Another post I’ve been meaning to get to. Back in April Margaret Jezebel let us know about a new dating website.
Do you hate wasting your time dating guys and learning all about their thoughts and feelings only to find out later that they have an average-sized penis? Then 7orbetter.com is the dating site for you.
7orbetter.com is a new site for people interested in meeting men with penises that are seven inches or longer. According to the website, the mission of 7orbetter.com is to let women know “upfront if a man has what it takes to satisfy you sexually.”
Margaret quotes Washington City Paper writer Amanda Hess’s wry reaction
Isn’t society just terrible? A “properly behaved woman” who is only interested in men with huge penises may have to wait months-months!-before figuring out that the man that she has spent months falling in love with has been hiding a dick that’s slightly too small to deserve that love. Now, with Seven or Better, that woman can know from the first date the exact dimensions of that penis she doesn’t want to see yet.
Margaret adds that the site welcomes people of all persuasions including men seeking men and, perhaps less intuitively, women seeking women. She also says the editors want some sort of 3rd-party verification and they take a dim view of “any photograph [they deem] to be of such superior quality (i.e. modeling shots, magazine pages, etc,) that it raises the question of that photograph not being a reasonable representation of said member.” It’s not clear what exactly they mean by “said member.”
I know men are raised to believe that length of erection is better but, at least on the heterosexual side most people I know who’ve expressed a preference seem to prefer girth over length.
It’s all moot to me, of course. I may be tall, and I may have big hands, but I’m otherwise perfectly average.
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sat, 2009-05-02 22:17.
Average? Disappointing? Are you nuts?
*shakes head* *sighs*
[Sure! 7orbetter says it so it *must* be so. :-) Thanks for your kind words, TIS. --fl]
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sat, 2009-05-02 22:31.
I like big cocks and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. OTOH, I wouldn't use a site like this since much as I love big cock, average sized cock usually works just fine. I think that of the 40+ cocks I've played with only two were what I would consider too small to have fun with.
[Nothing wrong of course, Plymouth. I just think going on about length (as does seven or better) is giving... well... short shrift to width. Which far more of my partners have seemed to prefer if they've expressed a preference at all. --fl]
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sat, 2009-05-02 22:32.
Disappointingly average? I think it's absolutely PERFECT. Much bigger than that and it would hurt me! Yours looks wonderful; not too big and not too small. Bigger is not always better.
[Thanks for your kind words Britni! The nice thing about being perfectly average is that yeah, there are a couple of things people *can't* do with one, but a lot more they can. If I could really have my druthers I'd want to be smaller as often as I wanted to be larger. --fl]
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sun, 2009-05-03 03:14.
Hey, I like it! Bigger is vastly overrated....skill counts a lot more.
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sun, 2009-05-03 05:40.
Nice willy!
(Oh, you Yanks don't have "willy" - it's a UK young-person's term for "penis". Which meant that Will Smith's album "Big Willie Style" got rather a different reaction over here...!)
Interesting that it's all about the worthiness myth again - "if you don't measure up, don't bother trying" - that hurts so many men in the way the beauty myth hurts women.
I guess if any woman were disappointed with the length of my penis, I'd resort to manual stimulation - my hand and fingers, I am sure, could give her a good time!
Incidentally - reCaptcha appropriateness: "play chunk"
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sun, 2009-05-03 07:41.
So Figleaf, the only thing that bothers you about this is that the focus is on length rather than width? Given your many insightful and thought provoking posts, I have a hard time believing that. I like what SDE says about the worthiness myth, "If you don't measure up, don't bother trying." What bothers me is this: "Do you hate wasting your time dating guys and learning all about their thoughts and feelings only to find out later that they have an average-sized penis? Then 7orbetter.com is the dating site for you."
An average penis makes a man a waste of time? There is so much more to a man than his size, whether we are talking length or width, for fuck's sake! And there is so much more to being satisfied sexually. As Britni pointed out, large dick = ouch. I recently discovered that a little bit smaller is kind of nice...it's surprisingly better.
Anyway, I think it is sad that a woman would be so shallow to rule out dating a man because of his size, and I don't think I could date a man who would be willing to put his size out there as a criteria for being datable. Women and men who participate in such a thing deserve each other.
[Hi Sugarmag. Good point about the worthiness-trap angle -- I was so put out by the even more superficial "male locker-room comparison" obsession with visual appearance over actual functionality I didn't register any of the deeper levels. But you're right that it goes... well... deeper than that. This still isn't saying being or liking big is bad, or good. But yes, an organization who's business model is about turning one possible attribute into the only relevant one is kind of moving away from eroticism for everyone. Thanks! --fl]
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Sun, 2009-05-03 18:30.
There's this need in parts of society for sex to be something that only the Lucky Few can have, instead of something that any reasonably personable person can have.
I guess this is because you can't sell something that's freely available, nor can you control people by controlling their access to it.
Yucch.
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Tue, 2009-05-05 08:23.
As the proud possessor of an average dick I share a general distaste for the whole "7 or better" concept, especially the way they've put it across. But lets take an alternative view ...
Think of it like a "big and tall" store. Or think of it as an affirmation, like "big and beautiful". A 7 inch dick is actually a handicap. It's abnormal and uncomfortably long for most women. These men have suffered long enough! It's time for them to stand up and be proud of that overlong crank.
Demonstrating once again that the internet has a community for everyone.
Submitted by 2909 (not verified) on Wed, 2009-05-06 08:28.
I've never been a so-called "size queen," and I don't think girthier is better, either, but I must run small. That said, there's still such thing as too small as well as too big, at least for me. I'm sure there's a perfect fit for everyone. I've certainly found mine and couldn't be happier, especially after two years with a guy who was not the right size and didn't want enough sex for me to ever get used to him. Perfectly average is perfect for me.