pink ghetto

Blogging In the Pink Ghetto Does Have Its Own Rewards... But Still

Looks like voting has begun on the biggie of weblog awards, the, well, Weblog Awards. And once again there’s no category for sex blogs. Not even blogs like this one that are a lot more about the politics and sociology of sex than about things one does, has done, or can do with his, hers, or ter’s moistey frictiony bits.

Oddly they’ve got an LGBT category, which is actually pretty nice of them: It’ll be hard to choose between Pam’s House Blend since Pam (who also blogs at Pandagon) rocks on politics at the intersection of orientation, gender, and race, and Susie Bright’s Journal since while Susie certainly blogs about LGBT issues she actually blogs about Teh Sex in all its dimensions including L, B, G, T, A(sexual), and S(traight.)

But alas I’m not so much an LGBT blogger — the (functional and dysfunctional) conniptions of heterosexuality being both interesting enough and, more to the point, dire enough to keep me busy nearly almost full time. Since I blog a fair amount about feminism (or perhaps more accurately about anti-feminism and anti-anti-feminism) there might have been room for Real Adult Sex in a feminism category. But alas while there are thousands of feminist blogs, and hundreds of excellent ones, there’s no category for those either.

There’s also a Best Culture Blog category, but that seems more appropriate to The Cool Hunter or Art of Manliness’s articles like How to Shave Like Your Grandpa than this blog or, say, Andrea Zanin’s Sexgeek.

True, in 2006 sex-blogger par excellence Zoe Margolis’s Girl With a One Track Mind won an award in the Best UK or Irish Blog category but, alas again, this isn’t a UK blog nor was hers a WeblogAwards award (hers was from The Bloggies. So that’s out.

And since I’m coming up on my fourth (or is it fifth?) anniversary it’s way, way too late to land a Best New Blog award but there are… well… too many great new sex-and-sexuality blogs this year to even imagine picking what my first choice would be.

So…

Kind of a bummer there’s nothing for us. It’s not like sex is insignificant in the grand scheme of things. And even out of date as it usually is my sidebar is still full of excellent sites, many of which I think would be great candidates in a sex-blog category. If only someone wanted to host a category for them.

Oh well, we know who we are. For that matter they know who we are! And if they’re uncomfortable unrecognizing us we’ll have to recognize each other. Hats off (at the very least) to everyone willing to do good work here in the “pink ghetto.”

Flagged by Technorati Terms of Service?


Photo by Flickr user robotson. Used under a Creative Commons license.

Well that’s nettlesome! Technorati has evidently flagged this blog as in violation of its Blog Quality Guidelines, which read, in part

Engaging in the following types of behavior increases the likelihood that your blog will be Suspended or Removed.

  • Do not republish content from other sites without adding your original commentary or reaction.
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  • Do not tag exessively. Make sure the tags you use to describe your posts really do describe your posts. If we see high occurrences of unrelated, variants and synonyms, or over-use of tags in your posts, we may conclude that your site is trying to game the system.
  • Do not promote or participate in viral linking schemes.
  • Do not ask us to index objectionable, obscene, offensive content or content that promotes or displays pornography. Use of Technorati is subject to our Terms of Service.
  • Do not publish posts with nonsense text intended to boost keyword matches in search engines.
  • Do not be overly repetitive. If we find that your posts all contain the same content and/or links, your site may be considered gaming the system or link spam.
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When I log into my account I get

Sorry, we can’t find that blog

We’re sorry…we don’t have a blog by that name. If this is your blog, look over our Blog Quality Guidelines and submit your blog for review by pinging us. Or better yet, claim your blog to get into the high priority queue!

When I go back and try to “claim my blog” I get

This URL has been flagged by our systems. Please read our Blog Quality Guidelines for more information.

I know I’m a bit repetitive but not, I hope, excessively. And I have to assume I haven’t been flagged for excessive commercial intent. So… anyone else in the “pink ghetto” been unable to directly track their blog through Technorati? (I can still indirectly track it, for now anyway, via their standard search .) Or do you suppose it’s some other problem?

If it’s just me it’s just me, and I’ll just switch the rest of the way over to Google Analytics, which has some very nice tracking features. If other sex bloggers have been getting the boot, though, that’s annoying.

Because "Part-of-Everyday-Life Blogging" Would Be Such a Mouthful

Z of The Naked Truth says

The other day, someone said to me that this is not a sex blog, it’s an emotion blog. Is it? I don’t know. Maybe it’s a sex-through-a-veil-of-emotion blog, or an emotion-through-a-veil-of-sex-blog, or it’s more of a relationship blog than a sex one, mainly detailing the close and generally fulfilling one between my body and my head.

