shaving

Rejecting No-Shave November But Not the Cause it Was Originally Meant to Benefit: Prostate Cancer Research

Wed, 2011-11-02 17:11

Cartoon from XKCD. Cached as a bandwidth-conserving courtesy
Photo Randall Munroe of XKCD. Used under a Creative Commons license.

According to this much up-voted (1488 up, 496 down) Urban Dictionary entry for "No Shave November"

No Shave November

To not partake in the use of a razor for the entire month of November.

This month has the effect of categorizing men, most of whom will have a girlfriend who disapproves and will counter by offering "No Sex November" as well. The pussies will cave within the first week and shave. The candidates will go the whole month without shaving. But the real men among us will not only not shave but will have sex anyway, once again proving the theory that women are always wrong.

Source: Urban Dictionary

The cool thing about no-shave November is the original idea was necessarily intended to benefit men: a fund raiser pledge for prostate cancer research.  And that's really, really great.

I mean prostate cancer is still kills 30,000 men a year. It killed Frank Zappa. It killed Egyptian mummies. It's highly problematic in the detection phase and treatment-choice phases. There are appalling side effects for both male victims and their partners.

The bad thing is how weird people get about whether women (who in much of the world shave far more of their ancillary hair than do men) are held up to either scorn, as in the above (unofficial!) definition, or else held up as "ew, gross, legs only, no pits" or "women should do no-makeup November" or "LADIES, please DON'T" to...

eh, just a bunch more unnecessary crap for...

what, again, was intended to benefit a genuinely worthy cause.

So just because I'm taking a pass on the "holiday," and recommending that others do likewise, I just donated $100 to the Institute for Prostate Cancer Research Fund at the University of Washington instead. And I recommend that others, including you, do likewise. Thanks!

The Complex Interplay of Preferences in Partner's Personal Grooming

Mon, 2011-08-01 11:07

Photo by Flickr user Nicole Marti. Cached as a bandwidth-conserving courtesy
Photo by Flickr user Nicole Marti. Used under a Creative Commons license.

Over on the Reddit sex thread a poster named dreadlezzepin asks a good tables-turning question.

Do women think its weird when men shave their pubes all the way off?

Just curious, I usually just trim but today I had to do some much needed manscaping to do so I shaved them all off, being that I wouldnt have to worry so much about them. So do women generally prefer guys with shaved pubic hair or more natural? Also, guys what do you do?

Source: Reddit

For the record the answers trend heavily towards trimming rather than complete removal or not modifying it at all.

I think this male pubic hair grooming trend is pretty interesting. (And while I can't find the link it's one I predicted years ago.) I mean, yes, men aren't as subject to the rigorous scrutiny of appearance that women are, and so the question will probably never have the incredible social weight (or antagonism) that women's pubic grooming has. So call what's happening to men a good control group that helps explain why so many women who don't otherwise give fashion the time of day end up grooming themselves.

The sensation of being touched on bare or closely trimmed skin really is greater than being touched through a thicker covering of hair; it really is amazingly easier to keep clean; it won't tickle your partner's nose when they kiss nearby, in some cases minimizing UTIs either for one's self or one's partners, etc.

Meanwhile I'm curious what, if any, collateral effects might show up over time as men continue to adopt pubic grooming, particularly in light of conflicting conveniences of doing it vs not, of feeling scrutinized by partners, the ongoing influence of porn (where shaving for men appears to be more and more common.)  And, of course, whether their partners do or don't groom theirs.  And why.

The (Rare but Real) Hazards of "Cosmetic" Shaving and Waxing

Thu, 2011-07-28 22:31

Photo by Flickr user Ruthy StinkFace. Cached as a bandwidth-conserving courtesy
Photo by Flickr user Ruthy StinkFace. Used under a Creative Commons license.

