Lynn Gazis-Sax of Noli Irritare Leones, reflecting on Hugo Schwyzer’s recent post endorsing the idea that orientation might be somewhat plastic after all raises a really important distinction.
Mutable and malleable aren’t the same thing. One of the reasons that the APA removed homosexuality from its list of mental illnesses was that reparative therapy, despite repeated efforts, really did have a super lousy track record (the other reason was, of course, that psychiatrists became less willing to believe that homosexuality was particularly broken). It still does. But people do sometimes shift along the Kinsey scale. Not generally from one end to the complete opposite, but still enough to be significant. Sexual orientation is sometimes mutable, but does not appear to be as malleable as it is mutable; no one has found a way of consciously changing it that works with any regularity at all. And those people who do experience shifts appear to experience them in unpredictable ways, that you can’t bottle up and use to get the same result in someone else.
That’s the distinction I was missing in, this post about the absurdity of people worrying about “protecting” heterosexuality, for instance, when trying to explain my conviction that orientation is innate.
Since I think orientation is a lot more complex than we’re led to believe I’m perfectly comfortable with it’s being mutable — that who we’re attracted to can shift over time. I’m not comfortable, however, with the idea that orientation is malleable — that one can externally influence another to change what they desire unless they’re ready at that point in their life to be disposed to that influence in the first place.
Via DemFromCT of Daily Kos, Kevin Huffman of the Washington Post says
On Sunday, as I hunker down with family and friends for the Super Bowl, I can rest easy knowing that CBS is working hard to defend my heterosexual sensitivities. On the surface, heterosexuality doesn’t seem like a particularly distinctive trait or one in need of broad institutional protections, but many seem to believe that we heterosexuals are delicate souls.
The media, the government, the military — all are ready to head off potential sightings of gay people.
In the case of the Super Bowl, CBS has refused to broadcast an ad by the gay dating Web site ManCrunch.
Sometime soon I’m going to have to write a post about “privilege,” which while technically accurate as it gets, and also glaringly obvious to those who don’t have it, is also nearly-by-definition, completely invisible to those who have it. That said, I like the way Huffman’s point illustrates a really huge problem with the invisibility of being the “normal” against which all else is “other.”
What I really wish people would get is that heterosexuality is as real and durable an orientation as homosexuality. I mean, it’s a peculiar condition of imagining one’s self “the norm” that it’s hard to understand you’re the way you are for exactly the same reasons others aren’t. You’re that way by accident of birth a.k.a. nature.
And by not getting that you’re also going to miss that you’re not “normal” temporarily, you’re not “normal” by whim, you’re not “normal” because you were exposed to the “right” or “wrong” social influence, and you’re definitely not “normal” by choice.
Any more than any given sexual “the other” is.
And that’s the thing. Being gay isn’t a choice! And one of the coolest things about getting that is that if you just thought about it you’d get that your heterosexuality wasn’t a choice either.
And if more people got that they’d get that they really don’t need the media, the government, the clergy, U.S. Marines and the Canadian Mounties, and, especially, various posses of gay-panic-stricken vigilantes to protect their heterosexuality. Or anyone else’s.
Well that was pretty quick. Melissa McEwen at Shakesville posted the late Mary Daly’s popular “origin of the word sin” quote by way of eulogy an early feminist icon. And, despite multiple apologies, promptly got threadjacked by accusations of transphobia. Enough so that another blogger at the site closed comments on the post.
The bone of contention being Daly’s evident transphobia. Which isn’t terribly widely know — little-known enough, for instance, to have caught the generally hyper-inclusive McEwen off guard.
If I have the main 70’s era categories of feminism that would have been current in Daly’s ascendancy she was a gender essentialist and not a gender equalitarian. That essentialism was a pretty big deal and one that, I’m pretty sure, is pretty incompatible with sympathy for the transsexual and transgendered.
