Holly of The Pervocracy says

There’s a weird paradox in every issue of Cosmo: they constantly say that men have huge sex drives and aren’t picky, then lay out thousands of things things you must do exactly right in order to get and please a man. Apparently dudes will fuck anything that moves… unless it’s wearing last season’s eyeshadow, gawd.

She dismantles another issue of Cosmo here.

Observation #1: For some reason this way of putting it got the idea through my thick skull that many women really mean it when they say they think most men are picky about the minutest details of their appearance. (It’s not that men, being people, aren’t picky about stuff. Even superficial stuff. It’s that we’re generally not picky about what Cosmo insists we are, nor do the strategies they offer help with what we really are picky about.)

Observation #2: The fallacy in #1, above, is enough to justify Twisty’s “sex strike” mania, not because it would work but because it’s an antidote to the idea that if you don’t break your jaw trying to please a guy he’ll ditch you.

Observation #3: The idea of a sex strike being, of course, incompatible with the vision of men shared by no-sex-class-fetishizing antifeminists their equally paradigm-loving “rad-fem” feminists colleagues: as willing and able to have sex with anything (else) that moves including goats. Which incidentally would also be why I think men are more suited to the “sex class” designation.

Anyway, I’m not sure answering dumb idea with dumb idea makes it a good idea. But… seriously. Wow.

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Sort of like men get the idea if they’re not “Seven Or Better,” or if they can’t get past the rope line of whatever club all the PUA shows are taped in they’re never going to get laid at all.

The calculated insecurity driving the beauty and worthiness traps are great if you want to sell soap, or mascara, or motorcycle jackets. But they’re steaming mounds of crap if you want to re-diffuse sexual joy and excitement over the spectrum of human existence.