Anna N. of Jezebel references two studies, one a vague study on the benefits of larger thigh size (which may be a good proxy for overall muscle mass) and lifetime health, and then, getting right to the heart of the beauty trap (emphasis mine…)

A similarly mixed blessing is a survey (by research giants Date.com, Matchmaker.com and Amor.com), in which 85% of men agreed that, “A couple of extra pounds are fine by me.” We’re not sure if “a couple of extra pounds” means “as long as you’re not fat or anything,” but it’s nice to be reminded that most men don’t expect women to look like the cover of Self magazine.

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The survey also found that 90% of women think “men find extra weight unattractive.” Says Shira Zwebner, “relationship adviser” for Date.com, Matchmaker.com and Amor.com, “Unfortunately, these types of misconceptions between the sexes are extremely common, and result in a lot of missed dating and relationship opportunities.” So don’t miss an opportunity! Join our dating sites today! Or, you know, love your body, and don’t try to make it smaller based on what you think men want — or bigger based on science that has yet to be confirmed.

Read the excerpts in context and follow the links here.

The same things can be said for men’s gendered worthiness-trap concerns about money, class, muscles, and (especially) penis size — it’s not that size, weight, clothes, or cars (or, breast or penile implants) don’t matter to our partners. It’s that they almost never matter as much to our opposite genders as we are led (or lead ourselves) to believe they do… “result in a lot of missed dating and relationship opportunities.”