The Egregious "Porn for Women" Meme: I think It Depends on How He's Folding the Laundry or Making the Bed

Jill Filipovic says

In the aftermath of the Anthony Weiner weiner-scandal, the Washington Post asks women what kind of sexts (as they kids say) they’d appreciate receiving. Women ™ say:

“I would like a photo of a made bed,” says Kathryn Roberts, who works at a law firm in Washington. “I would take rose petals, but I want them on top of a made bed.” And not that fake kind of made, either, where the comforter is smooth but the sheets are a jumbled mess.

“Or laundry,” adds her friend Andrea Neurohr.

“Folded laundry,” elaborates Roberts. “Maybe in a wicker basket.”

Get it? Cleaning is so important to women it’s basically pornography! Haha oh women, with their clean laundry and their distaste for sexual pleasure and the male body.

Source: Feministe

Back when I was posting a lot of nude and/or erotic self-photography I went ahead and tested the hypothesis that women would rather see men folding laundry or making beds.  The results were positive but most of my non-domestic photo series were considerably more popular.

At any rate, based on my past experience I think whether photos of men folding laundry or making beds can be sexy has a lot more to do with the men and a lot less to do with the laundry.*

Photo by figleaf.
Photo by figleaf.

Photo by figleaf.
Photo by figleaf.
All photos by figleaf (hey that's me!) Posted with a Creative Commons license. .

Happy HNT (or Half-nekkid Thursday!)

* Note: if you're going to put rose petals on a bed there's a good chance you're going to have to use bleach to get the stains out.  Or else, I guess, use rose-colored sheets.


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Those are some lovely

Submitted by Ms Naughty (not verified) on Thu, 2011-06-02 20:50.

Those are some lovely photos.

I like photos of naked men doing housework. I just like photos of naked men.

I don't fold clothes or iron. Indeed, I don't like housework and only do it when I absolutely have to. 

So, here's where I think

Submitted by Lulu (not verified) on Fri, 2011-06-03 05:01.

So, here's where I think there might be a kernel of truth hiding in this stereotype:

When there is a real or perceived housework imbalance between people in a live-in relationship, the reality of additional housework by the less-motivated party can be surprising, happy-making, relaxing, cause feelings of being part of team, etc... depending on the state of the commonly-more motivated party.

This might lead one to have more space for sexy thoughts. So, sort of an indirect stimulant.

But no, I don't think laundry or housework is actually an aphrodiasiac in and of itself. I think its the context its in that might play a role in a particular dynamic. I also don't think its gender-based. If there _is_ some sort of indirect principle at work here, then I'd bet that if the motivated party is a boy and the less-motivated party is a girl that the effect would be similar.

Somewhere in this lecture:

Submitted by Laura Fox (not verified) on Fri, 2011-06-03 06:21.

Somewhere in this lecture: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U-rpbihTvlY Michael Kimmel did quote a statistic that couples where the housework is shared more equally have more sex---probably for reasons like what Lulu mentioned.  There's also the, er, sampling bias, if you would call it that.  If someone of any gender is asked by a stranger what kind of erotica they like, there might be experiment-confounding reasons they wouldn't want to describe something raunchier to said stranger.

re: sampling bias Nice

Submitted by Lulu (not verified) on Fri, 2011-06-03 06:55.

re: sampling bias

Nice point. And from the other direction (sort of pos pressure vs neg pressure), a person might have thought it funnier to give a tongue-in-cheek answer than a real answer.

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