Two straight men doing anal together

As you know I’m a very straight man. Not the least bit bi-curious. My curiosity was extinguished years ago when I ultimately declined a three-way with the most “pin-up” bodied woman I’ve ever met because she her new boyfriend wanted to have sex with me. It seemed like a good opportunity — not to mention a powerful incentive — to try it if I was interested. So I spent a lot of time thinking about it, trying to gin up excitement about it, and… nothing. So a few days later I thanked them both for the invitation and, confident I really was straight, haven’t really worried about it since.

So yeah, I’m straight. But still, there’s this one guy… I’ve been seeing him on and off for ten years now. I got together with him again, for the third time, this morning.

It’s funny, I couldn’t eat all day yesterday. It’s always like that before we meet. He always asks me to be really clean “back there” so I spend the day fasting and purging. This morning I woke up especially clean.

I went to his place early, about 7:15. There are always women around, they like to help but I think he pays them too. Even though he’s a really nice guy he can be pretty rough so they always check me out to make sure I can take his big tool. (He lets me admire it although the women — usually women though sometimes he has other men with him too — stop me from running my fingers down it’s length.)

And, you know, I hardly ever do drugs but he always insists. “For the pain.” I know he tries to be gentle but, well, he’s got a really, really long tool. Sigh. I always feel so relaxed by the time he’s ready for me.

He really gives it to me too! I remember fading out as he started feeding his tool into me and I wasn’t really myself for almost 45 minutes after he was done.

I was pretty wobbly-legged after, as you might imagine, and way too boggled by the experience to drive. Someone called my partner and she came and picked me up, drove me around, talked to me and asked me how it went, and finally took me out for breakfast at an out of the way little diner down along the industrial waterfront.

She seemed a little subdued and to be honest so was I, but she’s very supportive of my needs and, if you must know, I wouldn’t miss it for the world.

So you’re probably saying “but figleaf, I thought you said you were straight?” Yeah, well, he’d be pretty upset if I didn’t go back to him, and I don’t want to risk my life by avoiding him.

Even though he’s as straight as I am!

Happy Colorectal Cancer Awareness Month!

Colorectal Cancer Blue Star

Things to remember:

  • Colon cancer is the #2 cancer killer
  • Colon cancer is the most preventable form of cancer
  • A colonoscopy isn’t the most fun you can have on a Friday morning, but they’re a very good way to insure a steady supply of Friday mornings in the future.
  • If I hadn’t been checked, almost on a whim (my grandfather had it but it’s not considered heritable), the polyps they removed back then would most likely have become pre-cancerous five years ago and started killing me sometime in the next five years. Instead I’ll be writing salaciously for decades to come.
  • It’s worth the hassle, even worth the uncomfortable jokes with homophobic overtones

Figleaf says check it out, it could save your life too. And do me a favor. If you decide to get checked and it winds up saving your life drop me a line. You’re all important to me and I’d like to know.

Update: Since several people have asked, yes, anyone who wants to cross-link, quote, paraphrase, or outright plagarize parts of this post to help get the word out has my blessing. (I’d prefer credit and/or a link but do what you have to do.) You can see in the comments why this is a big deal.

[Note: For those of you new to my site, whenever you see a “Continue reading…” link in a post you’ll get a usually-not-work-safe image when you click it. There’s one at the bottom of this post.—fl]

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Ha!

That was awesome.

Glad you are being healthy—smart man.

[Thanks, AAG. Oh, I totally forgot. Women need to get checked too! Oh yeah, and while one can get non-invasive tests (usually from a stool sample — yuk) I think they come up negative unless you’ve already got cancer. With a colonoscopy they can find and nip out polyps before they go bad. —fl]

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Bravo on the PSA, Fig. And in such a humorous way too :)

[Thanks, Darkneuro. I’m hoping it’ll get lots of Google hits moving forward. My grandfather was relatively young too — about 60 — when they found he had colon cancer. A friend of his, another doctor, had just died of it so he decided to get checked. They caught it just in time and, though he wound up with a colostomy he lived to nearly 90. And if I hadn’t heard he’d gotten himself checked I wouldn’t have either, and so I’d probably have had colon cancer in my 60s too! It’s an awful way to go so any way I can spread the word… :-) —fl]

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Nice job :)

[Thank you, Astra! —fl]

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Figgie …

You are my hero!

