From time to time I try to explore the problem of erotic images of heterosexual men. It’s kind of a nuisance since even if they’re not created by men, almost all visual representations of sexuality are created for men. And for the most part male customers either want to see other men as erotic their way (gay porn) or as non-exaggeratedly threatening accessories for women models and actresses (straight porn.) So I didn’t really have a lot to go on.
Your feedback has helped a lot. It’s helped in several big ways: First of all it’s given me a much better understanding of what works and doesn’t work; it’s given me a much better idea of the divisions of interests (which, incidentally, correspond closely to the divisions of interest among men looking at women in porn); and finally it’s given me a much more accurate, and flattering (thanks!) understanding of my own body — which I originally thought of as strikingly unattractive. One way or another I find I incorporate a lot of what I’ve learned into my other posts about pornography, body image, and understanding of our sexual selves. Again, thank you.
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Except for the occasional image used to emphasize or illustrate a point the images on this website are self-portraits, usually taken with a timer or an infrared remote.
Generally speaking all the images in this blog are relatively tame. Given the title and URL this obviously isn’t a family site but different people have different standards. In particular different people have different standards of what constitutes erotic vs. pornographic vs. mild vs. explicit vs. ohhh vs. ewww, and I prefer to err on the side of caution.
There’s another reason. All the images in this blog are also visible to the public on Flickr™ and I don’t want to cause trouble over there.
Not all my images are so tame, nor as public. Going back to the ohhh vs. ewww thing, while I tend not to post overly explicit images in public I have no such qualms about posting them behind Flickr’s “Friends” screen.
The difference between an exhibitionist and an erotic self-photographer is that an exhibitionist pushes his work on others while a self-photographer waits for people to ask to see his work.
If you’d like to see my more explicitly erotic photos all you have to do is ask. But you do have to ask. Just email me, or add a comment, or — if you’re already a Flickr member — send me Flickrmail. Important: if you have a Flickr account you can’t just make me a contact, you still have to ask. While I don’t require it, I really will appreciate if you’ll add me to your Friends list as well. And while I don’t require it I really appreciate comments and constructive criticism.
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Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2005-10-16 12:04.
Hi fl
Love the pics, especially the kilt and shower ones.
However, not sure about the sweater, was it a Christmas present?
Keep it up!
Suze X
[Nope, I knit those myself. (And yes, just because I can knit doesn't mean I have good taste when it's time to pick the patterns. :-) --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2005-10-16 13:28.
Hi fl
Yes, Alex can knit too - now I can see why I stop him!
Just joking. I must say I prefer you without clothing though.
Suze X
[Not me! It's 40 degrees (farenheit) and raining, as it often is in the Pacific Northwest. Oh wait, you mean without clothing *indoors!* Me too. :-) --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2005-10-16 14:09.
Fl
You got me thinking about knitting (that's dangerous you know).
Take a look at the link below, It amused me.
You could have some great nights in.
Citizen Skein
Suze X
[Doh! Cool link, Suze. Thanks. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2005-10-17 07:07.
FL - You are outrageously gorgeous, and i mean that sincerely. Beautiful body, beautiful cock, great sense of artistic style in your photos. Bravo!
[Wow, thanks Lydia! That's very nice of you to say so. Thanks. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2005-10-19 11:52.
Just chiming in to say I too love your photos (the suggestiveness), and have been enjoying reading your blog. I found you through CG and Alohalani.
[Thanks, Leigh! Welcome aboard. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2005-11-16 00:54.
OK ... so here I am, finally ... and, granted, a little embarrassed, but asking nonethless -- because, well, hey, from what I can tell your pictures are great and I'd be interested in seeing more ... if I can 'please view the pictures' ... in other words, can I be one of your privileged picture friends, fl ?? have I earned my stripes? lol .. !!
Catnip ...
[Hi Catnip, check your email for an invitation from Flickr. Oh yeah, and you don't have to earn any strips. Just ask. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2005-11-16 21:49.
Love the pictures I have seen would love to see more. Don't make a wench beg. ;)
[No need to beg at all, TW. Check your email for an invitation from Flickr. Thanks. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2005-11-21 11:17.
Add me, add me.
Please.
[Hi Tess, I've added you. Thanks for asking. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2005-12-16 12:47.
how do i get added...?
may i, please...
thank you
[No problem. Check your email for an invitation from Flickr, Needra. --fl]
Very good post, thanks a lot.
