Dr. Petra Boynton slips in a really critical point about sex in general, in a very nice post about difficulties with orgasms.
Sex is something to experience, not achieve
Couple of points:
She’s most often asked by straight women about orgasm difficulties but her answers aren’t exclusively for them. Which is handy since whatever the averages might be, individuals with problems come in all genders, orientations, and ages. And as you read her post it’s very clear that she doesn’t mean you just experience sex and not worry about having orgasms.
But what strikes me about that little phrase is how it applies to so much else about sex besides orgasms, from virginity to marriage to first kisses to, for that matter, 20th (or 50th!) Anniversary celebrations. As Boynton says “It sounds corny but if you focus on the destination you may miss out on the journey.”
Note: I’ve made this post about one small almost-unrelated aside in Boynton’s post. If you do have problems with orgasms during sex, or feel you do, the rest of her post is worth a read.
