penises

Funny Captain America Parody Prompts Analysis of Serious Topic: Jokes, Insults, and Insinuations About Penis Size

Mon, 2011-08-08 00:42

And as long as I'm complaining about men getting short schrift, I might as well complain about this one too.

Don't get me wrong, it's a wonderfully well-done parody of the actual Captain America movie. I enjoyed the movie and I enjoyed the spoof.

But geez! Do you think it'll still be fun to routinely make jokes about small penises even after we stop making fun of every other physical characteristic that's considered less than optimal that anyone routinely feels bad about?

Because if I had a less than average sized penis (mine's perfectly average) I'd get pretty tired of all the jokes.

And not to put too fine a point on it, I'd get pretty tired of the routine coupling of personal animosity and speculation about penis size: you'd never know it to hear people talk but chances are the average enormous jerk has an average sized penis. Even more to the point, as far as I've ever been able to tell from locker room encounters, men with smaller penises don't actually try and "compensate," nor do men with larger ones tend to be arrogant or privileged.

Again, funny parody, serious topic

Renewed HNT-Participation Link Plus a Startled Realization About Penises and the Internet

Thu, 2010-05-06 15:23

One of the weirder, much-less noted phenomena of internet and porn culture is that a lot of people now have a better idea what a penis looks like erect than how they look most of the time. Even if they don’t participate in online dating websites! :-) But seriously, chances are that thanks to the pervasiveness of porn and its collateral practices most people have now seen more naked men with erections than men without.

If you’d been making predictions about the future of the internet back in, say, 1992-1994 I’m pretty sure that wouldn’t have made very many people’s lists.

Speaking for myself my days of posting penises, of any sort at all, are pretty much over. But as long as I’m here I might as well add that I am still quietly participating in the Half-Nekkid Thursday photo meme. (No penises but not especially safe for work either.)

Not Unusual to Feel Standoffish About Handjobs

Thu, 2009-08-27 17:54

Abby Spector, guest-posting forEm & Lo says

I consider myself a sexual adventurer. As a bisexual who has posed naked for photographers, enjoys threesomes, and has a collection of vibrators, I think I deserve the label. However, there is one sexual act I refuse to partake in: handjobs.

For years I struggled trying to perfect my phallus-massaging abilities. Touching peen is only the first foot on third base (with oral being a whole body slide). We are taught that we have to run the diamond in base order. No skipping allowed. Five bruised penises later, I have learned how to stand up for myself. I look men in all three of their eyes and tell them the truth. “I, Abby Spector, will never give you a handjob.”

She said it here.

Here’s my take on handjobs. (Which in places, except for the bruising part, echos some of Spector’s points.)

I sort of held off waiting to hear other people’s comments before leaving my own. But based on what’s been said so far I think the big surprise ought to be where people (who haven’t tried it) ever got the idea handjobs for men are easy. And please don’t worry about it or feel dumb for not knowing — you’re so not the only one it’s not funny.

I think it’s sort of a natural mistake. Very young men can be pretty quick to ejaculate, and unless I’m really mistaken handjobs are most common really early in sexual relationship formation. Conversely handjobs fall out of favor pretty quickly once men, and their partners, begin to add penetrative acts to their repertoire. Add in the mistaken observation that if he can rub one out in a minute or two then it ought to be easy for her. (Most men, if you think about it, take months and even years to figure out how to do it the first time too!)

Yes, there are men for whom handjobs are easy and rewarding, and there are women for whom it comes naturally. But out of all the times I’ve had sex with partners I can think of only one or two times that someone managed to find the right spots, and the right rhythms, and had the interest, and the stamina, to get me all the way off — and not just warm me up — with just her hands.

That said, if you’ve actually been bruising your partners trying to get them off here’s a tip: Back off! There are some (not most) kinksters that might work for but even though almost all men like firmer pressure than most women would, but if you’re being rough enough to leave marks you’re also being way too rough to get him off. Point being “try harder next time” is not the solution to every problem!

Studying Hard

Sat, 2008-02-02 23:33

Miss Wolfe of Love in the Capitol has a short post about erections

while talking to a friend recently, i learned some very weird information. she told me males can have erections while in the womb. it isn’t only in the womb though, men can have erections at any point in their life and have them quite frequently as an infant. now, i have never been pregnant and my brothers are older or just around my age so i never experienced this. i guess what it comes down to is men just don’t stand a chance. i should have to cut you some slack because its just out of your control. out of curiosity, when is the youngest age you can remember having an erection?

I’ve copied the whole post but I got it from here.

Yes, we can get them at any time. Yes, sometimes infants are born with them and they certainly get them any time thereafter. I guess we probably get them before we’re born too but I’d never thought about it. Oh, and very, very often men allegedly get erections when, or soon after, they die. So yup, any time.

