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6. Dominate or Be Dominated

Fri, 2008-06-20 00:39 — figleaf

Still following up on the twenty questions I found at Amorous Rocker of Not Your Average Chick that I decided to answer one at a time instead of all in a rush. So…

6. Dominate or Be Dominated:

Sorry, dominate. Or top. Or whatever you want to call it. In social situations I’m a bit wordy (duh, you think?) but otherwise I can evidently be frustratingly deferential. During sex the deference translates to something more like cue-reading or attentiveness but otherwise if I’m sure you’re not just consenting but enthusiastic then I’m highly liable to lift you, hold you, turn you, undress you, kiss you, lick you, and just generally do whatever I can think of to melt you till there’s nothing left but a smile.

If I know you’re into it (it’s been a very long time since I’d feel comfortable just having sex with someone without first exchanging enough ideas, fantasies, interests, and concerns) I’m purringly content to be even more dominant.

I really enjoy taking turns though, not so much submitting for a whole session but switching back and forth is great, matching and riffing off each other’s fancies. And wow have I learned a lot of cool stuff, and enjoyed some genuinely transporting sensations that way! But if you’re inclined to relax my inclination is still to retake the initiative.

In other words, if you don’t mind I’d rather dominate. :-)

Fri, 2008-06-20 09:54 — 2250 (not verified) #permalink

Please do!

[It’s very tempting, Bunny. —fl]

Fri, 2008-06-20 12:33 — 2250 (not verified) #permalink

very good reasoning. I’m a bit of a switch too. It’s fun, let me tell you (not that I seemingly need to)

[No need, Athena. It is fun! Thanks. —fl]

Fri, 2008-06-20 14:38 — 2250 (not verified) #permalink

I read this on the morning and I just didn’t have anything to say about it. Now, during the day, a friend emailed me a picture of us dancing on a party. I’m swimming on unknown waters here because I never talked about dancing in english, I just don’t know the lingo. I guess the closest way to describe is ballroom samba (not competition). Now, I had a short dancing formal education. Mostly belly dance, which you do by yourself mostly, but a little samba, salsa and other styles where you need to dance with someone else. And I have a huge problem with following the lead. I know one of the partners has to conduct, and traditionally it’s the man who leads, but if the guy doesn’t dance well, i tend to go at my own pace and things derail. When I get to dance with someone who knows what he’s doing, though… And you just know when a guy dances well, even before he starts. It’s on the posture he keeps, the way he holds your hand and puts his on your waist. He pulls you against his body in a way that only the masters know how. When a man knows what he’s doing, I have absolutely no problem with surrendering completely and just going on with the flow, know what I mean?

[Right! “Dominance” isn’t about being, well, domineering although sometimes that’s fun too. Thanks, CB. Also your English seems fine. —fl]

Sat, 2008-06-21 16:01 — 2250 (not verified) #permalink

I’m into it. Dominate away. Please.

[Always good to know. Academically, of course. :-) Thank you, Biscuit. —fl]

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