Yes, you might argue, perfectly reasonably as many trans people do, that the real “essence” of one’s sex is determined by identity and not chromosomes. But that’s not going to carry a lot of weight with anyone who believes that, say, by its very nature the Y chromosome is irretrievably degenerate or that the planet needs to be “decontaminated” of individuals with that defect.
With that understanding transphobia is 100% consistent with gender essentialism. Racism and genocide would be consistent with antagonism towards gender equalitarianism. To an essentialist like Daly a man using plastic surgery and testosterone suppressing drugs to “pass” as a woman would be as viscerally offensive as a person of color using plastic surgery and melanin-suppressing drugs to “pass” as white would be to David Duke
That said, regardless of her motivation for analyzing the gendered status quo one can still learn from her analysis of its structure and flaws. Enough so to say she was a significant figure in gender politics independent of her essentialism. You might not want to touch most of her proposed solutions with a 10-foot pole, but one can learn from her analysis. And draw one’s own, non-essentialist, non-exclusivist conclusions.
As you may have heard, arch-separatist feminist-essentialist and theologian Mary Daly has passed away. Sungold of Kittywampus, while acutely alert to Daly’s shortcomings points out a powerful, largely gender-neutral contribution she made to humane theology.
[Daly identifies] three false deities – or idols – in Christianity. The first is the “God of explanation” to whom we turn to explain, and thus justify, that which is unexplainable: the suffering and death of children, the structures of social privilege. The second idol is “otherworldliness,” conceiving of God as a judge in a remote heaven who keeps people docile with the promise of rewards and punishments after death. Daly says this idol can be dethroned simply by living a full and rich life in this world – which women, particularly, are discouraged to do. The third idol is God as the Judge of sin, which promotes self-destructive guilt, especially in women who violate patriarchal church teachings on sex and family roles.
All of this is radical but also reasonable and compassionate, assuming one has any interest whatsoever in reforming Christianity/religion and liberating women within religions.
As Sungold says that may be neither here nor there if you’re an athiest, but it’s actually well-founded and quite comforting for many millions of progressives, including those who aren’t so much atheists as deeply alienated and squeezed out of faith by harsher, more absolutist visions of deity. Ironic considering her absolutism in other arenas but surely welcome regardless.
Adam B of Daily Kos has a good rundown of why Ted Olson and David Boies could win the Federal-level challenge to California’s odious Proposition 8 I mentioned the other day.
So you’ve no doubt read by now that Ted Olson — former Solicitor General of the United States, lead attorney for Governor Bush in Bush v Gore and [something] in the Arkansas Project — is now involved in trying to strike down Prop 8.  And many of you, I know, are assuming he’s somehow trying to shipwreck the cause of gay rights. ÂÂ
I don’t think so.  First of all, his co-counsel in the matter is David Boies, who represented Al Gore in Bush v. Gore and whose liberal credentials are impeccable.  This is a bipartisan effort, and while I think it’s certainly an extension of existing law, it’s not an unreasonable one to seek from the Supreme Court as presently constituted.  Here’s why.
The rest is good reading. He explains why the seemingly narrow, minimal, seemingly “harmless” language of Prop 8 might make it easier to beat under Federal Equal Protection Clause standards. There are at least three major prior Supreme Court decisions that make it very clear that animosity towards stigmatized groups is absolutely unconstitutional.
...consider the Prop. 8 question this way: is there a rational basis for the citizens of a state to withdraw the term “marriage” from its legal description of same-sex unions — and only from same-sex unions — when such a move seems solely to be motivated by the desire to stigmatize such couples compared to straight couples? In a way, Prop. 8 would have been more constitutional had it withdrawn more than the name “marriage” from same-sex unions and withdrawn concrete rights as well — because then the state could argue for some cause-and-effect linkage in the amendment in demonstrating its preference for opposite-sex unions. Now, it’s only about stigma and animus.
