Evolution: the natural history of sex blogging
Back in March bad influence girl wrote a simply brilliant post about the way many sex blogs evolve.
there is something about writing a sex blog that seems almost inevitable. this long, slow slide from hot smut into sexual introspection.
at first you are filled with erotic tales of wonder and sex. this applies especially (i suspect) to people who aren’t getting any but probably applies to everyone to some extent or another.
you tell your stories and you get out your fantasies, not all of them but a few favourites and then the thinking starts. the thinking because someone says that you write about something a lot or because you notice that you attract a lot of a certain kind of reader.
you post a little about your life and you tell stories and you start a ton of stories and then you look up and it’s six months later and your blog is changing.
not everyone’s of course, dirty little girl (of dirty little mind) and dirty boy still write fantastic smut and not much about their real lives at all.
others like anastasia (of sexualite) have fantastic and horny archives and are evolving into people who talk about sex in a more anthropological way… and i can feel that happening to me.
Golly, I've been meaning to write this up for so long. It's been stashed away, flagged for future reference in my RSS reader for nearly two months and between family vacations, leaving my old job, relocating this blog to a new server, troglodyte-friendly national news, and my recent relentless parade of dour grumblings it had become buried under nearly 1600 unread posts. Until today.
I couldn't have uncovered it at a better time! Compared to my early days I've wandered far afield of my original mix of tips, techniques, fantasies, flirtations, memoirs, and moralizing. Mostly it seems I've just been moralizing. (As a member of the first generation since the 1800s not to produce at least one minister or lay preacher in the family I'm sort of inclined that way.) Moralizing and punditry is all well and good but to a reader it's also got to get a little boring.
If you've been bored, my apologies. If you've *not* been bored don't worry -- one can hardly think about sex for long without the intrusion of society and politics. Either way, though, it's time I wrenched myself out of my rut and...
...slip into something a little more comfortable.
Hats off to Bad Influence Girl for providing me with, um, well, some positive influence. :-)
Something more comfortable.
So long as your words make me feel something and think something I will not be bored.
Bored is when there is no response at all.
I so do love your fine legs.
[Thank you, Adela. I really appreciate your words of encouragement. --fl]
Evolution is an important process, as it is in life (biological), so it is in writing, and every step that charts sexual thought/discussion sums up evolution (as opposed to regression or stagnation), and you're far from the other two, for you keep your finger on the pulse of many sexual discussions/issues/subjects.
[Thanks so much, Anastasia! --fl]
I am never bored by your blog and often hope for more comments than are actually made because I like those as well. Also, moralising is fine, it helps others to question their own attitudes. Please, just keep on evolving at your own pace. Thank you for being you!!
[I don't mind the evolution part at all, nor the moralizing either. I just find I fall into these sort of ruts where one post follows another and I wind up skipping over all the wonderfully juicy elements of sex. Thanks for your encouraging words, Avalon. --fl]
you want to find yourself skipping over all the wonders of sex i personally recommend a series of bladder infections *g*
i think the horny might be coming back at last so it will be interesting to see how evolution intersects.
also? you called me brilliant!
*preen*
[Aii aii aii! I've managed to have a couple of UTIs and yeah, they can totally, um, repurpose your sex drive. And yeah, you're a great bad influence. Preen away. Thanks, BIG. --fl]