sex and thus know what we're talking about.

Also, good points about erect and flaccid sizes. Most (straight) men never see the transition between in anyone else so we tend not to realize there's not a lot of linkage between on and the other. In the restroom they're all flaccid. In porn they're always hard. So thanks.

Finally, the business about longer vs. wider. I get the impression that given a choice most men would prefer longer to thicker. You've confirmed what a lot of other women say which is that, given a choice, they'd prefer a thicker partner to a longer one.

I remember hearing a while ago that during sex men tend to enjoy the feeling of friction while women tend to prefer stretching.

If so (and I think it's true) this would explain men's preference for length and women's for width.

It also explains why men tend to rub their partner's soft bits "too
hard."

Another thing. Thanks for the info on coming quickly vs. taking forever. Men have also been stigmatized over premature ejaculation to a point that we're afraid to come at all before we're sure our partners have.

At least for me I never thought through what it must be like to excite a partner so much he can't hold back.

Must be one of those communication things, eh? Where he's trying to be a gentleman and meanwhile she's wondering if she's not very exciting to him. :-)

All good points, and I mean good ones! I'll take them to heart next time my partner and I make love.

Thanks!