On Tumblr STFUFauxFeminists says misandry isn't a thing. While I'm sympathetic I disagree.

Here's how I see it.

There isn't really much misandry in the MRA thread-hijacking-on-feminist-blogs sense but it really is a thing. And like misogyny it's built into patriarchy. Say what one will about "proud feminist misandrists" but they can't hold a candle to the sheer fear, hatred, and contempt anti-feminists have for men.

Two examples: Look at their core belief that women must be kept down or men can't succeed! If men can't succeed on a level playing field with women, as the 'wingers insist, that means the 'wingers are insisting that not only are men not equal to women they're weaker! And what must rape apologists believe about male character to reflexively blame victims? That men generally lack the impulse control of pre-schoolers!

Another example: the persistent "traditional family values" assertion that single men are so dangerous to society that women should be required to effectively sacrifice themselves by attaching themselves to men in order to temper, or tame, or subdue them? Seriously? I'm sorry but if anti-feminists really believed men are superior they wouldn't insist they all needed minders.

It's less remarked upon, sure, and conspicuously missing from complaints by the usual suspects. But implicit, institutional misandry like that is central to the insanity of patriarchy.