Manscaping vs. beards
Ok, here's a quick question: It seems like about half the women I run into online prefer it if their partners either shave or closely trim their pubic hair. The other half don't -- sometimes vehemently. It also seems like about half the women I run into like their partners to have beards and moustaches and the other half don't. (Ok, ok, not exactly half and half, quite a few don't offer opinions at all, but of those who do it seems to be about half and half.) And then, at least according to the lazer-hair-removal ads that appear to finance the majority of average local alt-weekly papers, there's some concern about chest, abdominal, and back hair.
So!
Bare or trimmed chins: yes or no?
Bare or trimmed pubises: yes or no?
Bare or trimmed anywhere else: yes or no?
(My own preference for a partner, if I had the option to say, would be bare for the particularly lickable bits and whatever nature provides everywhere else. Maybe it's just my hippie roots or maybe it's my old-world sensibilities but I think natural legs and armpits are sexy. Pubic hair is really sexy too but it does sometimes get in the way.)
Anyway, since I haven't shaved my face for the last four days I was away I'm wondering whether I should let it grow or get a Norwegian. :-)
Let it grow. At least for while. Facial can feel so good as it nuzzles against my pussy. Does leave a telltale rash on my chin though....
Regarding your other questions. I don't really mind. I've had lovers who completely shaved their pubis (good for heavy cockrings) and others who were completely natural.
I've recently emerged from an au natural phase myself. I let my pussy hair grow back and I liked the wildness. I shaved the other day and it was a glorious revelation to see my pussy lips pout back at me. I have been otherwise unshaven in my life and will confess to being much lazier about all that in the winter. I once had a partner who liked his ladies completely natural and I went with that for a while.
Mostly I like the change and contrast. Sometimes smooth, sometimes not.
[Doh! Variety is the spice of life (I wonder if that's Shakespeare?) That's an incredibly sensible outlook on the sensuality of body hair, Lena. Thanks! --fl]
Facial Hair: is ok if it is groomed and taken care of. General scruffiness on the other hand seems to result in itchy, scratchy beard burn regardless if its on my neck or somewhere softer...
Pubes: I definitley enjoy a little bit of grooming down here...it makes giving head easier and more enjoyable...not to mention vastly improving the visual stimulation (for me at least)
Elsewhere: Honestly, here I can take it or leave it, I don't really mind. Although sometimes those chest hairs get itchy on my face during cuddle time!
Well, thats my $0.02 I'll definitley be back to read everyon else's!
anna:)
[Great answers. Thanks, Anna. --fl]
Shaved. Trimmed. I don't see how that matters, but I prefer men with less hair then more.
I trim. With a beard trimmer. I may go back to waxing one day, but it's was a mother of a bitch on the pain scale for my sensative skin.
[I'm trying to figure out why, exactly, but it seems especially sexy when you trim it really short instead of just shaving or waxing. Maybe you just seem more naked than if you shave. It's still easy to caress skin but there's also that tickly element. Thanks! --fl]
Fig,
Put me down for preferring cropped but not shaved (at both ends).
The same goes for me (though just at the south end).
Fun question!
[Thanks, Bonnie! --fl]
Face: I love a little fuzz... scratchy or soft. There's just something about running my cheek against his and feeling that little bit of resistence. But a full grown beard or mustache... no, too much. :)
Pubic Area: Trimmed but never shaved... I hate when there is no hair at all. I need something to run my fingers through while I am working down there. :)
Other Areas: Except for the back, I love hair on my guy...within reason. Sometimes there just is too much. A bit of back hair I can live with, but mostly I just find it kind of icky for lack of a better word.
[Yeah, I started getting a little back hair when I hit my late 40's -- I think it's all part of that primate silverback thing we inherited from some common ancestor. Back then it must have looked distinguished or something but now it just looks... unusual. Thanks, JustMe. --fl]
Bare or trimmed chins: doesn't matter to me as long as there isn't any scratchy stubble. My face really doesn't appreciate the rugburn feeling.
Bare or trimmed pubises: I'd prefer a little trimmed, no wild jungle. Don't want to spend most of the BJ time picking hair out of my teeth.
Bare or trimmed anywhere else: ear, nose and back/shoulder hair aren't really my cup of tea (ha ha)
[Thanks, Jen. --fl]
Generally, I like a man's nethers trimmed, unless he has the kind of hair that gets too spiky and pointy when trimmed. And on the face, I like a nice early 90's George Michael scruff.
You gotta have faith-ah faith-ah faith-ah...
And a beard trimmer.
[Or a Miami device which everyone used to talk about but I'm not sure anyone's ever actually seen. Thanks, CG. --fl]
i like it bare or trimmed just about everywhere - especially the pubic area - but even more so the armpits - armpit hair freaks me out - and i find it very sexy to see a man without it.