I work very hard in my little berg for Relay for Life and, though you probably know this already, colo-rectal cancer prevention is the “hot” topic for the year.

Thanks for the FABOO message delivered in a way that should inspire your many readers.

Hope your little advernture in anal land turns out fine and dandy!

Pat yourself on the back for a job well done!!!

Warm regards,
Cathy in S.C.

[Goodness! Thank you, Cathy! As for results, well, they nipped out five very small new polyps — ones that now won’t become malignant in 15-20 years. So it’ll be back again in another 5 years but I can (literally) live with that. —fl]

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love the message.
..especially love how the photo goes with the message ;)

[Thanks, M. I bent my rules a bit skipped ahead to get a matching photo. I’ll return to the sequence tomorrow. —fl]

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Thank you Fig!

My Grandfather, great Grandmother and Grandfather all died from colon cancer hence I’ve got my own back door man!

Get checked people!

[Cool, Madame. That means we’ll both be around and flirting shamelessly decades hence. —fl]

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Fantastic post and a great way of putting it out there, Fig!

[Well, he didn’t exactly put it out anywhere. :-) But man I’m glad he put it where he did. Thanks, Enigma. —fl]

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new to your blog..i loved your latest posting, it was hilarious but oh so true!! i can totally relate because i have to be tested every year since i have the gene that predisposes me to this type of cancer. regardless if you are male or female, it is invasive but necessary. i don’t like it (it’s been 3 years since i found out) but it is such a relief each time it comes back clear. thanks for getting the word out through your blog!!!

[Hey Sweetnymph! I think I ran across one of your posts really early on (the “Pains of loving a married man” one, I think) last fall and then lost the bookmark and couldn’t find it again. Glad you dropped by. Anyway, yeah, we spend a lot of time worrying about other kinds of cancers and letting that one (literally) bit us in the ass. Glad you found out. Thanks for dropping by. —fl]

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Good job, babe. Putting such important information out there is a genuinely altruistic public service. And worth any number of dodgy and groan-inducing jokes.

Although i knew. I just knew. Heh.

Nice photo, by the way. Eminently bitable…

[Thanks for the kind words, Minx. I appreciate it. —fl]

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You are a marvel!!

If you don’t mind I would like to link this post as a way of getting the word out.

[I don’t mind at all, Boo. In fact please do. —fl]

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Figleaf:

This has to be one of your best! Thank you!

And yes, next time I will definitely ask for drugs. When I had a sigmoidoscopy (which examines the lower intestine and is therefore not as effective as a colonoscopy), it was performed without drugs. Most people will experience mild discomfort, but in my case the pain was so bad I started losing consciousness. I told the doctor if he ever tried that again I was reporting him to Amnesty International. So yes, colonoscopy with drugs on the side is the way to go.

[My first checkup involved an in-clinic sigmoidoscopy and I don’t remember that hurting at all. I’m sorry yours was so painful. By the way, when I went in that time — on a routine my-insurance-is-running-out full-tilt physical the doc said “you’re really too young to worry about it but as long as you’re here, roll over…” and then he said “forget everything I just said” and recommended a colonoscopy. Thanks, Kochanie. —fl]

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Well Done! I read to the third paragraph, a little slow, before I realized what you were talking about! I haven’t had this done yet but am going to ask the Doc this year. I work in the medical industry and see the “equipment” or “long tools” all the time, can’t imagine all that… Again, Well Done!

[Thanks, Runr. —fl]

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excellent pic to go with this post… :)

and good for you…for getting your check ups when its time for them…

peace…

[Thanks, Monkey. —fl]

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About 6 years ago I was suffering from some stomach thing and my doc sent me for a sigmoidoscopy. When I walked into the gastro’s office he looked at me and said, “You’re 30 years old…what are you doing here.” An hour or so later, I heard him on the phone with my doc telling her that it was a good thing she sent me in. The next day I had the full monty…and he removed 2 polyps…one of which was precancerous (and really had nothing to do with my stomach problems because those continue and are probably stress related).

So, like you, Figleaf, had I not gotten that exam, the polyp would have most likely become cancer.

Now I have to go every 3 years…no big whoop…you get good IV drugs for the procedure and a really good colon cleansing.

