perpetrators vs. victims

Chart: The Goldberg Spectrum of Sexual Violence Denial, From Bad Men Project

Over at my other blog, The Bad Men Project I wrote

Goldberg Spectrum of Sexual Violence Denial
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In remarks both here and on my other blog I've made snarky references to what I've been calling "The Goldberg Spectrum of Sexual Violence Denial."  I'd like to explain what I mean with this chart.

In a nutshell the chart shows that what constitutes most people's people's notion of "sexual violence" rattles somewhere between Todd Aikin's so-violent-organ-failure-shuts-that-thing-down "legitimate rape" standard and Whoopi Goldberg's egregious Roman Polanski didn't commit "rape-rape" standard.  Anywhere to the right of Goldberg's standard on the spectrum and denial first creeps in and then roars.

First there's the infamous "gray area" of denial. Further over even if people concede the "gray area" isn't so gray they may still deny that catcalls or "stolen" kisses count. Then there's denial about whether boys or men can be victims. By the the time you get to still-on-the-spectrum epithets and slurs ("flat chested," "bad in the sack," "cocksucker," "fuck you," it's almost all denials because the violence is basically completely emotional rather than physical. And we're all still coming to grips with the idea that emotional bullying constitutes violence at all.

One consequence of leaving things up to Goldberg and Aikin is that over at that end of the spectrum victims really are overwhelmingly female and perpetrators overwhelmingly male. Unfortunately while the reality blurs the further one gets from the extreme edge of denial (see above) the stereotype is already set.

By the time you get to epithets, for instance, targets and recipients so varied it's basically impossible to characterize them.

Meanwhile if like too many people you're still rattling back and forth between Aikin's and Goldberg's standards you're still denying almost the entire range!  Much hilarity does not ensue. :-P


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For Those Who Say Feminists Never Care About Male Rape, Ozymandias Slams the Wedding Crashers

Image via AllMoviePortal.com. Cached as a bandwidth-conserving courtesy
Image via AllMoviePortal.com

Speaking of the difficulty men have being taken seriously when they're sexually assaulted, and speaking of the eternal MRA lament that feminists never take sexual assault of men seriously, in comments to This sounds this post, the distinctly feminist Ozymandias (of Ozymandias's Crushing and Venting Engine of Doom) takes seriously the problem male victims have, well, being taken seriously.

This sounds like an opportunity to rant about Wedding Crashers!

Seriously, THAT MOVIE. A movie in which a woman was tied up, had her mouth duct-taped and was forced into sex with man, whom she then had to learn to love, would never have been greenlit and would have been subject to boycotts and protests. But because it's a man, somehow he can't be raped?

I hate our culture sometimes.

She said it here

I hadn't seen the movie (not a huge surprise) but the Wedding Crashers plot summary actually is pretty bluntly assaultive (sexually and otherwise) but it's all jolly fun because the victims are mainly guys, right?  Ugg!

Hat tip Ozy!


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NCBI Study on Jurors' Perception of Criminals and Facial Hair: Might it Reveal an Appearance-Based "Absolve the Accused" Bias?

Note: This post started out as a fairly light-hearted entry on the myriad assumptions we make about other people's body hair, but the more I thought about it the more I started wondering if there might be an appearance-based "absolve the accused" reflex similar to the better known "blame the victim" one.

According to the NCBI ROFL curators at Discoblogs

Mock jurors’ perceptions of facial hair on criminal offenders.

“Two studies were conducted to measure whether mock jurors would stereotype criminal offenders as having facial hair. In Study 1, participants were asked which photograph belonged to a defendant in a rape case and which photograph belonged to a plaintiff in a head-injury case after they were “accidentally” dropped. The photographs were similar in appearance except one had facial hair. 78% of 63 participants (or 49) identified the photograph with facial hair as being involved in the rape case. In Study 2, 371 participants were asked to sketch the face of a criminal offender. 82% of the sketches (or 249) contained some form of facial hair. Results are consistent with the hypothesis that criminal defendants are perceived as having facial hair.”