Feminist Law Professors says

Call it willful blindness, but I hadn’t seen this 2007 article from the Clinical Infectious Diseases journal (Oxford University).  Here is an excerpt from Severe Complications of a ‘Brazilian’ Bikini Wax:

Waxing . . . is the most common method for extensive depilation, and complications include burns, mechanical folliculitis, infectious folliculitis, other infections of skin and soft tissues, and contact dermatitis and/or vulvitis. Removal of hair causes skin microtrauma, with inoculation of pathogens and subsequent mechanical spread of infection. A recent systematic review of surgical site infections found that shaving resulted in more infections than clipping, presumably because the skin was not breached with clippers. Infecting organisms can be from autoinoculation of skin or vaginal flora and group A streptococci are known to colonize the vagina. Infecting bacteria can include S. aureus and Pseudomonas aeruginosa, and other potential pathogens include human papilloma virus, molluscum contagiosum, dermatophytes (such asTrichophyton ton- surans) resulting in Majocchi granuloma, and more unusual fungi, such as Sporothrix schenckii, which has been reported following electrolysis.

Citations omitted.  Read the full article here.

Source: Feminist Law Professors

Yes to this. These complications all sound exactly like the ones men face when we shave our... well... faces. It doesn't look like they mentioned MRSA in the section Prof. Crawford quoted but that's a risk too. For men it's a problem enough that athletes have been advised for years not to do "cosmetic shaving" in locker rooms (where too many men often have to share too few sinks when they're in too big a hurry to get out.) It's easy to see how similar problems would arise in waxing salons or even (as her quote suggests, during prep for surgery!)

In practice those complications are usually very rare, and women may be as likely to continue shaving as men do. But there is a risk and it can seem pretty big for strictly cosmetic benefits.

Scott Meyer On the Pressure to Shave Sensitive Body Parts or Risk Being Mocked By One's Partner

Tue, 2011-06-07 22:00

Image by Scott Meyer. Cached as a bandwidth-conserving courtesy
"Basic Instruction" comic by Scott Meyer. Used without permission while hoping he won't sue my keister.  Click to see full-size version on Scott's website.

Couple of quick reminders about shaving, especially about areas like necks that one doesn't shave every day.

  • Don't go over the area five times, especially if you usually don't shave that area or if you shave it only rarely.  Instead, especially if you're shaving an area for the first time in a while, don't go over any patch of skin more than twice in one day.  (Sure, you'll look a little scruffy for 24 hours, but you'll look scruffy with razor bumps too... and for more than 24 hours.)
  • Do use a good razor and a good lubricating shaving creme
  • Do soak the area in lots of warm water before shaving -- a good time to do it is at the end of a shower or bath after you've soaped and scrubbed, shampooed and creme-rinsed, and are otherwise done.
  • Do quickly rinse the area with cold or at least cool water afterwards to close the pores.
  • Do pat the area dry rather than doing the whole "vigorous toweling" thing.
  • If you're going to shave you'll usually find it easier and less irritating to keep shaving regularly than to do it every couple of weeks or months.
  • Oh yeah, and while I completely acknowledge it's easier to say than to do, don't let peer pressure, media representations, or a partner's expectations pressure you into doing something you're not comfortable doing.  Like shaving your neck.  Or other body parts.

HNT - Body Hair Issues, Back-Hair Edition

Wed, 2011-05-11 21:53

Introduction: For a number of years I participated in the Half-Nekked Thursday self-photography meme.  About a year or so ago I began winding down and I can't even remember the last time I participated.  Maybe because it's finally spring here (even if an unusually cold and wet one even for the Pacific Northwest) or maybe it's because I've really started perking up since beginning a course of Welbutrin about a month ago, or maybe it's because I don't think I'll ever shake the "NSFW" designation for my poor politics and sociology of sex, gender, and relationships, or maybe it's just for the heck of it.  But I was thinking about it the other day took a few experimental over-the-shoulder photos.  And made a surprise discovery about my physical apperance that I thought was worth bringing up.

So we're all aware that there's, um, controversy about whether or not people in general, and women in particular, should remove their pubic hair. All fine and fair enough -- there's considerable differences of opinion, much involving appearance-related pressure, others involving "pre-pubescence," others involving other esthetics such as sensation, texture, conformity, and even cleanliness.

So! Not much agreement there.

There's another, stealthier area where agreement about body-hair removal appears to be much closer to universal. It's in an unusual place. And it appears almost exclusively on only one biological sex.