When a small boy says his tee-tee-er hurts it’s a good idea to suggest he reach in and adjust himself. (My mom, at the time socially very conservative but also very up on pediatric medical lore, told me about that.) What hurts is usually that it gets caught on clothing as it gets hard and — since it’s not going to stop — it gets a bend in it and that’s quite painful.

Unverified rumor: the penis gets insufficient oxygen when not erect and so men have erections on and off for up to 60% of the time we’re sleeping. (I’m not positive about that. We certainly have erections most of the night but one of the risks of a “stuck” erection is… more oxygen issues. That could be from the risk of blood pooling and clotting though. I’m not sure.)

Anyway, last thing is that a lot of people, ok, women, seem to have the impression that if we get hard we have to ejaculate, or possibly a cold shower or big scare, before it’ll go away. Nah. They go away by themselves. Another thing, we get our erections way earlier in the arousal cycle than women so they’re more like the equivalent of your first hint of lubrication than “must do something about this now!”

I think it’s a shame they’re so misunderstood. By women, of course, but also by men. Some times they freak us out as much as they freak out anyone else but they’re not that bad. Ok, actually they’re kind of nice even if they don’t get petted.

Now.

As luck would have it, I’m studying boning up for an exam in my combined communications theory / women’s studies / sex education class and a huge component of the test will be male and female sexual anatomy. Including, unfortunately, correct spelling (where does the “y” go in epididymis again?) But including, fortunately, detailed drawings we get to label with those correct spellings.

And that’s cool. Everyone should get a chance to see what grown up men and women are made of. (Must see, incidentally, is this sweet video Lux Alptraum linked to called Cunts for Fags. It’s a hands-on workshop for gay men to get to know about women’s bodies. At least one of the volunteers is a trans man which is kind of cool, and the two main guys they interview for their reactions are just adorably surprised and positive-sounding about it.)

Anyway, while it’s nice to have diagrams I’m always surprised how even external anatomical drawings just don’t look the way we really look. Goodness knows we can find pictures enough of real people, or at least some subset of them, simply by opening a spam email if you’re looking for women’s bits, or posting almost any kind of personal ad at all on Craig’s List if you’re looking for men’s. But even so it would be really nice to have a study partner because real life is just… cooler.

For one thing, unlike 99.9% of the photos we see, real life study partners aren’t always already wet, or hard, or engorged, or tumescent, or… any one thing. Which is, of course, what real people are all about and one of the things that’s really missing from porn! Actually if it wasn’t missing those things I’m not even sure we’d recognize it as “porn.” Though we may never know. :-)

Incidentally I’ve thought about posting a series of strictly instructional photos of me. Because, as I’ve mentioned, one almost never, ever sees them anything but soft, in “erotic” photos, or completely hard in “pornographic” ones. For extra credit I suppose it would be fun to label the parts with a felt-tip pen (maybe a moisture-proof one?) but one complication would be that whether I marked them while I was soft or erect my writing would be difficult to read after the transition to whatever state the other was.

Oh yeah, and while I’m at it, to help get people over the notion that they won’t go away, I still think about photographing the whole erection cycle from very small (I’m a serious “grower”) to full size and then using ice to shrink myself all the way back down again.

The main reason I don’t is I’m not positive the interest level would be particularly, well, positive. Comments always welcome though.

Sigh. Meanwhile, since I have no study-partner volunteers I’ll soldier on with my textbook and notes. Oh, and can’t forget the mirror!

Cocked Hat and Other Body-Part Metaphors

Wed, 2008-01-09 08:37

Cool discussions in comments about the expectations about sex and pain for women last week. Here’s follow up to the general idea.

A lot of sexual metaphors, not to mention straight-ahead descriptions, create the impression that men’s cock are ramrods, pistons, yards, rods of steel, spears, spikes, and other sorts of things that split, spear, rip, tear into, and otherwise, um, hurt.

I’m pretty sure I’ve mentioned this before but… ever look at an erect cock up close though? When you look at the incredibly soft skin of the shaft, and the velvety, spongy, softly rounded glans, all perfectly formed to gently enter… the only human organ who’s sole purpose is to caress another…

...when you look at it, really look at it, the real marvel isn’t that such words as “prong” and “impale” are associated with cocks, or even that they might even seem appropriate given how many experiences of (hetero, first-time) vaginal, oral, or anal intercourse appear to involve discomfort and/or pain. No, taking a good look or, even better, a good feel of a cock that’s sort of surprising, sure, but not the most surprising thing.

Most surprising? I’d say the most marvelous part would be that anyone might brag about the kind of ineptitude it takes to hurt someone with your cock.

Sure, it’s possible to hurt someone — the places they’re most often used have sensitivities (if not the stereotypical delicacy) of their own whether labia, cervix, and ovaries, or anus and rectum, or tonsils and muscles of the throat — but the failure to imagine it could be any other way, to take pride in it?

Pretty weird.

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