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You know, I could say a lot about positions and stuff, but right now, I’m just too distracted by wondering how the hell you find all the time to write so many blog posts in such rapid succession?!? You’re like the Bloggergizer Bunny.

[No idea where they come from, Elizavetta, but I appear to type very quickly. That and, obviously, I have no impulse to proofread! :-( —fl]

Elizavetta, I nearly made a comment about figleaf’s recent copious postings on his “Because men wouln’t use it” post (probably about three pages back by now :) ) when he used a photo of Ritalin capsules as illustration:)

And this post I got held up at the “knees locked behind the small of my back, mmm”. Really? You know some very tall people figleaf.

[Well, they weren’t my Ritalin capsules… but I have often wondered…! :) And while I knew what I meant when I said “knees locked” I clearly didn’t actually say it. There’s this cool sort of urgent/closeness/indescribability I get when a partner sort of… clasps me with her knees and thighs somewhere between my waist and my ribs… and I… I… mmm, what was I talking about anyway? :) —fl]

I always wanted to try vaginal rear-entry, but when I’ve tried, there’s always seemed to be a little bit of difficulty in getting the heights right – either her thighs or mine always seemed to be too short to make the genitalia meet up, and shuffling around to get them to match up ended up being too comical!

Anal – well, only done it once, but it was incredibly intense and there was no problem communicating; it was me on top, her pinned face-down on the floor (and loving every minute of it, too).

I suppose it’s hard for me to describe a favourite position, because the actual in-and-out part only forms about 10% of a sexual encounter for me (the rest being involved with tying up, tormenting, spanking and all the other BDSM things my partner and I enjoy).

[Thing about rear-entry that I think a lot of people don’t get is that you don’t have to both be kneeling, and if you happen to be then you don’t have to both be kneeling at the same angles. But really for me anyway the nice things to be said about the position aren’t about one specific position — spooning side-by-side is nice and rear-entry man-on-the-bottom can be amazingly sensual since, for some reason, it’s always seemed easier to kiss that way than man-on-top. Thanks, SE. —fl]

Elizavetta— heh. I just got back from a hiking vacation with a friend. Husband says he wants me to do that lots more often because there was a measurable difference in thigh strength.

I’ve never been flexible enough to lock my knees at the small of your back, but I’m perfectly capable, still, of hooking my ankles around each other, and, yes, the small of your back is just about where they’d be.

All regrettably hypothetical, alas, but I do enjoy the teases you give us from time to time, and the way you include your own distraction from what you’re posting.

The most recent news about g-spots (I read it just the other day, but I don’t recall where) is that apparently some women have one and some don’t. This has always been a conundrum for me, because I certainly do get vaginal orgasms, as a pretty normal thing (call me a gender traitor, call me a liar, arrest me for heresy – but nevertheless, I’m still moved), but have never, from any sort of stimulation, experienced what g-spot stimulation is reputed to be.

If you’re correct about rear-entry getting just the right bits in mutual stimulation, though, that would resolve the conundrum. Rear-entry is especially (though by no means exclusively) effective for me for orgasm; they tend to be (how to describe it?) solider somehow, and especially satisfying.

I thus conclude that I have one; it’s just that g-spot orgasm isn’t nectar and ambrosia and angels with harps, it’s rare roast beef and blues.

Sunflower

[Hey Sunflower. I think the biggest flickin’ problem with every “new” discovery in sex — especially but not exclusively about sex and women — is that something someone can do turns into something everybody ought be able to do and, in fact, perhaps must be able to do. It’s especially a problem in the face of the original “g-spot” authors’ strongly-stated belief that people shouldn’t get obsessive-compulsive about g-spot orgasms because a) there’s no “right” answer or “best” way to have an orgasm anyway and b) “the search for the best drives out the good.” So anyway, it’s cool that whatever works for you works for you. —fl]

I must say, I do adore anal from a rear-entry position (or, well, about anything else, but still). It lets me relax more, I think. The position makes me feel submissive and open to being used.. and just fall into the bliss of what is happening. He’s friggin’ railed my bum from rear-entry and it was phenomenal (and yes, I got really nicely warmed up first and there was plenty of lube).

We’ve had times where I really couldn’t decide which felt better – bum or cunny. They both felt so AMAZING in the session that I’m happening to recall.

The only thing I don’t like about the rear-entry position is that I can’t watch his face and we can’t smooch. But perhaps the lack of these distractions, as lovely as they are, lets me bliss out more since all I can really do is focus on the sensations. A happy frustration.

The position you first mention I haven’t done in years, and with a different partner. Makes me curious to try it again. That partner seemed to love it, but I always thought it odd. But with my current boy-toy, we’ve not gotten to that one.