12. Dirty Talking or Dirty Talking To
Still following up on the twenty questions I found at Amorous Rocker of Not Your Average Chick that I decided to answer one at a time instead of all in a rush. So...
12. Dirty Talking or Dirty Talking To:
This is probably going to be short. And maybe even sweet. I can write dirty words, and certainly *think* dirty thoughts. I can even *role-play* talking dirty if I have a little time to think about it. Although I tend to prefer innuendo to the actual seven dirty words. And of course there's all the things two or more people can say when they're flirting.
But past that? Pretty much by the time you have your hand have moved anywhere on my body but my shoulders I just have a *very* difficult time forming complete words. Let alone complete sentences.
It's not that I become clumsy any other way. Quite the opposite really. It's that the more physical I become the more my ability to express myself migrates from centers of speech into my body -- my hands especially but my arms and legs, my mouth, my torso and cock.
I still have ears, though, and so if *you* can still talk dirty I'm likely to respond *very* enthusiastically.
Update: Outside the scope of the question I'm just as enthusiastic about soft sighs or sharp intakes of breath.
I agree. I much prefer to have the husband do the dirty talking. In fact, I'd really, really like for him to do it more often, but alas, he's one of those quiet types and I have to specifically and repeatedly request it if that's what I want.
But sometimes, half the fun is telling him what I want to do to/with him and watching his reaction. And then doing it.
[Half the fun *is* in letting each other know what you want. If it was me, though, I'd usually disappoint you too. Except early on when I could still make coherent sounds. (Then, by the way, I actually *can* be pretty creative... although even then I don't actually use the seven sinful words as much as I strongly hint at something (depending on the circumstances) deeper, darker, or more delightful. Thanks, ks. --fl]
I don't know. Too much talking and I feel like I'm narrating my own scene. I like expressing myself and I like my partner to do so as well, but specifically so-called dirty talk is much more of a turn off. I've actually had to stop sex when my partner told me, in the heat of passion, that he wanted "to fuck me". Bleeech. The rest of the obscenities are just kind of distracting and remind me more of a patient with tourrette's syndrome than a lover.
I don't get off on being verbally degraded in play---being called a whore in bed is like an extremely cold shower. Fortunately I'm pretty clear about that with all of my partners, and so it hasn't been too much of a problem.
[I totally get that some people get off on insults and aspersions -- especially maybe folks who really were raised to be "good boys" or "good girls" and so they feel like such language helps them break out of that. But yeah, I didn't have that kind of upbringing so it doesn't resonate for me. And then, of course, there's my little problem of anything I try to say past a certain point coming out sounding in murmurs and sighs. Thanks, Valentina. --fl]