I’ve been forgetting to post about this for so long. Holly of The Pervocracy takes on the clothed female, naked male porn/fetish thingie, with her predictably insightful twist.
CFNM is a fetish interest in “clothed female, naked male.” It’s a femdom thing, not an exhibitionist thing—the idea isn’t “hey ladies lookit my wiener” so much as “hey slave get out your wiener.” Here’s a very NWS site that illustrates. (“CMNF” doesn’t seem to be as much of a distinct fetish, although it certainly happens in maledom. And in society, grumble grumble…) I’d heard of CFNM before but I got really thinking about it today.
I can’t decide whether to love it or hate it. On the one hand, I love the idea of good-looking men submitting to objectification and ogling. CFNM porn, although aimed mostly at straight men, seems to break the mold of the ass-ugly or invisible male pornstar—all the CFNM models I’ve seen have been cute as hell, which is awesome. Somehow this seems more like real submission than femdom porn where the women are wearing crotchless nippleless leather fishnet getup things—the male submissives are the only ones sacrificing their dignity for once.
And it’s acknowledging that women actually enjoy looking at cute naked men! From the men’s perspective even! This is awesome!
On the other hand… the thought I have looking at a lot of these pictures is “gosh, if he was naked in front of me I wouldn’t be leaving my clothes on.”
I want to just keep quoting her post because she keeps picking at that “women would really rather be sexualized by men than have sex with them” theme men in Western Civilization keep telling everybody we can’t do without. But I’ll stop here so you can go read the rest yourself.
Submitted by 2981 (not verified) on Thu, 2009-05-28 17:46.
I've also seen clothed male naked female porn in the past, though it's mostly BDSM-type stuff where the guy ties her up, beats her, and then unzips his pants (but keeps it on) and sticks his penis in one of her orifices. I haven't seen the M/M or F/F equivalent or know if it exists, since I usually don't go deliberately looking for porn, but I'd hardly be surprised if it did.
From a personal (and bisexual) perspective, it appears to me to ultimately be about a vulnerable and exposed human, shorn of any cues as to their social standing and place in life. And that vulnerability being taken advantage of by a well-dressed (and sometimes faceless) authority figure. Sometimes it's a bit like predator and prey, sometimes more like a civilized gentlefolk taming a wild slut. Either way, it's all about the sharp contrast. But then again, my perspective on a lot of things are a bit unusual, so I might be off here.
Submitted by 2981 (not verified) on Fri, 2009-05-29 07:27.
Whenever I see something like this I wonder if the particular fetish appeals more to men or women and who it is intended for? These images don't do much for me but I wonder if other women like them or if this is all about men's fantasies? It's interesting to me how you talk about agency and pornography where the woman is more active and the man is more passive as progressive, and maybe it is but it seems to me that a lot of men have fantasies about that because part of the whole female as actor during sex means that woman does all the "work." Seems to me that lots of guys would enjoy being passively pleasured, if that makes sense.
Another fetish where I have wondered about the audience is porn involving black men and white women. It starts with a (supposedly) married white couple being interviewed and the wife sits there giggling while the husband says he wants to watch his wife get fucked by a big black cock. Seriously? He wants to watch his wife with another man? And then there is the obvious racism ...but so would a man really fantasize about that or is this sort of thing intended for women?
This sort of thing is fascinating, it would be interesting to analyze porn from a psycho sociological perspective but imagine doing a serious academic study of such a thing and telling someone (like your parents) who wants to know what you're writing your dissertation on. "I'm studying pornography." LOL
I don’t know how I found this
Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 2009-12-16 14:07.I don’t know how I found this blog, but I must say that this particular post is quite interesting.
I’m a guy and I guess I just discovered that I have a fascination with this whole CFNM thing. I’m not a porn fan and I’m in a happily committed, long-term relationship. I know exactly why this concept appeals to me, and it has a lot to do with my realization that I was molested a few times by a pair of older girls that I knew. Though I’m not celebrating the molestation, it did indeed leave an indelible mark on my pysche.
The girls were sisters that lived behind my parents’ house when I was growing up. I discovered many years later that they themselves were abuse and molestation victims and they were likely only acting out the only way they knew how. On more than a couple occasions, I was invited over while their parents were at work. This was completely thrilling since these girls were 15 and 16, while I was just 12 and just hit puberty.
During summer vacations, back in the ’80’s, I experienced my first “handjobs” from both of them. They were fully dressed, but I was left vulnerable and exposed. I can see now how that’s not mentally healthy, but I didn’t care at the time. I think I even realized that I was just there for their entertainment, but I sure didn’t feel like much of a “victim”. The biggest damage I think I incurred was a fascination with older girls from then on.
Well, thanks for letting me comment. I’ve never told anyone this.