Well this is cool! Cheri of Secret Lovers Lane seems to be saying from experience what I was trying to say earlier mostly from inference.
Today I am working, cleaning and thinking. Maybe too much thinking….my body had a physical meltdown from all the stress and I am trying to relax a little. Slow down just a bit and soak in my life. Funny, how an affair can be better for your marriage. When a rendezvous ends, I manage to think about my life and the first thing I think about is WHY AM I MARRIED? You would think I would be thinking of divorce when I am having a hot affair but its the opposite for me. I am content at that time. How ironic that I think divorce when I end an affair. So, you see the moral of the story: Affairs can be good for a marriage or at least the dysfunctonal ones!!!
This being, what, the fourth or fifth post along these lines I should probably be clear I’m not saying “oooh, everybody should just go have affairs.” That would be as silly as saying everyone should just go be monogamous. And even if I was I wouldn’t be saying everyone should go be capital-P Polyamorous with all the formal intentionality that can go along with that. I am saying that whatever one decides to do should be undertaken with as much responsibility and respect for all concerned as one would undertake any endeavor with the potential to involve heart, head, hands, and naughty bits such that one’s loved ones and one’s self are reinforced rather than undermined.
The rest of Cheri’s post, which is actually mostly about gendered double standards, is also acutely intelligent.
