Summary: An article in WebMD says only 20% of young adults believe oral sex “counts” as sex. Jayme Waxman sets the record straight.
While I’m not completely enthusiastic about the close association between sex and disease Jayme Waxman of Sex Matters does use it in a good cause:
I just want to go on record and say oral sex is sex. That means BJ’s and CJ’s (blow jobs and clit jobs – a term I hope I just made up, but I’m sure I didn’t, still it’s what I’m calling cunnilingus from now on, as in from right now on) are sex. You can get sexually transmitted infections like gonorrhea and chlamydia form oral sex, and you can give and receive herpes and HPV that way too.
And yes, yes, she could also have mentioned another forgone association: that both giving and receiving oral sex is a source of sexual enjoyment. For whatever reason that never really seems to come up in conversations involving definitions of sex. So kudos to Waxman for punctuating the bottom line: oral sex is sex.