[Wow, you were even younger than I was. Glad your doctor caught it. Thanks, Heidi. —fl]

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Wow! You are such an amazing man.
I was a little worried as I was reading the second paragraph jijiji but then I realized what you where writing about.

Thank you for being such a great human being you are an example to all of us.

No wonder you are my internet crush.

[Thanks, Anastasia. One of the interesting things about being a sex blogger is you can get your message across in a whole ‘nother way. :-) —fl]

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Great googly-moogly. I was shocked there for just a minute….

[As long as you weren’t bored before you got to the end, Kari. :-) Thanks. —fl]

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LOL. I may have to do a similar write up about pelvic exams and mammograms!! too funny! well done!

[Go for it, Lime. Thanks. —fl]

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Bravo!! I am impressed with your advocacy for your own health.

This is one test that takes a TON of sweet talking to get any man to do. The future of medicine is in preventative care. We have advanced in so many ways. So, those who go BEFORE it’s too late are the real winners in the treatment arena.

I’d much rather be reading your blog than visiting with you in the med/surg floor of any hospital.

Thanks for sharing your experience and I loved the word play of it all.

[Thanks, SN. If you’ve treated people with colon cancer then you know better than most what’s at stake and how easily it could all be avoided. —fl]

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That was fantastic, figleaf!

Someone very close to me was just diagnosed with colorectal cancer, and sadly his has metastasized and spread to his liver. It’s all so sad for me, and I thank you for spreading the message of just how important awareness is.

[Yeah, I’m in a weekly seminar with a woman, quite young, who’s husband is going to die of colon cancer pretty soon. I’m guessing he was probably younger (though maybe just younger) than the typical age you begin getting screened, but you gotta wonder how many people have put it off because of the inconvenience and the perceived (but unjustified) humiliation and/or homophobic implications? Thanks, SD. —fl]

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What a great and interesting way to raise awareness. You had me going, I’ll tell you that much. Okay, I was totally wrapped up in it thinking I was reading about guy on guy action. lol Which it was “guy on guy” and “action” was involved.

Well done, Fig. My hat is off to you.

[Thank you, TC. —fl]

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LOL. Great post. :) I’m posting a link from my blog because it quite literally made me laugh out loud, and had a great message. ;)

[Great. I wanted people to wonder what the heck was up, then laugh, then get the message. Thanks TASB. —fl]

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Good boy Fig!
I figured out that it was a doctor (when you mentioned the drugs), but I still enjoyed your little ruse ^_~

Hurray for good health!

[Yeah, even trying to make it sound kind of dungeony I couldn’t really keep the cover going and still be accurate. Glad you enjoyed it. Thanks, Shay. —fl]

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Hey,
I’ve posted something about men, patriarchy, masculinity and revolution that I’m curious to see your reaction to. Don’t want to leave all the “fun” for the male bloggers who insist on keeping their clothes on. ;)

[Hey, Darkdaughta. I’m all in love with your post about men being robbed and/or robbing themselves of fathering and your good point that “single mother” might mean tough times and she might be able to use a little help but doesn’t automatically make her victim who needs to be “uplifted.” There must be something in the air, you know, because I’m right in the middle of a post about stereotypes about men and women, mothers and fathers, and who owns contraception. I don’t know if I can but I want to fit in a link to your post because a lot of the same things matter to you. Thanks! —fl]

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Ugh. Colon cancer runs on my Dad’s side of the family and I keep “forgetting” to schedule my colonscopy.

Alright.. alright, I’ll do it.

[It ain’t that bad, A. It’s definitely better than dying before your grandchildren are old enough to remember you before you started dying. Thanks. —fl]

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I must say I was a little disappointed :-( I think of myself as straight, but still somehow I get aroused by men´s dicks. Since I am anal anyway it just fits very well, and I could see myself engaging in gay sex if the situation was right.
A wonderful story to me would have been if you did find that guy that got your imagination going, and had him give you his tool :-) To me that would´ve not made you gay or bisexual, just in tune with sexuality. The difference to me is whether you could picture yourself being in love with someone of your own sex, and to me that´s a definite no. I just love all kinds of sexuality.

[The really important question is whether you’re going to get screened for colon cancer or whether you put it off like too many other men and women who are gay, straight, or in between… and dead of something so easily prevented. Thanks Marco. —fl]

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