Submitted by dido (not verified) on Fri, 2009-12-18 04:30.Very good post, thanks a lot.
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sat, 2005-12-24 22:01.
May I please be added to your list?
my flickr ID is Sonja_Blue21
[Consider it done. Thanks, Sonja. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2005-12-26 21:21.
tried to go to your flicker account and it said needed an invite...
[Hi Rob. Check your mail for an invitation. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2005-12-27 00:45.
Hi, just stumbled onto your site from Stef's "cun*ing linguist" site. Love your blog and adore the pics, may I be given permission to see the hidden photos? Thank you.
[No problem, atlhalfjap. I've sent an invitation. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2005-12-27 16:21.
Stumbled upon your site and plan to explore it more! Please add me?
[No problem, CG. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2006-01-04 08:27.
Oh goodness... I can't even imagine what else you have there.... I have been loving this series especially.... I humbly ask for permission to see the rest...
[Check your mail for an invitation from Flickr. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2006-01-04 16:19.
Fig,
Please add me to the list of those who crave to see more of your wonderful photograpy! And if I ever learn how to add links to my blog, I would like to add your link- you've become one of my daily reads! Hope that's okay!
[Check your email for an invitation from Flickr. By the way, of course it's ok to add me to your blogroll (see why I think it's fine.) Also what's your URL? I didn't know you had a blog. Thanks, Snow White. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-01-06 00:42.
Beautiful, well thought out photographs. It is intresting to be able to see the person behind the posts, and the artistry of the photos themselves. I would love to be able to see more of them, I have a flicker account, but would the more 'involved' photos show up on my friends page? I would love to be added, thou
cheers
Ash
[My icon might show up, with the public ones accessible there, but only other Friends would see the firewalled ones. I'll add you. Then you can decide if you want to keep it that way. I won't at all be offended if you drop the link. Thanks, Ashley. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-01-06 20:51.
Fig... I believe you are my new hot and heavy hero... if only I were close enough to... ah, well, how can I be added to see more? Please...?
[Great way to stimulate my imagination. An invitation is on its way to your (corrected) mailbox. Thanks, BoopTeeDo. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-01-06 20:59.
See I got so all hot & bothered, I submitted my email before checking it. (Does that make me a submissive?) Please tell me how to see more, here's my corrected info...
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2006-01-11 15:04.
I've just discovered your site and would love to see more of your wonderful photographs. An everday body in everyday situations. Very refreshing.
Would you please add me to your friends list?
[Sure, Karyn. Check your email for an invitation from Flickr. Thanks. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-01-13 21:43.
i think...i may have...found you there first - sorta kinda
and at this late hour...i can't remember if i added you or not - without asking. if i did, i apologize - i probably did it without thinking - if yes..you'll see...i have very few contacts...anyway..enough babble..i am headed to bed...i hope you have a good weekend.
[That's not a problem at all, SN. It's ok if you add me as a contact. I just won't add people back automatically. Thanks. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sat, 2006-01-21 02:28.
I hope i'm not too late to ask. Would you add me also?
Please?
*eyelash batting*
Minxxxxxxxx
[Your invitation is on the way. Thanks, Minx. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2006-02-20 18:47.
I think your pix are intriguing. May I please join your Flickr posse too? I will try not to stalk you. *grin*
[Invitation's on the way. Check the email address you gave me for an invitation from Flickr. Thanks, JT. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2006-03-13 08:17.
Love the site! May I please see the other pics???
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Thu, 2006-03-16 17:15.
No invitation? Was I a bad boy?
[No, Phil, you weren't bad. Check your email for an invitation. Thanks for asking. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2006-03-20 10:57.
I would like to see more! Thank you, J
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Thu, 2006-04-27 08:18.
Must I have a flickr account to see more? And is that a utilikilt?
These photos are magnificent - beautiful composition, very appealing subject. I would very much like to see the others, if I may.
Now, onward in your archives. You are addicting!
[I'll send you an invitation with a link, Orchid. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-05-12 21:04.
I just found the site, but I definitely want to add it to my bookmarks. Do you still have invites to spare?
[Thanks, Rebekah. I've sent you an invitation. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sat, 2006-05-20 18:18.
May I see your pics? Thanks
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2006-06-06 16:14.