And in a not-entirely-heartening conclusion he lists a number of reasons why, no matter how the Court eventually rules, they can make things quite a bit better but no matter how much animosity certain Justices might feel they can’t make it any worse.
Good reading.
BarbinMD of Daily Kos has some good, interesting news about a new challenge to California’s odious Proposition 8 in Federal courts. Good news because they’re top-notch lawyers arguing from (theoretically, anyway, unless you’re a conservative “activist” Supreme Court Republican) hard to refute principles. Interesting because of who the lawyers are.
The plaintiffs are represented by Theodore B. Olson and David Boies. Olson, a former U.S. Solicitor General, represented George W. Bush in 2000’s Bush v. Gore, which decided the presidential election. Boies represented Al Gore in that case....
“Mr. Olson and I are from different ends of the political spectrum, but we are fighting this case together because Proposition 8 clearly and fundamentally violates the freedoms guaranteed to all of us by the Constitution,” Boies said. “Every American has a right to full equality under the law. Same sex couples are entitled to the same marriage rights as straight couples. Any alternative is separate and unequal and relegates gays and lesbians to a second class status.”
Their argument is that Proposition 8:
- Violates the Due Process Clause by impinging on fundamental liberties,
- Violates the Equal Protection Clause of the Fourteenth Amendment,
- Singles out gays and lesbians for a disfavored legal status, thereby creating a category of “second-class citizens,”
- Discriminates on the basis of gender, and,
- Discriminates on the basis of sexual orientation.
Fingers crossed.
Lia of Rogue Reverend says
Nate Phelps is the son of the infamous Fred Phelps, the awful (pardon my french) ASSHAT pastor of the website God Hates Fags. I’m not linking to his site. This really struck me:
Yet when my father turned his instructive fist on my mother, I instinctively felt internal conflict. For me, it was intuitively wrong that a 6 foot 2, 250 pound man be allowed to beat up a woman barely half his size. But we dared not intervene or even question his actions, because his behavior was sanctioned by god.
In one instance, as my father was stalking our mother at the top of the stairs, she stumbled and started to fall. Reaching out to catch herself she ripped her arm out of the socket. My father refused to let her get medical treatment to repair the damaged muscles and tendons. In subsequent, years when he was angry with her, he would inevitably grab for that injured arm. On a few occasions he managed to get hold of it and re-injure it.
I’ve always known instinctively that Fred Phelps is a bad person. But to hear his son tell the tale, it is even more horrific. There is something about this mix of power, anger, and religion that kills me the most.
While I can sympathize with his sentiment it’s always seemed like Marx was mistaken to say “Religion is a crutch.” But also while I can sympathize with the sentiment it’s also seemed like the religious wag was mistaken to reply “But humanity has a broken leg.”
Because you can’t lean on faith, no more than you can lean on love or sex or place or privilege or (goodness knows!) gender or any institution. Nor are we born in damage or injury or sin such that we must be mended or healed or blessed before we can lead good lives.
Whatever the words of his text, Reverend Phelps, surely as pious a man as any in intention and, especially, longing, has preached that sermon all his life with his life: you can not lean on faith as if it were a crutch because it will break your leg. And dislocate your partner’s arm! And immiserate the lives of those you scorn, and those you shun, and those you mock, and those you drive from faith by your example!
Cara Kulwicki of the well-known mainstream feminist website Feministe has a just-in-time reminder.
Tomorrow, May 17, is the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia. This year, IDAHO is focusing on transphobia:
Each year, the International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia (the “IDAHO”, as it is usually called), will see actions and initiatives take place in many countries and contexts and on many different issues.
All these activities and initiatives are a very strong signal to all, decisions makers, public opinion, civil rights movements, human rights defenders, etc. throughout the world that our fights for our Rights as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transsexual, queer, intersex, etc… is vibrant!
The Day provides all different kind of actors with a very powerful opportunity to express their demands and to advocate for their case. Each year also, the IDAHO aims at using the extra public, political and media attention that it provides at all levels to highlight one specific aspect of the struggle for sexual rights.
