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Drinking and sex in College? I'm not a big fan of alcohol and sex. (And not just because I've got a faulty gene that keeps me from enjoying alcohol myself.) So I really appreciated this list of tips for college students from Em & Lo. The whole list is great but #3 is a real keeper.
Don’t do it drunk. You will get drunk. Too drunk. Way too drunk. Probably on more than one occasion. We’re not talking about a good, healthy buzz — because let’s face it, that’s the only time sex is going to happen for you this year — no, we’re talking completely sloshed. And when that happens, when your balance starts to fail and your voice gets really loud and the room spins a bit, try with all your might NOT to hook up. The chances of it not going well are exceedingly high. Think: poor sexual performance, blackouts, accusations of date rape, actual date rape, mid-sesh vomiting, forgotten birth control, accidental pregnancy, the list goes on.
Source: Today on EMandLO.com
What's great is their acknowledgement that asking students to refrain from drinking entirely is unproductive. Instead they just lay out the conditions and consequences: a glass of wine with dinner, or a couple of drinks over a night of dancing and romancing? Not the end of the world.
But past the point where responsible friends would ask for your car keys? Oh yeah, if you're too sloshed to make a competent decision not to drive you're definitely too sloshed to competently decide that, yes, you really want to be doing this right now. Let alone deciding your (possibly equally sloshed) acquaintance has competently decided he or she wants to be doing it with you as well.
Seriously. Most of the stuff that gets in the papers? That gets friends shaking their heads? That gets guys (especially) branded as a creep or a loser or someone To Be Avoided? The ones where someone ends up getting battered or worse?
Yeah, there are exceptions to every rule but alcohol is behind just a heck of a lot of very bad sex-related behavior.
I'm not going to say never get technicolor-yawningly drunk. I certainly won't say never have sex, or even have sex! But I gotta agree, based on a ton of first-, second-, and third-hand experience, that mixing the two is a heck of a recipe for more regrets than fond memories.
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Interesting -- the only time
Submitted by Irene (not verified) on Sat, 2012-09-01 21:15.Interesting -- the only time I ever got really smashed in college was in fact the only time I ever had a one-night stand. The thing is that I'd agreed to both those activities ahead of time, when I wasn't in the least drunk. (It turned out not to have been a great idea for various reasons, but it didn't do us any harm, either.)
I was annoyed at Em and Lo for being so flip about not "schtupping" a professor because it was "so cliche." Er, isn't the fact of its being a cliche PART OF THE PROBLEM? I mean, you wouldn't say "Don't put rohypnol in someone's drink, it's so cliche," even though it kind of is a cliche.
Actually, now that I think of it, I don't remember there being any gossip at all, or even jokes, about professors sleeping with students at my college (not in my years, anyway -- there was, I think, a new professor who got sent away for that cause right quick, a year or two after I graduated). I can't recall a single professor acting inappropriately around me. The most I got from any of them was an occasional, totally non-problematic frisson of "hm, you're kind of cute." Whereas in high school there were a couple of teachers I really should have reported.