Source: Discover Blogs

I know I keep bringing up stuff like this but the anthropology of body and facial hair is totally fascinating. We just have so many assumptions, prohibitions, mandates, biases, fetishes, and stereotypes related to class, race, religion, sexuality, and, evidently, criminality. All of which, of course, vary from country to country and sometimes year to year.

To be honest, though, this one surprised me. Poorly-shaven faces have been a stock icon for criminality in America for decades, of course, and that in turn has derived from ethnic and class stereotypes. E.g. "the poor" have always been assumed to look shabby and to be criminal; 19th Century WASPs believed Mediterranean immigrants had a propensity for five o'clock shadows and criminal violence; 20th Century America was deeply suspicious of communists, beatniks, and hippies, all of whom were believed to have beards and, once again, to be inclined towards both crime and violence; and here in the 21st Century pop-culture America seems to associate beards with both Islamic and American-loonie violence. So that's not the surprising part.

What is surprising about the study's results, at least to me, is that bearded men would be associated not just with crime in general, or even violent crime in general but violent sexual crime.  (Remember, the research subjects were asked to guess which violent crimes were committed based on photos of men they believed had all been accused of crimes of violence.

Meanwhile if you look at the demographics of the people who really are most likely to commit rape they have a decided tendency to blend in very smoothly with the rest of the male population.

Hmm... You know, as always, that studies, and especially small-scale ones, are best taken with grains of salt at least until corroborated with further, more substantial studies.  But to the extent this study suggests implicit but substantially incorrect assumptions about rapists I wonder if there there might be a social "perpetrator absolving" reflex very similar to the "she must have asked for it somehow" victim-blaming reflex where not only are victims judged on their superficial appearance but so are the accused.

It's not at all cool to assume that a victim "deserved" sexual assault based on something she wore.  It would be equally uncool if it turned out that similar assumptions were made based on the appearance of the accused.

Might be a good question to ask Constable Michael Sanguinetti


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On the Structural Advantage Held by Predators Vs Victims Who Are Prostitutes or Other Illegal Sex Workers

Her context is slightly different but while enumerating sometimes-spurious points raised in Manassas, Virginia, in opposition to opening a proposed sex-toy shop, Amanda Hess of TBD identifies one of the entirely impersonal, structural reasons prostitutes -- of all sexes, identities, and bodies -- are so often victimized:

"The author sometimes asks participants in training sessions, 'If your cell phone was stolen at Target, would you report the theft?' 'If the same phone were stolen at a strip club, would you report the theft?' Many people who say 'yes' to the first question demur to the second."

Source: Amanda Hess

Now consider the case of two street/subsistence people of equal evident presence of mind and physical ability, one a panhandler and the other a streetwalker. A mugger assessing the risks while deciding who to rob is going to naturally gravitate towards... which? The one who can file a complaint with the police or the one who can't afford the risk?

Now in the eyes of a conservative Republican on the one hand and in the eyes of Jesus of Nazareth on the other, there might be little difference between a street beggar and a streetwalker. But for too many others, from crusading anti-feminist anti-prostitute activists to serial killers like Gary Ridgeway, the differences are and should remain stark: working prostitutes should always, always be kept sufficiently worried about afraid of arrest that they remain properly vulnerable to robbery, rape, roughing up, murder, or extortion of sex by police.

As always, one needn't approve of prostitution to be appalled by the collateral, non-moral, non-sex-related impact of its criminalization.


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Insights into Privileged Thinking: Emily Zitek and Colleagues Research Paper "Victim Entitlement to Behave Selfishly"

Via Tyler Cowen Eric Barker of Barking Up the Wrong Tree points to an interesting-looking social psychology paper on entitlement and selfishness as it relates to a sense of victimization.

