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The Patriarchy is a Co-Ed Enterprise, Nanny State vs. Nanny User Edition

Mon, 2011-05-23 12:11

Jill, reflecting on her work, which requires extended travel and thus extended hotel stays, has an interesting insight about class attitudes in America in the matter of protecting the safety of "menial" workers such as hotel housecleaners.  (Emphasis mine.)

I thought of all this while reading this op-ed in the New York Timestoday by a hotel housekeeping manager, about the risks these women take every day when they go into a room. And then I thought of the news segment I watched last night, about an Assemblyman from Queens who has proposed a law requiring hotels to provide housekeepers with "panic buttons" -- small electronic devices that a housekeeper can press to alert hotel security. The segment asked for the opinions of random New Yorkers, and most seemed to think it was a good idea -- except for the obviously wealthy woman in the posh neighborhood who thought it was "too much government interference" in people's private lives; too much "nanny state."

Source: Brilliant at Breakfast

Jill says the woman objects on the grounds that "ensuring worker safety is too much government interference into the 'private affairs' of giant hotel companies."  I'm skeptical because on the face of it she's probably perfectly happy to let the "nanny state" dictate who can and who can't sit on the steps of her building.

Instead I'm pretty sure her reflex isn't about a "nanny state" per se -- odds are extremely high that if one is wealthy in New York City one hires nannies, and if so she likely ferociously "regulated" her nanny's activities.

Instead what it's about is that she objects to the idea of being told how to regulate her own nannies. And doormen, and housekeepers, gardeners, dog walkers, and other menials who preform for her labor she would prefer to avoid.

Update: See also Felix Salmon

“"Why all the fuss? It's merely a bit of hanky-panky with the help," said Jean-François Kahn, the crusading editor of the Left-wing Marianne weekly. Jack Lang, a law don famous for having been François Mitterrand's high-profile, graffiti-loving, diversity-fostering Culture Minister, dismissed it all rather infelicitously as an "overblown" affair: "Really, nobody died in that hotel room." — Telegraph

You'll notice that I'm not the one presuming DSK guilty of assaulting the hotel employee before he's convicted.  You'll notice Felix Salmon isn't the one presuming it either.  It's actually his supporters who think he's guilty... because among the French upper crust, as among Americans and pretty much everyone else, droit du seigneur is just one of the perqs of power and authority!  I'm sure the woman Jill referred to would agree. 

(Even though, incidentally, the actual practice of droit du seigneur evidently never was a legal right of lords over peasants -- at least among cultures that would have used the term -- the attitude behind it remains alive and well: "commoners" exist for the convenience of their lords and masters.  That in this update it was upper-crust moderates and leftist making the claim makes it no less common an assumption.)

Adoption Tryptich Part Three: The Impact of Adoptees and Birth Fathers

Mon, 2011-01-03 11:18

[This completes a series of three posts on the ostensibly "pro-life" adoption industry and its impact on society (discouraging both abortion and contraception), and on adoptive children and birth mothers (opposition to measures that could encourage mothers to keep their children rather than "relinquish" them.) I hadn't really meant to post anything at all, let alone three. And while I've never fathered a child out of wedlock, I'm not adopted, nor have I been personally involved in any aspect of at-birth adoption, the poignancy of this post seemed like a nice way to complete a series I hadn't really meant to begin in the first place. --fl]

Speaking of the "pro-life" adoption industry and how it calculatedly disregards the needs of birth mothers or the adoptive children themselves, BD of The Daily Bastardette points out how the industry also screws child/father contact as well

In Memory of Jack Jennings Reese, My Father


Image via BD at The Daily Bastardette
My father Jack Jennings Reese died Tuesday night. He was 83. I was never supposed to know his name. I was never supposed to know him. That's what adoption means.

Jack's name was not on my original birth certificate. My "non-ID" from Toledo Crittenden helpfully informed me that my father was a man. Oh, and that he had blue eyes, was a high school drop-out, working class, and Protestant. (That last part is a stretch. I don't think he was an atheist, but he had no quarter with organized religion. He refused to be baptized.) He must have been from Akron, since that's where my mother lived.

I got that information in 1980. Not until 1996, however, did I learn in a letter from my mother, Jack's initials: JR. As in Ewing. That small slice of information was treasured. It meant, as it can only mean to the adopted, that I wasn't dropped out of a UFO or born in a cabbage patch. I wasn't an immaculate conception. I already knew I had a mother, of course, but now I had a father. In Akron. Or someplace. It turned out to be Buffalo.

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I learned later from Jack that he and [her birth-mother's husband] Bob had known each other, but not well. Both were truck drivers. Bob knew all about Jack--and me--but Jack had no idea that his old girlfriend had married Bob or that I even existed. Bob wasn't about to tell him.

