Be Careful About Letting the Search for the Best Drive Out the Good
Interesting sex-related question at Manic Monday today
Which would you prefer and why? To have every stoplight turn green upon your arrival for the rest of your life or to have one week of the best sex any person ever had?
I read the question at Biscuit, who raises a perfectly sensible (and possibly ominous) concern
A week of mind-blowing sex. Very tempting, but what about the rest of your sex life afterward? Would it pale in comparison and leave you wanting?
Assuming all else would be equal I'd take the green lights.
Regular sex is already pretty nice, and in my experience "mind blowing" sex, while also nice, is sort of overrated. I mean who in his or her right mind says "oh darn it, that last orgasm sucked because it wasn't the best ever" and/or "my partner's last orgasm sucked because it wasn't her/his best ever?"
Anyway, I'd settle for the same old perfectly enjoyable sex for the rest of my life... using some of the time I saved not waiting in traffic! :-)
Note: I'm very much *not* a subscriber to bumper-sticker slogans along the lines of "the worst day X is better than the best day Y." In particular I don't believe "there's no such thing as a bad blowjob/cunnilingus" or *especially* the daft idea that "bad sex is still better than no sex." Since todays' meme isn't about *bad* sex I just don't see any of those slogans applying here.
The more thought I've given it, the more I realize how negative such a week could be for me. The fact is, I am a HIGHLY nostalgic person. I spend a lot of time with an ache in my stomach wishing a certain thing could go back to "the way it used to be when..." What I really need to do is live in the moment and enjoy everything for exactly what it is.
[Nicely put, Biscuit. Thanks. --fl]
Mmmm. I started mulling over possible responses to this, and it turned into a post. I don't think I could ever say no to a profound new experience, assuming my choice wouldn't hurt anyone else. So unless you can convince me that those green lights are going to tilt my life on its axis, the answer has got to be the week of sex. (Now where do I sign up for it?)
And figleaf, I cannot believe you'd take the green lights!!!! I'm wondering if the Seattle temperatures need to dip a bit cooler yet. :-)
[Hey, I didn't say green lights over plain old ordinary, creative, mutually-satisfying *good* sex, I said over *mind-blowing* sex. And while this is not at all whining, on the occasions I've had real, actual mind-blowing sex I... sort of only... remember enjoying it but... not exactly what happened. :-) Which is only to be expected from being mind-blown I guess. Also even though I don't drive that much anymore traffic congestion is a perennial issue here in the Greater Seattle Megalopolis so... I'm not at all saying that should be anyone else's choice, just that *if* I could choose, and *had* to choose, I'd choose green lights -- and *memorable* sex. :-) Thanks, Sungold. --fl]
Well, at this point in my life, I'd take the sex, no question.
First, the stoplights: mostly irrelevant. I do not drive a car. I have not even ridden in someone else's car for years. When I travel long distances, I use the local light-rail train, which is immune to stoplights. When I travel at least part of the way by foot, the time stopping before crossing the streets is usually trivial compared to the time spent walking as a whole. While this situation may not be the same forever, it's hard to imagine wanting to take this option over virtually anything else.
The sex... now if you consider it to be a once-a-day thing, then I have not even had one week of it in my entire life. And I don't think I've even experienced good sex yet. That's probably because casual flings with strangers really isn't my thing, but I never seem to have time for real relationships. And even if no sex could compare ever again? What I want most out of life is new experiences. Once I've done that, it would no longer be a new experience, and there are plenty of other things I haven't done yet. So I'm not seeing any drawback there.
So... no real benefit versus total win-win? Ask me a harder one.
[I totally approve of your choice then, Nightfall. The good news, of course, is that it's not really an either/or choice. So even if you don't do traffic lights all that often I hope you eventually get *both* choices. Thanks! --fl]