Ok, so the other day in class, during a sex-ed lecture on vanilla intercourse positions our professor was discussing the merits and demerits of rear-entry intercourse.

Anyway, while I was thinking about some of what makes that general position enjoyable for me, someone in class sort of took the mental words out of my mouth by mentioning, with a great deal of enthusiasm, the variation where she’s lying on her stomach with her legs together and her partner straddling her with his legs outside hers, and how afterwards she just doesn’t want to move. I’ve noticed that with quite a few partners as well. I mean, people say it’s a men’s habit to fall asleep after sex but it seems that that particular position more than most others has been most likely to have that effect on, well, quite a few of my partners as well. (Apologies for the even more highly qualified, disjoint sentence than usual there, I’m not sure why but I feel shy talking about it. It’s not bragging because I’m pretty sure it’s the position and equally sure it’s not me. But… eh, anyway.)

Anyway, Linda Sue of Linda Sue’s Diary mentions the effect that position can have on men.

I’ve never known a man who wasn’t wildly attracted to the position. It started with my very first lover. Some of my long-lasting athletes — the ones who can even withstand my killer pelvis oscillation that makes lesser men lose it — these guys come quickly once they’re fucking me from behind.
Read the quote in context here.

Woozie, it certainly has that effect on me. I’m not sure everyone likes their partner to say “oooh stop, stop, please don’t move a muscle, I could come any second…” but that’s one position where without help from a partner I’m not just done but undone!

Once I’m able to adjust to that sort of sensual overload then I can be the majesticall studly stallion men think we’re supposed to be like… ok, ok, or pocket vole, mongoose, or leopard, or elephant — there are after all4,629 currently recognized species of mammals, nearly all of which have intercourse the same way, that are more glamorous than “doggies.” Including people. Which brings me back to my point that it was nice to hear someone else corroborate what I couldn’t otherwise have been sure wasn’t just my imagination.

I might add that maybe it’s not even that unusual that such a primal position might produce such, well, primal results. Which are different from the face-to-face positions that, by and large, I tend to prefer for intimacy’s sake (love that cheek to cheek feeling, hands around my neck or shoulders, knees locked behind the small of my back, mmm… where was I?)

Oh yeah, face to face. Which brings up a point about rear-entry where — speaking for myself at least — I differ with Linda Sue:

Of course a cock in that position always wants to go an inch higher. But that’s a story for another day.

Anyway, the point being that while yes, rear-entry vaginal intercourse is awfully darn nice at least for me and evidently a lot of other men men, and, also evidently, for a sizable number of women, most of the things that make it so nice don’t actually translate all that well to rear-entry anal intercourse. For one thing, at least initially you have to move a lot more slowly and carefully, something that’s not so much in keeping with the “animal” passion people talk about experiencing with rear-entry sex. For another, anal intercourse seems to work best with a lot of feedback and checking in, and face-to-face positions just seem to facilitate that. And finally, at least for the recipient anal intercourse can be a lot more emotionally, physically, and even erotically intense and that’s just one more reason face-to-face positions seem like a better choice.

Hmm… if you’re inclined to comment I guess there’s a bunch of stuff in this post to comment about: favorite positions, their effects on you and what if anything you need to do to cope, how you feel about partners on the quivering edge of orgasm, how you think different genders think about different positions, and then if you’re into anal activities what if any positions work for you.

Oh, one last thing about anal intercourse from my perspective: other than the obvious emotional/taboo/trust/be-very-conscious elements, and the need for even more lubrication… sensation-wise it’s not so different from vaginal intercourse. (Certainly not different enough in terms of strict sensation to account for the intense interest in certain lad magazines.)

[Note: Image behind the fold is just barely less work-safe than usual. And except for that only barely different from yesterday’s. —fl]