Check out the following keyword searches (from Google, May 11, 2011.)

Image captured by Figleaf (hey that's me)
Image captured by Figleaf (hey that's me) Posted under a Creative Commons license.

Wild, huh? Considering the controversy it's not surprising that there would be more than million hits on the key phrase "hair removal pubic." One million hits!

Wilder, and perhaps weirder, there are seventeen million hits on the key phrase "hair removal back."

You can mix and match key phrases, adding for instance waxing, shaving, laser, and other removal-related terms to the base terms "pubic" and "back" and get fairly consistent results. Back hair -- typically an age-related development that tends to signal middle age in men (along with ear and nose hair) has very, very few advocates, adherents, or aficionados.

Sigh. Which means it's very likely that instead of spending time contemplating my cute but manly butt in the photo below (c'mon, it looks cute!) your attention may instead be drawn in more of a shoulder-ly direction. And if it does your attention may further be drawn to a not-quite-lush but growing dusting of back and shoulder hair.

Based on Google's results I'm guessing odds are about 17 to 1 that if you do notice the back hair you won't find it very appealing. But I'd be delighted to be proven wrong.

Image captured by Figleaf (hey that's me)
"Image captured by Figleaf (hey that's me) Posted under a Creative Commons license.

Happy HNT (or Half-nekkid Thursday!)

When it Comes to Shaving Bible Colleges Tell Men to Do What We Say, Not What the Bible Says

Sun, 2010-02-28 22:23

Chris of Cynical-C answers the question “How Does a Brigham Young Univ. Student Grow a Beard?”

By visiting a doctor and filling out lots of paperwork. I wonder if you could cut down on some of that if you just grow a mustache?

A student who wishes to obtain a beard exception must visit a BYU Student Health Center doctor by appointment (422.5156). The doctor will fax his recommendation. The student then needs to come to the Honor Code Office to fill out some paperwork and receive the letter allowing the growth of the beard, if approved. If a yearly beard exception is granted, a new Student ID will be issued after the beard has been fully grown, and must be renewed every year by repeating the process. If a request is granted for a temporary or more permanent beard exception the student will be notified by the Honor Code Office; at which time the student will come into the office to complete the necessary paperwork. After completion of this process the student may then grow a full beard according the guidelines given.

(via J-Walk)

That’s the whole post. I got it here.

The first commenter says that Pensacola Christian College dress code and Hyles Anderson’s are much worse. Anderson’s sounds vague but may be strictly enforced. Pensacola Christian College’s is, um, more strictly enumerated. As is is their behavior code. Both men and women must turn right down some road rather than left to go to a nearby beach, for instance. Students must not leave campus only with members of their own sex and never in groups smaller than three for men and five for women. Sheesh! The only concession to modernity seems to be an admonition for women to wear no more than two sets of earrings at a time.

The second commenter, Julia S., remarks that “finally something crappy for the guys to deal with. Go Jebus!!! Wait? Did Jebus need permission to grow HIS?!? Hey!!!!” Except for the “finally” part. equirements to shave really is one of the few appearance-related issues men are saddled with socially, compared to myriad such obligations imposed on women.

Further down KidneyPI raises a favorite issue of mine, given the Bible-beater obsession with Shalt Nots: “Being a religious school, shouldn’t they require beards? Leviticus 19:27 seems to forbid shaving.” (In Leviticus “rounding the corners of thy head nor beard” is at least as smite-worthy an abomination as homosexuality, premarital sex, or adultery and yet at Pensacola, Brigham Young, or Anderson it’s nothing but crickets.)

Post-Vacation Observations About Blog and Facial-Hair Maintenance

Tue, 2010-02-23 12:07

Quick note: I’m finally back from vacation, plus various other strong distractions, and I’ve finally had time to fix the blog. It should operate quite a bit faster. I’ll be taking a couple of steps to limit the hordes of comment spam I was getting before, including requiring comment previews again (sorry) and, if necessary, closing comments in older posts. If you notice other problems please let me know. Hopefully in comments. Finally, I’ve got a hella backlog of emails for the last two weeks or so. I’ll be trying to catch up this week.