Does feeling like a victim make you selfish?:

Three experiments demonstrated that feeling wronged leads to a sense of entitlement and to selfish behavior. In Experiment 1, participants instructed to recall a time when their lives were unfair were more likely to refuse to help the experimenter with a supplementary task than were participants who recalled a time when they were bored. In Experiment 2, the same manipulation increased intentions to engage in a number of selfish behaviors, and this effect was mediated by self-reported entitlement to obtain positive (and avoid negative) outcomes. In Experiment 3, participants who lost at a computer game for an unfair reason (a glitch in the program) requested a more selfish money allocation for a future task than did participants who lost the game for a fair reason, and this effect was again mediated by entitlement.

via Journal of Personality and Social Psychology – Vol 97, Iss 5

Barker said it here.

Quick note: Barker may have been citing the print version. For whatever reason, though, the the article appears online in JPSP Vol 98, Issue 2: Victim entitlement to behave selfishly Zitek, Emily M.; Jordan, Alexander H.; Monin, Benoît; Leach, Frederick R. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Vol 98(2), Feb 2010, 245-255.

I’m not going to cough up ~$12.00 to read the gated version but while digging around for more information it looks like the same results turn up quite a few similar studies of selfishness, fairness, and sense of entitlement. I ought to add it makes sense because it’s been my intuition, stated repeatedly online and in real life, that privilege and entitlement (stereotypical male in particular, kyriarchal in general) derives more from insecurity and resentment than the stereotypical spoon-in-your-mouth aristocratic sense of “the peasants are revolting.” And finally makes sense because I’ve been around my children and their friends for 13 years now… although that experience might be unscientifically anecdotal. :-)

At any rate, assuming the research supports the conclusion, and assuming it confirms similar prior research, it’s going to supports my contention that those who exercise privilege tend to perceive their actions as defending themselves from unfairness or attack. With the result that asking, say, men to “give up” their privileges never seems to work (and, when it does sort of work, seems really wimpy, half-hearted, or passive-aggressive. Or chivalrous, which would be by far the least productive!)

I think it also supports my developing strategy of attempting to recruit “oppressive” classes with the entirely reasonable (and often easily-observed) point that conditions that are worse for someone don’t necessarily imply that conditions are better for you.


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Alleged Craigslist/Hotel Killer Allegedly Arrested

Jessica Van Sack, O’Ryan Johnson and Edward Mason of The Boston Herald report that the so-called Craigslist killer who seemed to be preying on sex-workers, has been arrested.

A clean-cut Boston University medical student preparing to wed a blond beauty was charged last night as the notorious Craigslist killer, cops said, announcing a bombshell break in a case that has attracted national attention.

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The Craigslist killer is believed to have preyed on women advertising erotic services on the popular Web site. Boston police say Markoff is responsible for the violent robbery of a Las Vegas hooker at the Westin Copley April 10, the brutal April 14 murder of masseuse Julissa Brisman, 26, of New York City, and Thursday’s attack on a lap-dancer in her room at the Holiday Inn Express in Warwick, R.I.

They said it here.

So late this morning I was trapped in front of cable television and some talking heads on Fox were discussing the case. One said the motive appeared to be robbery. Another asked why target sex workers? Another answered that there are the following considerations:

1) “Remember, sex work is illegal so [the robber] would know they’d probably be carrying cash.”

2) The robber appeared to be timing his attacks for late in the evening when, at least on average, the sex workers would have already seen multiple clients.

3) They’d probably have the cash on them because… something like… they can’t just go around making bank drops with all this unreported income.

And finally

4) He knew they couldn’t go to the cops.

I would add that if you were going to go that route you’d look for independent, non-escort-service, non-pimped sex workers. Booking agencies evidently take credit cards so I’m assuming escorts typically carry only tips. Pimps are allegedly a lot more attentive both about the customers they send their workers to and about collecting the cash.

So! We all just love keeping sex work illegal because, you know, prostitutes are victimized. And yet… and yet… as the talking head said, the only thing stopping the victims from taking cards themselves, from making frequent bank drops, from doing better vetting, from having more open presence with hotels is that the non-booked, non-pimped work they arrange through venues like Craigslist are illegal.

As I usually say, charming little system opponents have worked out for themselves: they help create the system of exploitation and then they click their tongues and shake their heads and say “told you so” when their system works.

%#_(*@!


