Technical Lap-Dancing Question
Just a quick follow up question on my post about grinding/frottage/kit-riffing/"dry-humping" from a week or so ago.
You'll recall I'm interested in promoting ways couples can have hot, full-body, generally orgasmic sex together *without* skin-to-skin/penetrative contact. I won't go all the details yet (besides the fact that I think grinding through clothes is incredibly hot) because I'm still in the early stages.
But I did have a question for people who might be familiar with lap dancing in strip clubs. I know that male customers often seek out lap dances because they can have orgasms when a dancer rubs herself against them. So that part I get.
What I have no idea about, though, is whether or how easily women can have orgasms by "lap dancing" a partner.
It's not necessarily the end of the world if the answer is no, it's not as nice for the dancer as the, um, dancee. Because at least in my experience the roles are reversed with the classic on-the-couch grinding where my partners have generally had no problem with orgasms but I find it almost impossible.
Anyway if you've got clues I've got cluelessness, so thanks in advance.
Definitely yes. Because it puts a lot of diffuse pressure on the clit area, a close and grindy lap dance in thin clothes can get some women off better than intercourse. I doubt it happens much in strip clubs (I don't have any experience there), but between private partners, hell yes.
[Oh yeah, I've noticed it has that effect in general (lying down, oh boy have I notice?) And I thought maybe the way it engages leg muscles would help to be standing or straddling a partner. I just *really* don't want to make any assumptions. Thanks for the emphatic answer, Holly. --fl]
Yup. What Holly said.
God. I need a good lap dancing. :)
[I know exactly what you mean, Marianne. Intercourse is all well and good (really!) but my there's more to sex than that! Thanks. --fl]
Years ago, when I was experimenting with my first serious girlfriend, she could orgasm through clothes-on rubbing/dry humping. I don't think I ever did.
I'm sure the dynamic is typically different for pros. I'd bet it's usually not a very sexualized activity for them.
[Hi John. It wouldn't necessarily matter if one way works better for men and another for women -- regular intercourse is almost always like that anyway. I was just wondering if the "lap dance" method, which seems to work for a lot of men, would work for both parties. And yes, no doubt what one does at work is going to be different than what one might do with a chosen partner. Thanks. --fl]
It didn't work for me personally, but after the dances I got on my first strip club trip, I would not be surprised if a woman could orgasm from a lap dance. The dancer just has to be skilled is all.
[Yeah, it's no problem if you have to practice to get there -- for either men or women for that matter. (In fact having to practice, especially practicing together, might be as much of a feature as a bug.) Thanks, Watergirl. --fl]
I don't know, but it sure sounds hot. I can has lapdanse plz?
[I'd give one if I could, Larus. Thanks! --fl]
I haven't tried facing away from my partner.. but now I may have to.
But yes, we can and do. :)
[Wonderful to know, Anndi. It doesn't matter which way you face (I actually don't know how they do it in strip clubs) as long as it works for either or, preferably, both of you. Thanks! --fl]
When I lived at home, this was the only way my boyfriend and I could really fool around when my parents were home, and I have to say, it was pretty effective. :-p I'm in college now, but even in the privacy of my dorm room, grinding against my pussy with his knee, even through clothes, has been a staple of foreplay, especially when he wants to tease me. Which he usually does.