Orientation and Ass Play

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Heather Corinna, who's got a new weekly column at RHRealityCheck.org effortlessly clarifies at least three misconceptions in response to a young man's question

novastar asks:

"I'm not gay, but I like my butt and anus played with. Can someone tell me why?"

Heather replies:
I sure can, and I'm glad you asked.

Know what? Some gay men do NOT like having any sort of anal sex. Enjoyment of anal sex does not define or determine homosexuality, and lack of enjoyment of anal sex does not define or determine heterosexuality. So, a guy can be gay and yet not be all that interested in or even enjoy anal play. You can also be gay without engaging in anal sex: being gay is about being attracted to the same-sex, not about having a certain kind of sex, so even a gay guy who never has sex with anyone is still gay, just like a hetero person who has never had sex can still know they're heterosexual and be heterosexual. A guy can be straight and enjoy anal sex great big bunches: if you only desire anal play with men, then we're dealing with an orientation issue, but if you desire and enjoy anal play full-stop, it's just not about sexual orientation. Men of all orientations may or may not enjoy sexual anal stimulation, and the same goes for women of all stripes.
She says all that and more here.

Funny when you think about it, really. I mean even going by the most generous percentages for LGBT populations there are *substantially* more straight people into anal play than LGBT people, or, dialing in closer, substantially more straight men into it than gay men.

Which raises an interesting corollary: Sadly for the "ex-gay" conversion community even though there are more straight people like it than gay, not only doesn't ass play make you gay, it won't make you straight either!