10. Bite or Suck

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Still following up on the twenty questions I found at Amorous Rocker of Not Your Average Chick that I decided to answer one at a time instead of all in a rush. So...

10. Bite or Suck:

Usually when someone says "bite me" they're being... well, non-gender specific, maybe but still not exactly polite. On the other hand they also say "you suck" so I guess that's a wash. Which is sort of a nuisance since both can feel wonderful under the right circumstances.

When I was very young and learning about sex from a variety of pre-1960 and therefore not terribly helpful medical, anthropological, and psychological texts (with the occasional almost-a-stroke-book pseudo-academic works thrown in) I learned the following about the Kama Sutra: "The book contains five chapters about what we'd consider "normal" foreplay and sixteen chapters about biting, scratching, and slapping one's partners for erotic effect." And yes, I'm sure I have the exact numbers wrong but not the approximate proportions. It didn't sound very tempting** and so I generally left off all that.

My loss, as I've learned since beginning to read other anonymous and then not as anonymous bloggers of kink.

Still, given a choice between the two I'd choose suck. And lick. And kiss. And mouth. And breathe warm breath across spots tender and mild. The latter, by the way, seems to work as well on recently spanked, bitten, or scratched spots as not... but not in my case if I'd agreed to pick only one. :-)

And again that's given *my* choice of one. A choice I'd rather not make.

I haven't been bitten much but if it's not oversharing once you arouse me to a certain point I adore having my nipples bitten. But then at that point I adore having them sucked as well. You hear every now and then people praising little nips during fellatio. My experience has been that it's... not so great. The side of my neck works well and so does the very top inside of my thighs. And while I've really enjoyed being bitten on the arms and shoulders it wasn't the sensation itself but the shared level of emotion, combined with a willingness to sacrifice a little comfort in the interest of not alerting parents.

Sucking though? I love, love, love fingers and toes. When I suck yours. When you suck mine. Not hard so much as warmly, wetly, and deepy... mmm, that's lovely almost any time. Earlobes? Yours or mine it's also wonderful. The inside of arms, yes, and all up and down the throat and shoulders and neck, too.

Breasts? I actually don't go in so much for sucking, or at least not the classic baby-nursing style though it's a lot of fun to slurp as much of your nipples and breasts as I can with a gentle suction and then swirling my tongue around and around. And around. But I love licking breasts even without suction at least as much. I don't know about you but I've noticed most people I've tried it with go deeper into haze when I kiss, or lick, or stroke the curves of the breast just below and to the outside rather than right over nipples. And, as I mentioned above, there's blowing gently over wet flesh first to chill it and then re-warm it again with hands or lips or tongue.

And speaking of lips and tongue, does anyone else enjoy licking and sucking their partner's lips during kissing? Gently biting there works wonders too, or would if not for that darn choice. It's always the lower lip that gets the mention for sucking but I've noticed the inside of most people's upper lip is a marvelous erogenous zone for that.

And of course there's all the different non-bite-y things one can do during cunnilingus. I used to think that eating a partner was end-of-the-world, I-could-die-happy paradise, and while I've gotten over that a *little* in the sense that I'm no longer outright fetishistic about it I still... mmm... what was I saying? Oh yeah, something I've wound up doing especially during side-by-side (as opposed to top or bottom) sixty-nine, you know, where you're each pillowing the other's head on your thigh, is gently slurping... ok I mean *sucking* an inner labia deep into my mouth and then swirling the flat of my tongue across the inner surface. Like maybe a lot of people I can get pretty distracted during sixty-nine but doing that doesn't take a lot of concentration. The only risk is that it tends to really distract the other person.

As for me? Well, fellatio tends to work in waves for me (I think this is true for a lot of people during oral, men and women) so one minute every nerve ending is on fire and a minute later I feel almost numb... although fortunately after another minute it's back to... where was I again? Anyway, when I'm cycled down it's wonderful when you pop me out of your mouth and tongue or slurp on the large, loose, soft vein along the side. You're not going exactly lose my attention no matter what but that's definitely going to keep it till my tide comes in again.

Anyway, I'm not going to say of biting that I could take it or leave it -- there are too many nice ways to do it to give it up completely. But sucking? I'll take that in a heartbeat. And give it just as quickly. Any time.

How about you?