Note: Guys, when a woman (or in this case someone who's pretending to be one) posts a note about wanting to trade sensual but definitely not sexual massages it's probably not as unique an idea as you probably think to send her urology-conference-quality photos of your erection. Even if you have a conference-quality erection!
Because whillikers!
Oh, and "your erection plus your abs" probably doesn't count as creative variation.
Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying nobody wants to look at your erection. Plenty of women probably do.
But, you know, usually when people greet each other they do two things:
- They make eye contact
- They extend their hands and shake them.
Neither of these things seems feasible in photos that
- Don't include faces or eyes
- Include something to shake but no hands.
So!
Quick role reversal for straight men with the impulse to send photos of their erections to women who say they want to exchange sensual but definitely not sexual massages.
Let's say you put an ad on Craigslist requesting something fairly neutral like, say, someone to go fishing with and pretty much all the replies were photos of men with erections but no eyes or hands.
Setting aside the question of whether or not you like erections or photos thereof (because if you were actually a hetero woman you might like them) consider the question of whether photos of erections are actually responsive to your request for a fishing companion.
Consider further whether, if deciding from an array of potential fishing partners the optimal criteria to be... their erections and, possibly, their erections plus abs.
Even if, again, in other circumstances... like if, say, a woman (or someone posing as a woman) posted an ad saying "send me photos of your erections, and sometime abs," those photos would not just welcome but appropriate.
I should not, by the way, that by far the majority of replies do not include photos of erections. So this isn't an attempt at tarring all men with one brush. But! Again, for those who do, gee whillikers, guys!
Get a grip! (Oh wait!)
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Not to mention that you often
Submitted by Anette (not verified) on Tue, 2011-07-19 02:35.Not to mention that you often get an in depth look at how well they clean their toilets - or not... Just speaking from personal experience of a similar site.
The unsolicited cock shots
Submitted by Ms.Inconspicuous (not verified) on Tue, 2011-07-19 09:02.The unsolicited cock shots don't bug me as much as they used to. It's easy enough to use them to screen out guys who are decidedly NOT discreet and NOT subtle.
Besides, with only a rudimentary understanding of how a camera flash works, some of them look like mini light-sabers. If I look at it that way (and make the requisite noises as I unceremoniously delete their email) it becomes much more amusing.
Seriously,, can we make this
Submitted by Haribeaux (not verified) on Thu, 2011-07-21 14:58.Seriously,, can we make this an Internet PSA? Guys, please, preserve the mystery of your beautiful erection. Cock shot is the big finish, not the lead-in. Play it a bit coy. Think more "smooth, sensual, seductive lover" and less "eager Labrador who just wants you to play with his favourite toy!" It's just embarrassing for everyone and does not help your case.
That's not a fair comparison.
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 2011-07-22 18:21.That's not a fair comparison. Imagine I am correspending with a woman in a non-sexual way. I would still enjoy it if she sent me some sexy pictures.
This phenomena is the one
Submitted by talby (not verified) on Mon, 2011-07-25 18:27.This phenomena is the one thing that bothers me about your Two Rules of Desire - many men seem to operate under the assumption that underneath the conditioned social stigma of sluttery for women who act too interested in sex, that we secretly desire the same sort of immediate and anonymous sex many men do. I don't really know what to make of this idea just yet, but I feel like it's pretty common.
(Yes, I realize that I am stereotyping, and my intention is only to speak in broad generalizations- and I think that thanks to the prevalence of anonymous sex in the gay community and relative dearth of that in the lesbian community, it's safe to make at least *some* gender based assumptions)
The resolution for me, Talby,
Submitted by figleaf on Tue, 2011-07-26 14:35.The resolution for me, Talby, is that the Two Rules are mostly the stories men tell each other is true. Slut-shaming women for liking your penis is part of the "intolerable" clause, desperately wishing, not believing, and continuously testing that it might be true anyway is where the "inconceivable" clause comes in.
To be honest I'm pretty sure if men weren't so anxious about never being desired in the first place we'd be less interested in genuinely anonymous hookups as well.
--fl