I just ran across a wonderful primer on anal sex from Birdie at Lighten Up. It’s informative without being clinical, erotic without being sensational. Very cool. You really want to read the whole thing so I’ll just excerpt one of her introductory paragraphs.
First I need to disclose that I was participating in anal sex before I realized that it was considered taboo. Is it really considered taboo? I’m still uncertain about that. When I was 17 years old I found an erotic novel in a used book store that included a scene involving anal sex. I’m an avid reader. Which, by the way, is also where I found The Sensuous Woman by “J”; a how-to book on becoming a senuous woman. No mention as to why sign it “J” rather than take ownership of her work. I’ve always wondered if perhaps “J” is a man. In any event learning about sex from books seems to have warped my sense of what is taboo and what is mainstream.
I had anal sex Friday so now is a good time to write about it while the sensations are still very vivid in my mind and anus. Two things I feel essential to good anal sex are arousal and lubrication. Perhaps penis size is also an important consideration but I’m not going to be able to speak about penis size because all of my anal experience is with an average sized penis so I don’t have experience with variety. Any recommendations regarding penis size will have to come from someone else. Let’s begin with arousal. Friday I initiated the playtime and typical of me I dressed the part. I wore a jersey dress that is one size too small. Last Fall it fit perfectly but I don’t want to talk about that. I wore the dress with nothing under it and with high heels. My experience is that a woman doesn’t have to do much more than wear a dress that clings to her body and high heels to initiate sex. Anyway that got the balls rolling and the cock stiffening.
Again what I really appreciate about it is the everyday erotic nature of Birdie’s experience. She did it before she knew it was taboo. She presents it as part of her sex life instead of as a separate, submissive, or exceptional event. It seems to me that if you’re going to do it (and of course not everyone does) then she and her partner have the right approach.
Since I’m feeling defensive about men’s “predictability” these days I’d like to comment very briefly on the idea that “all” a woman has to do is wear a tight dress and high heels to initiate sex. I’ll just say that sociologists have noted for years that women initiate virtually all successful consensual romantic or sexual interactions or, more accurately, they initiate a cascade of interactions and men spend a great deal of time trying to figure the signals out. An overt signal such as donning uncharacteristically sexual apparel helps clarify something that may have been brewing subconsciously, for both parties, for some time.
Cool post all the way around.
