Bitchy Jones, by way of acknowledging May and Eileen’s Male Submission Art sums it up very nicely.

Femdom is a depressing place, but is there anything quite as depressing as the way that submissive men are continually represented as unattractive, unmanly and unfuckable? The sheer jaw droppingness of the fact that within femdom no attention is given to appealing to straight women’s sexuality at all, is the simple and single reason why there are so few dominant identified straight women.(Name one. Okay, that’s me. Name another.)

The fact that women are meant to be lured into this sexual world by the promise of diamond necklaces rather than hot prospects on their knees is shameful, disgusting (in it’s contempt for active female desire) and utterly fucking stupid. Wonder why het femdom isn’t working? Because no aspect of it is enticing to straight dominant women. You’d have thought submissive men (like every other male species ever) would have worked out that being attractive and therefore attracting potential female mates might be slightly a good idea for there to be functional relationships happening around here. But that idea? That men should be appealing sexually to women? That women should have specific desires (beyond ‘being kinky’ and acquiring necklaces)? Apparently, completely fucking radical within femdom.

She said it here.

Me not being a submissive male you’d think it ought to be none of my business. But even if you weren’t interested in breaking gender constructions, male, female, and all the rest, out of their narrow little packages, and even if you didn’t care that, as BJ so nicely puts it, the current model there’s still empathy: what if the shoe was on the other foot.

(Aside: You’d think this would be a total non-stretch no-brainer for MRAs since, to a man, they behave as if the same diamond-necklace-but-no-sexual-satisfaction is their inevitable lot in life. And yet… nothing. It would probably be more of a scandal if she was getting more support other quarters.)