One day, according to Jack, my mother just wasn't around any more. When he rang her up, her father, who never liked him, told him she went out of town to "care for a sick aunt." Really! And he believed it. He was 17. She was nearly 24! Shortly after her disappearance Jack turned 18, joined the Army, and went to post-war China with General George Marshall

Source: The Daily Bastardette

For most of recorded history men have largely been written out of the "out-of-wedlock" pregnancy equation. It's generally assumed that men are irresponsible and disinterested. And I'm sure sometimes that's true. But "young" and "poor" don't always translate as "irresponsible and disinterested." But in my (again, limited) experience, the birth fathers of children who were taken away for adoption have been no less interested in what became of their children than their birth-mother partners were. And no less happy or completed if and when contact with their children is reestablished.

And even when it's not? As with BD even when it's not important to the father himself it's often quite important to the child him or herself.

This isn't a paean to "father's rights," though with consideration for the obvious exigencies of women's choice I think it would be a good idea to bolster both father's rights and responsibilities. Instead it's a reminder that, for better or worse, fathers matter to their children. Even, as in this case, when father and child have never met. So if this is a paean at all it's one to children's rights. Even (gasp!) adopted children.

Horrors! "Bill May Encourage Women to Keep Babies That May Be Best Cared for By An Adoptive Family"

Mon, 2011-01-03 10:55

Speaking of Ross Douthat and the monstrosity that is the "pro-life" adoption industry, while looking for any evidence that any "pro-life" organization, anywhere, had remarked upon the negligent homicide of Amy Lynn Gillespie (who was bizarrely jailed for becoming pregnant and then, while still pregnant, died of untreated pneumonia) I stumbled across The Daily Bastardette notes a proposed reason for withholding original birth certificates, family, and (in particular) family health records from adult children who were "relinquished" for adoption as children.  One that... you probably wouldn't have thought of yourself.

(E) THE BILL MAY ENCOURAGE WOMEN TO KEEP BABIES THAT MAY BE BEST CARED FOR BY AN ADOPTIVE FAMILY.

Women who place their babies up for adoption look forward to moving on with their lives and putting the experience behind them. Many come to peace with the decision they made and want to begin a new life. They struggle with the process of severing the bond that has been created with the child during pregnancy. Telling a women who is considering adoption that she will never be able to completely detach herself from that child and live the rest of her life anonymously unless she constantly submits to an invasive and tedious process may lead to her foregoing adoption altogether.

Now let's get this straight. A woman who wants to maintain her "anonymity" through a sealed birth certificate and detach from her kid will keep and attach to the kid if she can't be promised that anonymity in adoption. HoHoHo OK!

Source: The Daily Bastardette

One of her commenters deliciously snarks that

Wow. So there's a change. It used to be that bills would encourage women to have abortions.

I guess since that myth was dispelled, they have moved on to a new tactic.

Clue: If adoption were really all about being in the best interest of the child we sure as heck wouldn't have such an amazing array of barriers preventing them from a) staying with their birth parents, b) staying in touch with their birth parents, or, especially, c) finding their birth parents when they reach adulthood or, for that matter, finding out anything about them including even birth-family medical records. But then the modern adoption industry really isn't about children's needs is it? At all. People who seek to place children in foster care into adoptive families? Oh yeah, you bet! They often do incredible work trying to find homes for children who really need real homes and real families. Funny though, isn't it, how little the predatory "pro-life/crisis-pregnancy" adoption industry involves itself in foster care adoptions?

Retraction: Turns Out Donna M. Hughes Is Not a Neoconservative Dupe Because...

Fri, 2010-05-07 13:28

Y’know how it is with stereotypes? You hear someone’s a boomer-generation anti-prostitution crusader and a women’s-studies professor at a New England college and you just assume she’s part of a tradition of radical, 70’s-era feminism that was hardened by constant battle with a culture that wanted women, and men, right where they’d been for up to 6,000 years: subservience for women, domination by men, men providing goods and services in the domestic sphere, women providing obedience, clean socks, children, and sex whether they want it or not. You also tend to assume a couple of other things. That they’re going to be race, age, class, and orientation tolerant. That while they’re going to be impatient with and sometimes exasperatedly hostile to the clueless sense of entitlement expressed by “librul doods” they’re nevertheless generally supportive of progressive political policies. And you generally expect them to be somewhere between suspicious of and viscerally opposed to traditional, privileged, patriarchal institutions.

Superficially Professor Donna M. Hughes appears to fit that bill. But as I’ve said often enough on this blog, while stereotyping is probably unavoidable, falling unconsciously for stereotypes makes one an assholes. I fell for the stereotype. This makes me an asshole.

But I am not the only asshole in this story.

Having fallen for the stereotype I made what I believe, passionately, to be the right case to attempt to unify that brand of “old school” activism with more contemporary activism in hopes of reducing a destructive schism in gender activism that’s moving into its second century in America.

And having fallen for the stereotype I made an assumption that if Hughes was making common cause with regressive, patriarchal institutions it was in error… an error driven by a perhaps understandable but nevertheless unnecessary blind sense of urgency, anxiety, and powerlessness.