The question for the Wise Guys advice feature on Em & Lo last week was says

What is the appeal (or not) of a woman who’s completely bare down there?

Read three answers from the Wise Guys, and at least 55 other answers in comments, here.

Yes, yes, I’ve already beaten the point to death but for immediately personal reasons related to my having not shaved while on vacation I’m going to give it one more whack.

I’m sitting here contemplating a rare but very irritated razor-burn rash under my chin, thanks in part to a razor blade I forgot to change, thanks in even more part to the fact that I had about a week’s worth of stubble and it’s really hard to see under my chin when I shave (always in the shower) and the surfaces are really hard to navigate a razor around safely anyway. Anyway, the irritated skin and hair follicles remind me once again how shaving is unnatural no matter who does it. Or where.

That said, my bare face is definitely more sensitive when my partner touches me there. It’s definitely easier to keep my face clean when shave regularly. I should also say that most of my partners have preferred to kissing and being kissed without a beard rather than with one. Personally I think I just tend to look better clean-shaven than with a beard or mustache. And of course some employers have been very strict about how my head and facial hair should be groomed.

Even without considering visual or partner or public preferences I think most people shave various parts of their bodies for the same reason I shave mine: occasional razor burn notwithstanding it’s more practical and the sensations are nicer for me.

But yikes! If you’re going to shave anything it’s a very good idea to keep your $#*@ razor blades sharp.

"What’s the deal with manscaping?" Answers at Em & Lo's

Wed, 2009-11-04 09:38

I’m in the monthly rotation for the popular “Wise Guys” column at Em & Lo. This week’s question for their rotating panel of single, and married straight men and married or committed gay man was “What’s the deal with manscaping? We’re talking both genitals and chests.” Here’s how I answered it.

Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Great question! It’s a great irony to me that, at least in Western Civilization, we don’t think anything of the original “manscaping” — men who shave their faces. For instance, you never hear debates about how shaving makes grown men look “prepubescent” even though technically that’s exactly what it actually does. As for the recent trend in straight men trimming or shaving pubic hair, I think you could make a case that it’s driven, at least a little bit, by the same things that drive women to do so: porn and advertising. The two come together in a recent razor manufacturer’s ad campaign with shaved kiwi fruit and hints about the “optical inch” of penis length that comes from trimming away an inch of pubic hair.

There’s also the point that it just feels nicer being kissed on bare skin than on hair… and, for many partners, it feels nicer kissing bare skin than hair. As for men grooming hair on the rest of the body, I think there are two big reasons. First, because it makes us look younger. Not so much “prepubescent” but, since body hair increases with age, not middle-aged or older. Second, because when it’s long it can be itchy both to ourselves and to our partners. Of course the other side of all that is first that a lot of women and/or men think body hair on men is very sexy, and second that stubble can be even pricklier than if we left well enough alone.

I said it here.

No sense analyzing my own writing (heck, I can’t even proofread my own writing!) so I’ll point out that the quality of comments is pretty different on the post at Em & Lo’s vs. their reprinted version at Yahoo Shine.

A number of Yahoo commenters are pretty down on manscaping because they see it as one kind of unmanly or another. Which makes the “Gay Engaged Guy,” Joel Derfner‘s answer priceless

I don’t know, but it doesn’t matter, because manscaping is, for all intents and purposes, dead. Gay men are manscaping less and less each year, which means that in a few years straight men are going to be manscaping less and less each year, and then our national nightmare will be over.

Yup, just let straight America get the notion that not shaving is Teh Gay!

Gillette and Schick stock will skyrocket and we can all go home. Oh wait! Scratch that last bit about stocks. Nearly all American men already own shaving products.

But getting back to the shaving makes you look less manly bit. Shaving makes men look less manly? Which is a riot because of course beginning to shave one’s face is often one of the first outward acknowledgments of manhood for boys.

Which makes the cultural perception gradient even weirder: shaving is supposed to make men look more womanly, meanwhile shaving is supposed to make women look more child-like. If there was any logic to gender conventions, since shaving is one of the first signals of manhood shaving ought to be seen as making women look more manly! I get so confused!

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Gender-neutral rhetorical question: do shaved armpits make everyone look pre-pubescent?