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4/20 vs. 80 Proof

My city’s former chief of police, Norm Stamper, (he resigned to take a position with the Obama administration) has a nifty article in Huffington Post comparing marijuana and alcohol from a health, cost, and most importantly a police-activity point of view. (Emphasis mine.)

Alcohol contributes to acts of violence; marijuana reduces aggression. In approximately three million cases of reported violent crimes last year, the offender had been drinking. This is particularly true in cases of domestic violence, sexual assault, and date rape. Marijuana use, in and of itself, is absent from both crime reports and the scientific literature. There is simply no link to be made.

Over the past four years I’ve asked police officers throughout the U.S. (and in Canada) two questions. When’s the last time you had to fight someone under the influence of marijuana? (I’m talking marijuana only, not pot plus a six-pack or a fifth of tequila.) My colleagues pause, they reflect. Their eyes widen as they realize that in their five or fifteen or thirty years on the job they have never had to fight a marijuana user. I then ask: When’s the last time you had to fight a drunk? They look at their watches.

All of which begs the question. If one of these two drugs is implicated in dire health effects, high mortality rates, and physical violence—and the other is not—what are we to make of our nation’s marijuana laws? Or alcohol laws, for that matter.

He said it here.

By odd coincidence I quit smoking dope and drinking booze when I was 21. I had a good excuse: I was so stoned from a New Years from “how high is high” competition involving bong hits, whiskey shots, and tabs of LSD that when someone asked what my New Year’s resolution might be I smirked and slurred “I’m going to quit smoking dope, quit drinking, and hitch-hike to California.” Everyone, including me, had a good laugh. But maybe seven hours later, even though I had a job and a place to live a hundred miles to the east and didn’t know a soul in California, there I was, bleary eyed and poorly dressed for the weather, on a west-bound interstate exchange somewhere in rural Tennessee with my thumb out. I only stayed in California for a couple of months but I’ve scarcely drunk nor smoked since. (Be careful what you wish for!)

And so I ought to be able to say, using a rustic Tennessee aphorism, that I have no dog in the pot vs. potables fight. But I do. So do you. Domestic violence, date rape, stranger rape, unsafe or unprotected sex, misused or neglected contraception, uncalled for provocation, robberies, muggings, and murder tend to involve alcohol at an extraordinary rate…

Oh, and sometimes the victims have been drinking too. What, you didn’t think I was about to start blaming victims did you? Yeah, victims are often drunk, and sometimes helplessly or recklessly drunk, but… and correct me if I’m wrong… but I’m given to believe that the distinguishing characteristic of victims is the presence of a perpetrator. And perpetrators are overwhelmingly likely to be measurably drunk. (I’ll go one step further and say the likelihood of victims being drunk has waaaaayyyy more to do with their proximity to other drinkers than anything intrinsic to their own insobriety. Call me a rebel here.)

Meanwhile pot? I dunno. Pot makes you dumb and say “wow” a lot, but based on first, second, and third-hand experience people spend a heck of a lot more time regretting things they do but wanted to while high than actually regretting things they did. Whereas with alcohol? Um, not so much.

One thing that’s pretty interesting about pot, by the way. An amazing number of women have told me they first figured out how to have multiple orgasms… or sometimes to have orgasms at all… while high on pot. As for men? Well, speaking only for myself, despite smoking pot heavily during the most sexually active years of my life I honestly don’t believe I ever had sex while high. Not “I can’t remember.” Just that I tended to have other priorities. Like listening to music on headphones and talking with people about rolling another bone, bro. Alcohol? Yeah, I’m sure it boosts some people’s orgasmic potential but overall alcohol… especially frequent or heavy use… plays a very large role in “erectile dysfunction” in men, comparable dysfunction in women, and overall very high level of dissatisfaction among partners due to it’s clinical suppression of active (as opposed to “oh whatever”) libido.

Anyway, I’m not saying people shouldn’t drink, although I sincerely wish they wouldn’t. And I’m certainly not saying I wish people smoked pot instead.

I’m just saying that if everybody stopped smoking pot tomorrow society would barely register it. If everyone stopped drinking tomorrow society would noticeably lower need for police, medical, and social-services.

