Posted by figleaf
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Sat, 2008-02-02 12:05
One of the downsides of giving up on the daft “no-sex” class paradigm is having to give up… oh… say… 99.999% of all romantic songs, poems, and literature as… um… incomplete.
One of the upsides of giving it up, of admitting that not only are women not passive recipients but perfectly able to want sex because they want sex and not something else, of admitting that all men aren’t always enthusiastically and automatically ready for it… is…
...is not just recognizing how often you seduce us,
...but admitting how hot it is when you do
Submitted by 1909 (not verified) on Sat, 2008-02-02 18:05.
"how hot it is when you do"
Too right! Being desired is a great feeling, being chosen by someone else and approached, is a great feeling. It's totally different from when we make the first move, and maybe I can understand why women might want to keep things as they are, because this way around, you're the ones who always get that buzz!
But, you know, sometimes it feels great to loft one up there and see the long pass hauled in for a score (huh - it's Superbowl week, please excuse the NFL allegory!) instead of an interception or incomplete attempt (humiliating scorn, or just totally blanked, which are the usual outcome of a man's attempt to make a connection in a social situation).
All I know is, the two best relationships I've had came when she approached me first.
Submitted by 1909 (not verified) on Sat, 2008-02-02 20:37.
"One of the downsides of giving up on the daft "no-sex" class paradigm is having to give up... oh... say... 99.999% of all romantic songs, poems, and literature as... um... incomplete."
Yep. That's the dead giveaway that it's the dominant paradigm, even when it doesn't manifest in its full-blown form. The shift from "proper women have no interest in sex" to "women like sex, but don't need it" is a minuscule adjustment in focus, an adaptation that enables the paradigm's survival rather than a real change.
Sunflower