Fri, 2010-07-16 19:22
Apropos of no one in particular but in keeping with an ongoing theme of mine about terminology there’s been a tendency over the years for bloggers to distinguish themselves from other people who blog about sex on the grounds that those people are sex bloggers but and/or so I must not be one.
My rule of thumb for telling if you’re a sex blogger? If the only people willing to advertise on your site sell products that are somehow related to sex then whether you like it or not (and you might not), and whether you identify that way or not (and you might not) then at least in the eyes of the world you’re a sex blogger.
I consider myself to be more
Submitted by K (not verified) on Fri, 2010-07-16 20:07.I consider myself to be more of a lack-of-sex blogger.
Hey, K, I think you’re a
Submitted by figleaf on Sat, 2010-07-17 16:05.Hey, K,
I think you’re a wonderful sex blogger, in part exactly because understanding when people don’t or can’t have sex is almost more important (from a social-conversation standpoint) than when people can. Because (as you know) if anyone thinks the public is in denial about people who have sex haven’t seen anything like the denial people get into when you can’t.
Thanks!
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I am a sex blogger and proud
Submitted by Paradox (not verified) on Fri, 2010-07-16 22:14.I am a sex blogger and proud of it!
I agree, and I find it a bit
Submitted by Dangerous Lilly (not verified) on Sat, 2010-07-17 06:00.I agree, and I find it a bit offensive when someone like that flips the finger to the community that had been THEIR community.
I’m a sex blogger, proud of it, and (most days) love the community and do everything I can to keep it alive.
People in the community refer
Submitted by Britni TheVadgeWig (not verified) on Sat, 2010-07-17 07:14.People in the community refer to me as a sex blogger, and I think that I used to be a sex blogger, but I don’t consider myself one anymore. I think I’m an “everything” blogger. I write more about feminism, rape culture, gender, and bullshit than I do about sex at this point, but that doesn’t change the way other people see my blog.
“I think I’m an “everything”
Submitted by figleaf on Sat, 2010-07-17 08:52.“I think I’m an “everything” blogger. I write more about feminism, rape culture, gender, and bullshit than I do about sex at this point, but that doesn’t change the way other people see my blog.”
See? That’s what I mean. I mean yeah, there really is a dividing line somewhere but the thing is we’re not necessarily the ones who get a say in the matter. Which is why I think a good proxy for that is who’ll advertise with us. I happen to think I’m extravagantly non-sexy, especially anymore. And like you I blog about sex, and gender, and relationships way more in terms of politics and sociology than whether it feels better to put one’s tongue on location X vs location Y. But advertisers feel differently and so do non-sex bloggers (who add “NSFW” to their references) and sometimes their commenters (who complain if “NSFW” wasn’t included.”)
As it happens I don’t mind because I think I’m a sex blogger! I also think blogging about sex, in any let alone all its dimensions, is really, really important. Because, in turn, much of the planet’s social organization is incomprehensible without an understanding of our relationships to sex and sexuality. With the result that I think we need a lot more, rather than a lot less sex bloggers.
Thanks, Britni,
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