Hmm… I’m trying to find a non-curmudgeonly way to close this post. I guess I’ll just say that, at least for April 20th, if you’re going to drink at all drink bong water… um no, still curmudgeonly… happy April 20th.

(Via Jill at Feministe.)


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Why Not "Family of Five Finally Safe From Attacks By Strangers?"

In a post titled “Let’s Play ‘What’s Wrong With This Headline’” Historiann says (all emphasis hers.)

OK, kids–here’s today’s challenge:  “Couple, their 3 kids found dead in Maryland home.

Who or what might have killed an entire family?  Was it carbon monoxide?  Botulism?  World War II ordinance discovered in the sandbox too late?  (I’m humming the Jeopardy theme while you click and read.)

Time’s up!

If I were the grandparent who discovered my daughter and grandchildren murdered by my son-in-law, I sure as heck wouldn’t like the news dubbing the murderer and my daughter a “couple,” and the senseless slaughter of my grandchildren as being “found dead” instead of “murdered by their father.”

Read the quote in context here.

Yeah, while not everyone’s as thrilled about the 50th anniversary of Strunk and White, this particular form of passive construction is getting a little stale.

The good news, if you can call it that, is that (statistically speaking) is that in less than a week they’ll have another chance to practice headlining the next such story using active construction.

Seriously! If the mainstream can’t even accurately describe what’s happening how on the big blue marble are they going to be able to address it? As Historiann put it in her piece

Why isn’t this considered a national public health emergency? Where are the ad campaigns encouraging people not to keep guns in their homes, and urging men to seek counseling if they take their anger out on their family members? (Hey–it’s worked so far with drunk driving and smoking–maybe not so much with the anti-drug campaigns.)

The irony is that the murderers almost invariably believe owning firearms protects “their” wives and children from… strangers!

%@*$#!


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Great First Step: Treating Child Sex Workers as Children Instead of Criminals

Hortense of Jezebel has some good news

Several states have begun taking steps to better protect teenagers who end up in prostitution rings, treating the teen prostitutes not as criminals, but as victims of abuse, and charging their pimps with human trafficking.

Prosecutor Nancy O’Malley, who wrote California’s sexually exploited minors law, tells Christina Hoag of the Associated Press: “This is an institutional shift. It’s about getting people to shift their attention and judgment from the minor and seeing what’s beyond this criminal behavior.” Several other states, including New York, are following suit, offering rehabilitation programs rather than jail time for children caught up in the sex trade.

She said it here.

The thing is there’s a bit of a chicken/egg problem with legalizing adult sex work: because it’s currently a criminal enterprise criminals have considerable latitude to not engage in activities that ought to be legal but also to engage in acts that decidedly shouldn’t. Yet resistance to legalization is high precisely because of the corners criminals cut. Corner cutting, incidentally, that legal or decriminalized sex workers would be unlikely to tolerate were it legal and non-jeopardizing for them to complain. But I digress.

The real point is that conflicting social priorities have tended to treat prostitutes in general, and child-prostitutes in particular as nominal victims but actual criminals (see item #1 in the Two Rules of Desire. Especially since victims of child prostitution are generally seen as especially “broken” since they’ve already had Teh Sex and all.) Anyway a move to instead treat child-sex laborers as actual victims is pretty welcome.

The next step in that direction, of course, would be to prosecute pimps and customers with (generally overreactive but in this case laudably and, even better, enduringly punitive) child-sex and child-exploitation offenses. As it currently stands sex with a minor tends to be “washed away” if the child is a sex worker. Turning that on its head where prosecutors disregarded the sex-work angle and simply started putting customers on life-long, wherever-you-live sex-offender registries would have a marvelously “chilling” effect on customers who currently needn’t worry at all about age.

Anyway, if you’re anti-sex-work you should be fine with that. And if you’re pro-sex-work you should be fine with that too. Any time the question of legalization comes up the anti-sex-work side raises the child-prostitution issue. The best thing the decriminalization/legalization side could do is take the issue away from their opponents with vocal support for initiatives like Nancy O’Malley’s.


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