Back to Hair Removal, or Prepubescence Pre-Senescence Revisited

Mon, 2009-07-13 18:41


Photo by Flickr user stevegatto2, who I’m sure looks perfectly presentable with or without back hair. Used under a Creative Commons license.

Bridget Crawford of Feminist Law Professors has a thoughtful analysis of body-hair removal in the face of increasing marketing of shaving products and services to men. (She reports one Gillette tagline goes “you might say when there’s no underbrush, the tree looks taller.”)

While I strongly disagree that shaving one’s pubic hair makes one look prepubescent (when was the last time you heard that description of a man who shaves?) I agree with Crawford that body-hair removal for both women and men is closely associated with the culture of youth.

Example A? The “problem” of back hair. Back hair doesn’t really start to sprout in men till middle age. And so ads for back hair removal (either temporary or permanent) are a staple of aging-youth-oriented alt-weekly newspapers, where such ads are at least as common as ads for “bikini line” waxing.

Crawford says, sensibly,

[H]airlessness — obtained naturally or by grooming — is a sign of youth (the pre-pubescent look), body-consciousness (I can see those abs glisten!), self-care (when you trim your nails, trim your hairs) and other-regarding (how thoughtful of you to anticipate that I wouldn’t like hair up my nose — wait a sec, did you assume I’d be visiting this part of your anatomy on a first date?).

A marketing technique will be a sure winner if it appeals to men’s desire to feel, um, large. There’s a reason that Trojans don’t come in size “small.”

The hairless look? Shows off a guy’s “equipment,” in Gillette’s lexicon.

Anyone who’s eagerly looking forward to her or his partner sprouting those tufty little middle-age patches of hair on his back, shoulders, and the backs of his upper arms pipe up.

But if, as I suspect, anti-ancillary hair bias is as strong against men as it is against women, an even more effective marketing strategy would be to taunt men for looking like skeevy old men.

Also, her sentence “how thoughtful of you to anticipate that I wouldn’t like hair up my nose” can be read two ways for anyone over 40, for whom lushly abundant nose hair may be “perfectly natural” but is rarely greeted by partners with any hint of enthusiasm.

Clarification on "Prepubescence" and Gendered Hair Removal

Sun, 2009-07-05 18:37

In comments to my previous post about pubic hair and prepubescence Heather Corinna said “you might also bear in mind that when it is women who are saying that, what women’s view of female genitalia most frequently is. In other words, it’s from the top down, without seeing much more than the mons and outer labia.”

Doh! My apologies for any accusations about denial.

If the way you usually look at yourself then I can see how it might look a lot more similar than it would to one’s partner. But the usual assertion is that men want women to remove pubic hair so they’ll look prepubescent. In which case literally from men’s point of view it doesn’t really work that way.

That doesn’t mean men don’t make entirely unreasonable, oppressive, squeamish, or juvenile demands on their partners. And so neither does it mean that women should reflexively comply with either requests or, especially, demands from partners or to peer pressure (to shave or to not shave or, really, anything) from anyone else.

Instead its just that time spent imagining that men want women to look prepubescent is time spent not critically deconstructing the demand as, say,

  • feeding men’s voyeurism or visual oppression
  • adding yet another area for exacting beauty-standard conformity, assumptions that hair=male with its attendant overtones of intrinsic homophobia
  • perpetuation of a two-sphere or yin/yang model of gender in which anything men are women can’t be or anything women are men can’t be
  • standard demands for ever more default service and submission
  • exploitation of women’s indoctrinated anxiety about appearance
  • a manifestation of all those notions of uncleanliness

Oh, and of course,

  • the relentless and obsessive, sexuality-alienating sexualization of women’s bodies, period…
  • in a way that no amount of political, sartorial, military, or employer pressure on men to shave our faces will ever really compare to.

All such analysis, though, tends to go by the wayside if people just toss up the prepubescence argument anytime the question arises. And since all of the preceding is stuff that men need to confront, and since the prepubescent thing is maybe the single reason that isn’t why men might expect or demand hair removal I think it’s counterproductive and not just mistaken to repeat it.

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