This year, we chose to highlight the often neglected but important issue of Transphobia.
Click here to read the full appeal for rights for all trans people across the world (pdf). And then click here to sign the appeal yourself.
Remember, this is an international appeal, so anyone can sign. And of course, don’t forget to spread the word.
Kulwicki, of course, posted this in time. I’m just a bit late to the party. Nevertheless, I’ve signed the IdahoHomophobia.org appeal myself.
For a variety of other takes see also:
Scott Adams of Dilbert.com Blog proposes a startling hypothesis… that among other things would confirm a lot of data about the demographics in vibrant vs. stagnant parts of the U.S. economy.
Single people are free to take more economic risks than married people. It makes me wonder if there is a correlation between the average age of marriage in a particular area and its economy.
My hypothesis is that places where marriage happens early, by custom or religion, will also be the places with the slowest rate of development. In such places there might be fewer entrepreneurs and everyone would take fewer risks.
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Name three vibrant entrepreneurial countries where people also marry young.
It’s often proposed that creative people are drawn to more ethnic, gender, orientation, and lifestyle tolerant, and more just generally culturally diverse areas and that the resulting concentrations of creativity leads to increased innovation, which leads to increased prosperity, which leads to an influx of more creative people, rinse and repeat.
This is said to be one of the reasons places like New York, the Bay Area, and Seattle appear to thrive while infrastructurally equivalent places like Cleveland, Phoenix, or Houston. (Interesting counterexample would be the Provo Valley in Utah, which is suitable for socially conservative but intellectually/technologically agile people can land.)
I can’t put my finger on a specific citation but see for-instance on tolerance for immigration. Other studies, books, and articles extend the thesis to the economic benefits of tolerance for gender, orientation, cultural, and educational diversity.
Anyway, Adams’ suggestion adds another layer: not only are creative people drawn to such nexuses, because they can afford to take the risks and ride out the ups and downs of intellectual ferment they don’t just benefit from it they help sustain it.
Ily of asexy beast has a nice review of Jennifer Baumgardner’s Look Both Ways: Bisexual Politics. While he (or she?) is disappointed that Baumgardner gives almost no space to bisexual men the review is still positive. Ily adds this great takeaway.
Baumgardner talks about how important it is for us to have positive bisexual role models in the media. She says that “the positive force of pop culture is misunderstood” (111) and that when Ellen DeGeneres came out, it made coming out easier for her as well. The funny thing is, we do have asexuals who are fairly well-known, such as Paula Poundstone and Edward Gorey. But unlike Ellen, whose sexuality was front and center for awhile, the asexuality of these other celebs has been gleaned from statements that they may have made once, as sidenotes, and that’s it. We probably do have an Ellen-level asexual celebrity right now, we just don’t know who it is.
We everyday folk can afford to be bolder than famous people can. Ellen may have encouraged everyday lesbians and bisexual women to come out. But it’s us, the everyday asexuals, who are going to have to encourage our celebrities.
Asexuality’s a big, complicated universe of an orientation. It’s mystery (if you want to call it that) is compounded by the fact that if you’re asexual it wouldn’t exactly be the first thing you’d mention about yourself. Because even if you hadn’t learned most people aren’t comfortable with it (“are they sure?” “I’m sure”) if you don’t have sexual feelings in the first place it may not be something you think about. (Consider how often do you feel compelled to mention that you don’t have antenna? That you’re not a native writer in cuneiform?)
But still, it would be nice if an asexual in public life stepped up and discussed it. Because even if as Ily and others say they’re only one percent of the population (I think it’s quite a bit higher) that’s still a lot of people. Enough, especially over time, to have had quite a lot of impact on society’s attitudes not only about sex but about chastity and abstinence as well. So even if it wasn’t only right and fair, making room in public acceptance of asexuality might be a big help in making room for the rest of us as well.