Something new to do on rainy days
I've often groused about the distinct imbalance between sex toys for women vs. toys for men. You guys get Pocket Rockets, Rock Chicks, Rabbits with 31 settings, and tempered glass confections that would make Dale Chiluli green with envy. We get penis pumps, Auto Suck, and inflatable sheep.
Usually after I pee I lose my morning erection. I've got a bit of a cold so I stayed in bed after everyone went down for breakfast and the darned thing came back. The funny thing about morning erections is they don't really signify horniness, but since I was just lying there anyway I started exploring it, probing around the base to see what happens after it disappears under the skin of my pubis, pushing it around to see what tendons attach where, flexing my PC muscles when I put it under tension, and just generally appreciating it not as a sex organ or masturbation locus but just for itself.
Don't get me wrong, all that touching felt very nice. Since I was feeling experimental, not really fantasizing about anyone or anything, just playing around, I decided to experiment a little. Usually when I masturbate I just... well... masturbate. This time, though, I reached into the bedside table and experimented with the way different lubricants felt.
One thing that was nice right away was the cool feeling of the first gel I tried. I know it sounds dumb but the chill felt really refreshing on my skin and it was fun feeling it warm in the space between my cock and my hands. I swirled and stroked myself, again not trying to get off but just mapping the sensations to see where things feel best, until the lube had gone... where ever lube goes when it dries out or rubs in or whatever. I grabbed a different type (we had some unused samples) and I really noticed a difference in the texture and, thus, the sensation.
That was pretty cool! Now I want to run out and buy another whole sample pack and see what kind of difference each makes. I know a lot of women use lubricants with their toys and even more rely on their own juices, but I've never heard anyone mention lube as a stimulant in and of itself. But until you correct me I'm going to say I might have found something to compensate for my vibrator envy. There may not be many (any?) effective vibrators for men but last time I checked there were shelves and shelves of lubricants -- specific ones in sex shops, general lotions, creams, and gels in grocery stores. I think I'm going to check a few of them out.
Ok, maybe more than a few. :-)
mmm, oils, creams, exploring the body and sensations. sounds like a right fine way to spend a rainy day. sounds like a right fine time to spend any day.
[Thanks, Bella. It was. --fl]
That sounds absolutely heavenly, Figleaf... and damn hot too...
thank you!
La Minxxxx
[You're welcome, Minx. Thank you. --fl]
You're right on the lack of toys for men. One thing I can suggest would be to maybe hit the fabric store for bits and pieces. It's amazing what a piece of silk vs. a piece of fake fur feels like.
[I might check that out too. Thanks, DN. --fl]
I so agree. I wanted to get husbsand something fun and anughty for Christmas but all the appealing stuff was things for me. Not what I had in mind, a gift from me for me.
As for the gels, I love the stuff, both for me and especailly for husband. We've tried differnt kinds too, it's fun to expirement.
[It might be worth getting him a six-pack to experiment with (separately or together.) Thanks, BRD. --fl]
Lubes are my favorite masturbatory "toy" even raking above my beloved irabbit! I use lube as directed but let me tell you a little rubbed on other parts of the body say the nipples or the waist or belly...WOW slipery, slidey cool then warm! Good messy fun. I'm sure that using lube in this way is also great with a partner though I'm only guessing at this.
[Hmm... Figleaf checks plane fair to... well, wherever the heck you live. :-) Thanks, Gigi. --fl]
Mr. and I lament the toy selection for men. It's really just laughable and mostly dismisses the idea that men are actually sexual beings with some complexity. I know Mr. does just fine and dandy with a quickie sometimes and other times he wants more.
Oh, and the best toy I think I've learned of lately is the dilball. You men out there may like it, too. Use a bit of lube, whatever your lube de jour, and the thing is amazing. It feels just like a tongue.
[Dilball, eh? I'll take a look. Thanks for the tip, and the sympathy, Olympia. --fl]
Sounds like a perfect way to spend a day...
[Well, at least the morning. It really was a luxury. --fl]
A past partner loved the feel of a strand of opera length (42") [of pearls? --fl] wrapped loosely around his cock. If you vary the degree of pressure used as you stroke up or down the sensations are, as I've been told, the next best thing to live pussy. Although not similar, equally satisfying.
One recommendation is the use of glass fake pearls, real pearls are rough on the outside and are not as comfy on the cock, the fakes are very smooth and uniform.
[Very cool suggestion, Mel. Thanks! --fl]
Look at you all rocking the full Monty on us.
Dang, Fig.
I guess we'll just leave your face to our collective imaginations.
Oh, and from what I hear, a hollowed-out slightly microwaved cantelope, large cucumber or other squashy item can be a lovely marital aid for the masculine persuasion.
Plus it's lovely for the skin.
[Yeah, I'm getting a little tired of the faceless look. Not sure what I can really do about it, but it's getting old. Thanks, CG. --fl]
You're right about the lack of toys for men. But the rock chick, which I own, is so disappointing. Maybe I just haven't given it enough of a road test.
Love the pictures, faceless or not!
[Yeah, I get the impression the Rock Chick works wonders for some people but it's evidently more for a certain masturbation style so different strokes and all. (Where was I reading the other day... a recommendation that you only give gift certificates to toy shops rather than trying to pick toys for people? Anyway...) I'll probably get over the headless-horseman phobia, but right now its bugging me. Thanks, Storm. --fl]
I've been trying to comment since yesterday, but I honestly can't think of anything appropriate. I enjoy the posts as much as ever, but can't seem to form an appropriate response.
[That's ok, V. It's nice just to know you're reading and care enough to say something. Thanks. --fl]
Very interesting viewpoint about the disparity in sex toys for Men. I am sad to say I don't really see that ending anytime soon though. I do second the motion to go to the fabric store so many textures and the like.
[Thanks, Mim! I don't see it ending, but then as you and others have suggested, they might not be necesary anyway. --fl]
That's a very tasty photo of you, Figleaf. You're very brave to do that.
[Thanks, Viviane. It was brave but I think it's also as brave as I think I'm gonna get. Ok, I mean, on camera. :-) --fl]