In the face of my recognition of cool men manage to have sex lives (or not) without being ruled by it, I’d like to reiterate my recognition of asexuality as well. I got radicalized to asexuality years ago in a sexuality section of a progressive discussion site. A perfectly well-adjusted, non-abused woman piped up that she had no, zero, none interest in sex… and it just freaked everybody out.

And it’s not even a mistake that it freaked anyone out because by and large asexual people just usually don’t talk about it any more than I as a non-stamp collector talk about not collecting stamps.

So anyway, once I got over my initial shock and started listening to her I learned a heck of a lot not just about asexuality but about sexuality as well. (And also, obviously, a lesson about how people can talk about orientation and tolerance until you run into someone who’s just not interested.)

Same when I read Joan Sewell’s I’d Rather Eat Chocolate: Learning to Love My Low Libido. Despite a few quibbles dealing largely with her assumption that it’s mostly women, I still think it’s the most interesting sex book of the year.

And now I’ve just happened across Ily of asexy beast who’s put together an “Asexuality 101” post.

Okay, so it’s not exactly the next New York Times #1 Bestseller, but it is an advanced reading copy…of something. This is my draft for the Stanford LGBT group’s info card about asexuality. So if you’ve been wanting some basic information, read on…

She lays out the details here.

Anyway, because there are so few asexuals blogging about it, even though at any point up to 15% of the adult men and women may be practicing temporary or lifetime asexuals, I’ve added to my blogroll.