What I didn’t consider until I started digging even deeper than I had previously, was that rather than being a dupe of social conservatives, the religious-right, and neoconservative political activists she might herself actually be a right-wing neoconservative activist! Rather than being a “useful idiot” of neoconservative and religious-right activists who made the conscious decision to use trafficking as a partisan Republican “wedge issue” against progressives, Hughes might instead have been right up there on the front row cheering them on.

Y’know how she’s lately been calling Maymay a pedophile, a sexual predator, and a sex trafficker?

Turns out that put him in extremely rarified company.

Back in 2002 Hughes wrote a post in that renowned bastion of human rights, the neoconservative National Review Online denouncing participants of an anti-human-trafficking conference organized by political opponents of the Bush administration.

There are some wolves in sheep’s clothing among those who claim they are fighting the trafficking of women and children. In their disguise they speak loudly against trafficking as one of worst human-rights violations in the world — which it is — to conceal their goal of normalizing and legalizing prostitution and the transnational flow of women into sex industries.

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The upcoming conference in Honolulu “The Human Rights Challenge of Globalization in Asia-Pacific-US: The Trafficking in Persons, Especially Women and Children,” scheduled for November 13-15, offers an example of this phenomenon. ...

If the listed keynote speakers, which includes Hillary Clinton, remain true to past form, they will passionately denounce the trafficking of women as a modern form of slavery, but steadfastly avoid mentioning prostitution as the demand that drives the trafficking.

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These presenters and their colleagues couch their arguments in terms of human rights and women’s rights. But that is a smokescreen for their true agenda. They do not represent the interests of women and children. Normalizing prostitution and the transnational movement of women for prostitution does not advance women’s status or rights in the world. Instead, it turns women and children into sexual commodities that are raped, beaten, and exploited for the profit of a few.

She said it here, in the fucking National Review!

Yup. Maymay and Hillary Clinton, they all look the same from NRO’s Kathryn Jean Lopez’s office.

By the way, Kathryn, I should mention that National Review Online played an important role in shifting the focus of the trafficking and prostitution debates. In October 2002, NRO published my article entitled “Wolves in Sheep’s Clothing,” which exposed the agenda of some of the liberal feminist, leftist anti-trafficking activists. They were using the anti-trafficking debate to advance their efforts to legalize prostitution.

She said it here.

Yup. Us liberal feminist, leftist anti-traffickers just looove us some pimps, and brothels, and madams, and traffickers. Like Hillary Clinton and Maymay.

Anyway, without getting too personal about anyone else I’ll just reiterate that I’m not the only asshole referenced in this post.

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Nor, I ought to add, am I the only person to fall for stereotyped assumptions about what it means to be a women’s studies professor at a New England college. Without naming names I’ll just say that more than one person has pointed to Hughes as an emblem of what’s “wrong” with feminism. And, especially, what’s wrong with “radfem” radical feminists.

I’ll just point out that Hughes’s fellow neoconservative, fellow Iraq-war apologist, and fellow Bush/Cheney apparatchik Richard Perle used to repeatedly claim he was “a registered Democrat.” Well fine if he says so. And to the same extent it’s fine if Hughes chooses to think of herself as a “registered” feminist.

But while nearly everyone recognizes that pointing to Perle and saying “that’s proof that Democrats are all evil, nuke-hungry, human-rights-scorning war-mongers like Richard Perle,” it’s actually fairly common to see people like Hughes pointed at as “proof” that the only thing that matters to feminists are other narrow-minded, mean-spirited, privileged, upper and upper-middle-class white women like themselves.

That? That would be another mistake. That? That she might either deliberately or even inadvertently encourage that mistake in others would be a bigger transgression in my mind than all the slander, lible, and neoconservative sucking up in all of Eastern Standard Time.

I’m not the only asshole mentioned in this post.

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Update: And speaking of the accusations of lies and slander Hughes has launched at Maymay (and Hillary Clinton and the whole rest of the panoply of “liberal feminist, leftist” individuals who’s policies for addressing the problem are different from her right-wing and neoconservative cohort?) From George Bush and Dick Cheney all the way down to convicted felon Charles Colson, party strategist Michael Horowitz, and the cast and crew of National Review’s online operation the bread and butter of neoconservative rhetoric is, has been, and because its ingrained in their character probably always will be lies, innuendo, slander, and false accusation, not to mention disproportionate aggression and “preemptive” attacks. These are the people she aligns herself with, and NRO is the media organ she chooses to editorialize for. Lie down with dogs, get up with fleas.

And one last thing: I’m not calling Hughes’ feminism into question any more than I’m calling Perle’s Democratic affiliation or, for that matter, Dick Cheney’s profession of tolerance of homosexuals or George Bush’s religious faith. The just don’t mean very much in the face of the compromises and subordination the political philosophy that unites them demands of its adherents.

When I first heard about this I felt sorry for Hughes for getting tangled up with the Salvation Army. I now feel sorry for the Salvation Army!

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