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Not NiceGuys™
Mon, 2009-06-22 18:42 — figleaf
Via Amanda Marcotte and others, a nice breakdown on romantic perceptions vs. realities of real “danger man” relationships.
P.S. No, the alternative is not to be a NiceGuy™. It’s not an either-or choice.
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Yeah, that video’s really making its way around teh intertubes of late. Too bad that I’m deaf and can’t quite follow it well enough to fully understand it, otherwise I’d probably think it was hilarious.
reCaptcha: richly rogular
OMG. Why attempt to replace Spike with blank, incoherent boy? Boring.
[Hi TL. I think that’s the point. Spike wasn’t just carnivorous. And he wasn’t interesting only because he tried to suppress it. —fl]
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