Jessica Valenti of Feministing says

You know, a common misconception people have about my work – especially when they see the book title The Purity Myth – is that because I argue that women shouldn’t be held up to some bizarre virginal ideal, I must be promoting promiscuity.

She said it here.

While there’s nothing wrong with being promiscuous (no, really — while nothing is guaranteed it is / was / can be wonderful) it’s just not the only alternative, at all, to celibacy till marriage.

One of the problems of the ideology of sexual scarcity is the perpetual concern lift the lid even a little people will have no self-control at all. Meanwhile, though, if you’re not bought into the idea of scarcity the either/or hypothesis seems pretty unrealistic.

A good example that maybe too many people are familiar with: consider how office cubicle-farm denizens in really restrictive office environments will empty a momentarily unguarded office supply room of its pens, pencils, yellow stickies, kleenex boxes, and binder clips.

Meanwhile, though, in offices where the supply room is open people generally take only the supplies they actually need to do their jobs. No office-supply orgies ever break out because you don’t have people perpetually aware of what they need to do their work and how hard it is to get it.

It’s the same way with sex — minus all the pressure the alternative to no sex with your partner is generally going to be, at most, sex with your partner rather than sex with everyone in Cancún over Spring Break.