Like the shower and red plaid shirt pics.
The shadow and red shirt stops the moment. Just long enough...
[Thank you, 5o9! --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2006-06-07 12:43.
I just have to say WOW!!! Your pictures just amaze me. These are the most tastefully erotic pictures I have ever come across. Your imagination in creating the photo sets makes a viewer yearn to see more. Porn? Definetly not! These are my defintion of "erotic art". I hope you have accomplished what you set out to do, cause I'm impressed and give them all "three licks and a kiss". Definite high praise. :)I look forward to new ones.
[Wow, Tooelesage. I try hard to be both tasteful and erotic so I really appreciate your kind words. Thanks! --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Wed, 2006-06-21 06:13.
i want erotic hot sexy worderful photo my dear
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2006-06-30 23:13.
I love your suit set! Please invite me please.
[Your invitation's in the mail. Thanks, Suzanne. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2006-08-06 18:20.
Oh my. Must go shower now . . .
[Wow, thanks, H! --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2006-08-13 17:37.
Wow. I particularly like this one.http://www.flickr.com/photos/figleaf/40743014/
invite me please? :)
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sat, 2006-09-02 22:47.
Dude -- did you take this photos of yourself?
Dewd! I so totally beg you to let me have some and make headers of of 'em for the Bitch Lab Rotating Header Menz section! Please please please? I'll make special credits page an' all!
[I do take all my photos myself. You're welcome to add my photos to your men's section. Thanks for offering, Bitch | Lab. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2006-11-28 10:58.
Drop by, perhaps I can interest C. in you. She's looking at alternatives, and you might be her type.
[Thanks, Tom. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2007-04-13 16:55.
WoW! I really love the series where you're in the open blue shirt and the boxers by the window. The hint of what's hidden is so lovely. I would adore to see more! ^.^
[Thanks, Quilzas. I've sent an invitation. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2007-10-23 20:43.
I love your suit set,invite me please!!!
[Invitation's on the way. Thanks for asking, Claudia. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2007-08-13 11:18.
Hi figleaf-- your photos are lovely... I'd certainly appreciate an invite. My flickr id is flyingfish26.
[Done for now. Thanks, L. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Fri, 2007-06-01 13:43.
Add me please?
[Happy to, Tam. Check your email for an invitation from Flickr. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Thu, 2007-05-24 09:27.
I'd dig on an invite :)
[Happy to, Renee. Check your email. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sun, 2007-12-09 20:54.
I enjoy your pictures and would like be added to your list so I can keep looking at them. Thank you very much. I really like your site. Thank you.
[Check your email for an invitation from Flickr, Ria. Thanks for asking. --fl]
fag [Ok, whatever. Thanks,
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Sat, 2007-12-08 11:22.fag
[Ok, whatever. Thanks, Aman. —fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Tue, 2007-11-27 23:48.
Hi, I love the photos I've seen and I would very much like to see more.
Thank you so much!
Elyse
[Your invitation's in the mail, Elyse. Keep your eyes peeled for email from Flicker.com. Thanks for asking. --fl]
Submitted by 351 (not verified) on Mon, 2007-12-03 13:40.
i like the pics
and the concept of this site
your work is interesting, intriguing
I just found your blog, very
Submitted by lady in paris (not verified) on Tue, 2009-12-01 10:53.I just found your blog, very interesting.
But unfortunately I can’t see your pictures, may you send me a flicker invite.
Thanks.
Hi Fig, Love the pictures.
Submitted by Tawny (not verified) on Sat, 2010-01-02 09:23.Hi Fig,
Love the pictures. I’ve been following your blog for over two years now. It’s nice to see tasteful images of “real” men.
You know your way with light and image composition. Were you a photographer in the past?
I’m also intrigued to see what’s behind closed doors. Could I be added to your friends list? I just created a Flickr account.
Best,
T.
[I’ll add you to the list, Tawny. Thanks for your kind words. —fl]
I would love an invitation.
Submitted by Clark (not verified) on Sun, 2010-01-10 17:39.I would love an invitation. I have been reading your site for some time and would like to see more. ;) I also just created a flickr account.
Really tasteful pictures.
Submitted by Dariayarrow (not verified) on Fri, 2010-01-22 08:31.Really tasteful pictures. May I please be invited?
Thank you