Read the quote in context here.

Funny how you never hear people say “well, he’s not a real a food blogger” or “You couldn’t really call her a transportation policy blogger.”

Something similar popped up in comments when The Ethical Slut discussed vulvodynia, a decidedly sex-related topic for her because it was getting in the way of (ok, effectively wrecking) her ability to enjoy intercourse. The commenter said “Wow, the writing here has gotten to be a bit of a downer. Meh. Buh bye.”

Anyway, I got a little lightbulb reading Z’s post though and I think maybe the distinction isn’t sex vs. non-sex blogs but sex vs. reliable-wank-material blogs. (And by the way I think TES’s retort to her commenter supports my contention.)

Anyway this is all kind of a nuisance. On the one hand you’re not a “sex blogger” if you don’t reel off your nightly encounters. Meanwhile for everyone else if you use any of the Carlin words it’s off to the pink ghetto, never to be seen by Google or Ad-Sense again.

Once a Naked Blogger?

In a post titled “Once a Stripper, Always a Stripper” Lux Alptraum of BOINKOLOGY says of a promo for a new HBO series.

“It’s being written by smart stripper Diablo Cody, and produced by a man named Steven Spielberg. Great, just what we needed—another reason to watch TV.”

Get it? Diablo Cody took her clothes off! That’s all you need to know about her. Isn’t it funny? She was a sex worker, and now she’s a screenwriter! That’s so cute!

It’s a laugh a minute, all right.

Read the quote in context here.

Yeah, I always wonder if my more political posts would get linked back to more often if a) I was ever right or b) if I’d never posted photos of my booty or c) both.

Shoulda thought of that years ago though.

Oh well, since I did and since Lynn Gazis-Sax and Sungold are still celebrating female desire week I’ve included three of the photos most often marked “favorite” from my Flickr photo stream after the “continue reading” jump.

(Oh yeah, and while the first image isn’t as not-work-safe as it appears, you probably still wouldn’t want to try explaining it to someone else from work.)

Happy Blog Amnesty Day!

Photobucket Blogroll Amnesty Day Banner

All things considered the reason today has been designated Blogroll Amnesty Day isn’t as important as that there is such a day.

And if you’re not sure what it might be, here’s the idea, as articulated by non-sex blogger Mike of Mike the Mad Biologist

[T]he start of 2008 seems like a good time to have another Blogroll Amnesty Day. If you’re not on my blogroll, and I’m on yours, leave me a link below and I’ll add you (note: racists, creationists, and flat-out weirdos won’t be accepted).

Please put your blog name on one line, and the url on the second line, like so:
Mike the Mad Biologist
http://scienceblogs.com/mikethemadbiologist/

or give me a line of html code, like so:
Mike the Mad Biologist

Thanks!

Source: Probably pretty obvious at this point

Ok, technically, I first heard about it from Blue Gal who in turn got it from another non-sex blogger, Stephen Herron of Drinking Liberally in New Milford, who in turn got it from Mike. And me? I was reminded today was the day from a post by M.Yu of the distinctly power-exchange-oriented The Jade Gate.

So! Same deal: If I am on your Blogroll and you notice that you are not on mine, tell me! I will add you. Heck… Add me to yours and I will add you to mine. Just drop a note in comments here.

Couple of things: Unlike Blue Gal, Stephen Herron, and Mike the B who aren’t part of the pink ghetto, as Melissa Gira calls sex bloggers, linking to me can be a bit stigmatizing. I totally get that even though I actually blog mostly about sexuality as it pertains to politics and gender there are quite a few sites that can’t comfortably link to me without rumbling their advertisers and/or colleagues and/or employers and/or partners, children, neighbors, and friends.

That’s ok. My original scheme when I stumbled across this domain name and saw it was available and thought it was too good a name to pass up was to start a totally non-sex oriented media-and-the-first-amendment site and make hay out of how often what would have been entirely innocuous content got firewalled or NannyNetted based on the name alone. But I didn’t do that, choosing instead to tackle sex head on (for what I believe are obvious reasons).

So, all this is preamble to saying how much I appreciate those of you of every blogging “denomination” who do link, quote, and blogroll me. Thank you. I’ll be honored to return the favor.

Note: Speaking of returning the favor, I’ve just added M.Yu’s The Jade Gate since, it turns out, he has me in his blog roll. Who’s next?

There’s still plenty of time…

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