Not to just keep citing Lindsay Beyerstein of Big Think all day long but, well, she is a reporter and her beat recently has been at the rather important intersection of sex, gender, and politics.
Anyway, she dug up this jewel of debased thinking from over-the-top anti-sex conservative Christine O’Donnell, as of last night’s primary is now the tea-bag fueled Republican candidate for Senator from Delaware.
O’Donnell first rose to national prominence as the founder and president of the SALT, an anti-masturbation youth ministry. In 1996, she and her fellow salteens appeared on MTV’s series “Sex in the Nineties” to explain why masturbation is a form of adultery that will render your future married sex life irrelevant. “[I]f he already knows what pleases him and he can please himself, then why am I in the picture?” O’Donnell asked earnestly.
I mean… I just feel sorry for anyone who’s worldview includes the notion that the only possible hold a woman can have on a man in a relationship is to supply him with sexual gratification. And anyone with the corollary view that unless she’s the sole source of his gratification that her relationship with her partner is imperiled!
And I hate to say I told you so but this is exactly the sort of thing that illustrates my contention that anti-feminists loathe and fear men far more than even the fringe-iest 70s radical separatist ever did.
In other words when it comes to world views about heterosexuality the biggest difference between O’Donnell and, say, Twisty Faster, is that Twisty doesn’t think it’s just the best thing to come along since before cheese slicers went on sale at Whole Foods. The only other big difference is that Twisty’s got the integrity to say women who don’t want to become men’s “cum dumpsters” should be allowed to have access to the kind of jobs, education, respect, medical care, and legal and social standing that will let them live fulfilling lives without effectively exchanging access to their bodies for economic support and physical “protection.” As opposed to O’Donnell who seems to think the solution is for women to hold out for the best possible deal.
Sweet mother of pearl!
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Oh, and based on Beyerstein’s quote, what are the odds the idea that it’s simply never registered to O’Donnell that women are also capable of masturbation? The odds that it would occur to her that women’s masturbation habits would affect their chances of having sex would be even lower.
Heads up! The bogus Two Rules of Desire should not be model legislation!
Any woman who hasn’t figured
Submitted by Personal Failure (not verified) on Wed, 2010-09-15 13:26.Any woman who hasn’t figured out they can masturbate obviously has a rare genetic disorder in which their arms are far shorter than normal.
what is this I don’t
Submitted by ozymandias (not verified) on Thu, 2010-09-16 06:52.what is this I don’t even
Ms. O’Donnell, we need to talk about your lack of self-esteem. You realize you are more than a RealDoll with a pulse, yes? You have value as a human being, Ms. O’Donnell. You have thoughts and feelings and opinions and a personality. You matter for more than your sexuality! If you were a feminist, we would tell you this!
I mean, honestly. Sex combines orgasms and cuddling. It is like a Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup, Ms. O’Donnell. Would you say ‘on second thought, I don’t want a Reese’s, I can just eat peanut butter from the jar’? No, Ms. O Donnell, you would not.
If you are very, very concerned, Ms. O’Donnell, I suggest you look into kink. Fleshlights, his hand and some gymnastics training might simulate regular sex, but no man can whip himself, and tying up a stuffed animal is not nearly as satisfying. You might have an excellent career in orgasm denial.
In short, when guys said they’d rather stay home and masturbate than date you, it was because wingnut fundie was a real bonerkiller, and not because masturbation is more fun than sex?