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Tue, 2010-01-26 15:02
Epiphora of Hey Epiphora on Tumblr found a pretty good example of the deep, deep incomprehension asexuals have to deal with.
Whimsical-looking dildos
I’m a freelance illustrator and I was hired to do a couple of illustrations for a story about people who are asexual (they do relationships, but not IT). I sent off my sketches to the art director and received an email back that wrote, “These look great, but could you possibly add some whimsical looking dildos?”
Sort of like asking for whimsical-looking Virginia hams in sketches of a hardware store, dildos just aren’t elements in the visual grammar of asexuality. Some people have a very, very hard time grasping asexuality as a concept.
Yes, they do. I wrote a post
Submitted by Britni TheVadgeWig (not verified) on Tue, 2010-01-26 18:26.Yes, they do. I wrote a post recently defining it, and I’m planning to write a few more posts about it. I don’t know much about asexuality, and what I’ve been learning is fascinating.
Though, I must wonder a) what a “whimsical looking dildo” is, and b) what the hell an asexual would do with a dildo, aside from making it a decoration on their mantle.
[A few years ago I spent a lot of time thinking about it, based in large part on a cool book by a local (to me) author, Joan Sewell, called “I’d Rather Eat Chocolate.” (Reviewed here.) It’s seriously interesting how if you look at it as another orientation (it’s not particularly) one can learn an awful lot about one’s prejudices and assumptions about sexuality. And speaking about that, I read Sewell’s book as a series of exercises to try and “ex-gay” herself out of asexuality. Which really highlights the absurdity of imagining you can “ex-gay” anybody. My current go-to blogger on asexuality, by the way, is Ily at Asexy Beast. She’s very cool. Thanks, Britni. —fl]
I’m mostly confused by the
Submitted by Holly Pervocracy (not verified) on Tue, 2010-01-26 21:53.I’m mostly confused by the idea that not only would asexual people use dildos, they’d use whimsical ones. No bland dildo will do for the people who… probably don’t use dildos too much in the first place?
Okay, I’m having an
Submitted by Eurosabra (not verified) on Tue, 2010-01-26 22:27.Okay, I’m having an Abbott-Costello “Who’s on First?” moment. “They’re asexual.” “They’re a sexual WHAT?” etc. etc.
[Heh! It reminds me of a
Submitted by ozymandias (not verified) on Wed, 2010-01-27 20:37.[Heh! It reminds me of a little hiccup deeply religious people have about atheists. It’s simply inconceivable you can’t believe in something so they just keep cycling back to “well what do you believe in? Thanks, O. —fl]