Sex blogger Miss Maggie Mayhem calls bullshit on "progressive" industrial porn site Kink.com's "sex positive" reputation. The backstory is about a woman who's stage name is Nicki Blue. Kink.com is paying her to "lose" her virginity on camera. Mayhem is very suitably unimpressed, not only at the casual requirement that only penises can "take" virginity, but also with the ugly judgmental bullshit Kink uses to promote the event.

Here's Mayhem's indictment (emphasis mine.)

To decide that you want to engage in any particular sex act for the first time in a way that you will find really enjoyable is sex positive. There is no inherent exploitation involved in filming it and for some of us that just adds to the experience. When I read, “We strive each and every day to bring the best possible content to our customers and sacrificing Nikki’s innocence is in perfect alignment with what our fans expect and deserve,” I feel that the sex positive message is lost. That same sentence also reminds us that commercial value is of a much higher importance than sex positivity. For most porn sites that comes as no surprise.

Source: Miss Maggie Mayhem

I mean, in what moronic sex-negative universe is it innocent to conceive, propose, negotiate, and then arrive at a workplace with the intention of having sex... but a "sacrifice" of that innocence to complete the work you not only agreed to but proposed to do?  That would be the moronic sex-negative universe of Kink.com.

Whatever other flatulent nonsense Kink's press release might contain, that one line rings solid, crystal truth: "sacrificing Nikki’s innocence" really is "in perfect alignment" with Kink.com's fans expect.

And that's the core of my extreme irritation with the company.

Yes, yes, they're famously (and correctly) diligent about protecting their employee's safety and dignity.  Yes, yes, they're famously community minded, opening the doors of their giant Landmark-Heritage building for community performance and homeless shelters alike. Woo-hoo!  They've probably got Mother Theresa's ashes somewhere around there too.

But it doesn't change the fact that for all the genuinely good work they do, the vast, vast majority of their customers are the kind of asshats who believe virginity is something that's "sacrificed."  Who believe innocence is something that's "lost" with one push of a penis.

Customers who, I'm pretty confident, will be pretty disappointed if, when the moment comes, it doesn't look like it hurts.  It'll probably be a giant hit in progressive enclaves like southeast Utah and Saudi Arabia.

What a bunch of trolls.  Making money promoting rather than dispelling the "mystery" of negative, dangerous, and very, very old notions of sex and sexuality.

And once again I feel stupid having to say it but I'm in 100% agreement with Mayhem on the following points:

I cannot say it enough: I support Nicki Blue in what she wants to do. It is 100% her choice to make and no one has the right to say that she should or shouldn’t do go forward with her plan. I do not think poorly of any of the other performers on the set, either, because it is an honor to have someone request your presence at their first time doing anything. A request like that indicates trust and comfort and it is an honor when someone entrusts you to be a part of something that you’ve never done before. I am not worried about Nicki Blue. I know that she is in very good and capable hands on set. It’s the rest of us that I’m worried about when the packaging of the shoot includes blatant misinformation.

That about how I feel too.