So a little while ago the (NSFW!) Tumblr sex blogger Kat Kinx, was subjected to a particularly nasty spate of anonymous commenters more or less demanding that she hook up with them, Skype with her, post specific photos or stories and performing particular acts, and otherwise totally overstepping boundaries. Oh yeah, and when she started telling them to buzz off at least one of them threatened to try and get Tumblr to cancel her blog. Because (like about 70-million other blogs on Tumblr, it has "sexual content.")
This is actually a pretty common assumption -- that to describe one's active sex life in the first person... or even just blog about one's active sexual imagination in the first person... you are or should be making yourself virtually or even actively available even to anonymous readers.
One of Kat Kinx (non-anonymous) readers snarkily but accurately put his finger on the fallacy.
“See, it’s totally your fault for being a sexual person and expressing it on your SEX BLOG. People are nuts…. That would be like posting cookies on a baked goods blog and assuming that every anon is going to get some fucking cookies!”
Yup. Very early in my blogging career I made the same mistake a couple of times, and had the same mistake made to me as well, before I realized there was a problem with it. But as much as I love food/sex analogies I never thought of a cookie-baking comparison. But it really illustrates the point beautifully.
Via the invaluable and also highly-NSFW Geeky Vamp