[Hey FM. I've shaved mine a couple of times, just to see what it's like. I'd much rather shave my pubic hair. More to the point, I can't see how anyone who can shave their armpits can balk at shaving their pubic hair -- it's way more difficult and the skin's *way* more delicate. --fl]
My bf would prefer me completely nekkid down there, I however don't like the look, so I keep a nice playboy pussy down there. As for him, he keeps it wild down there... I would prefer it nicely trimmed or nekkid. As for his face. He has no mustache, but chin hair. I love it. :)
[As a sex blogger I suppose I ought to be embarrassed, but it's been so long since I've seen a Playboy I'm not sure what a playboy pussy looks like! I'm going to guess it means bare labia and more full on the mons? (Sometimes questions are more fun than answers -- I'm enjoying trying to imagine what you mean.) Thanks, Pandora. --fl]
I can't think of pubic hair removal/trimming without imagining the possibility of a major earthquake hitting at just the wrong moment. I know that sounds irrational, but what can I say? We do get earthquakes in SoCal, once in a while.
Anyway, I vote for hairy everywhere.
[Our personal preferences are determined by all sorts of factors, eh? If you ever did want to suprise (shock?) your partner there are always electric razors. Since I used to shave (my face) with an electric while driving to work in rural Tennessee I can solomnly promise you wouldn't get nicked. Not even the most fabled California earthquake shakes you as much as a pickup truck going over pot holes and railroad tracks can. :-) --fl]
Face: I think facial hair looks sexy, but I don't like the way it feels... so I don't know.
Down there: trimmed enough to not be a jungle, but not shaved (that just looks strange)
Other places: Natural is fine. I will admit, though, that I shave off Hub's back hairs because he only has about 5 hairs and it just looks odd.
For myself, I stay closely trimmed down there. I have very sensitive skin and have never been able to shave there without a rash. I think closely trimmed looks nice and makes hygeine easier.
[Thanks, Lily. (If you ever do try to shave again do what I do when I take off a beard: take your time! Don't scrape yourself baby smooth the first day. Give the previously-protected-by-hair skin a little time to adjust.) --fl]
great questions....
as for the facial hair. I have to agree with Chelsea Girl , The George Michael look is hot... I also love the way KeithUrban has a bit of growth.... so sexy!
as for down there... trimmed is nice...have never seen a guy completely shaved, that would just betoo weird.
i love body hair... except for the back. That is just wrong! I love to run my fingers through a man's chest hair.... such a turn on!
[Thanks, Needra. --fl]
How on earth can back hair be "just wrong", if that's how a guy IS?
Jeeez.
I don't get this squickiness about back hair. Men aren't babies. Men are all grown up. Men are hairy. I happen to love them that way.
Here's what's wrong: men feeling that they have to wax and shave themselves babysmooth for the sake of some stupid fashion. It's bad enough that women have to do this.
DTG xxoo
[Actually I'm more sanguine about fashion decisions so I don't object in principle to any kind of hair styling. I agree back hair is no more "wrong" than face, leg, armpit, or pubic hair. I'm less comfortable with rejecting someone for chosing this or that kind of fashion, however, since what's hot this year may be manefestly not the next. Sooner or later there'll be a backlash and they'll start selling Rogaine For Backs and Bikini Lines. (You heard it here first.) --fl]
Gotta say, I love the hair. Chin stubble on bare lips (either ones)drives me crazy. I like hair just about everywhere, but certainly don't object to trimming or shaving the pubic area. The dichotomy isn't as strange as you think it might be.
guess my opinion is what is wrong. sorry.
[Eek! It's fine to have opinions and certainly fine to have preferences, Needra! (I'd prefer not to be developing it myself.) The problem, though, which was sort of the point of my post, is that for every person who doesn't like this, that, or the other thing there's usually someone else who does. Consider all the women who think Alec Baldwin's lawn-mower-able back is too hot for words! And those who absolutely don't. Each is perfectly entitled to his or her opinion and so are you. (Lord knows I've got enough of my own!) Thanks, especially, for responding, Needra. --fl]
Facial Hair: I have a real kink for facial hair (on men) - I love the look, and I adore the feel. Yes please!
Nether regions: I personally don't mind - although I detest shaving stubble. So trimmed or natural, or waxed if you must.
Elsewhere: I like body hair (soft back hair = yum for snuggling into), and I like smooth skin. So keep it as it comes!
Thanks, Dee. --fl]
Needra, my disagreement with you doesn't mean that your opinion is "wrong".
It simply means that I disagree with you, that my opinion differs from yours. Opinions are neither "right" nor "wrong".
That's why we call them opinions, and not facts.
DTG xxoo
I like the look of some facial hair...either a little scruffy "inbetween shaves" look...or a goatee (how that fuck to you spell that?)...but I LOVE the feeling of a freshly shaved cheek pressed against mine...my beau's lips feel softer when he is free of facial hair.
As for the pubic hair...I don't care...maybe if it's a wild bush, trim it up...I'm not crazy about getting it in my teeth or throat...
any where else? I LOVE a trail of hair from the belly button down towards the cock...a little love trail to lead you to the yummy bits...
[Thanks, Julie. --fl]