Ok, so here’s something that’s been bugging me lately. How come we never hear people say that this woman or that is expressing her masculine side?
I mean, when a man does something like weep tears of joy for love for his children, or take pleasure in domestic activities, or talk about his feelings, or take pleasure in prolonged foreplay with lots of talking, kissing, hugging, and holding before any pants are unzipped people say “he’s expressing his feminine side?”
You know about those two new books that were all the buzz last week? The ones that were kind of panicking about the way women, young women in particular, are learning to enjoy pornography and (horrors) oral sex the way their male peers do? How come nobody says “they’re just expressing their masculine side?”
Instead, at least according to those and other books, women are behaving that way under pressure from men. Not to put too fine a point on it, if someone told me I did all the cooking and shopping in my household, and much of the laundry, housekeeping, and childcare because I was under pressure from women… well, I’d give ‘em a fat lip. Or maybe just bore them to death by expounding at length about how a Volkswagon 1800 carburetor works. :-)
Seriously though. If Freya, or DTG, or Chelsea Girl, or VS, or Wendy, or KnT, or, or, or, etc., feel the way they do due to pressure from their male peers I want to hear about it. They certainly haven’t mentioned it.
That’s not to say nobody, man or woman, encounters or succumbs to pressure from the opposite gender. (And men and women often succumb to pressure from their own genders but I guess that’s supposed to be ok.) And it’s certainly not to say that men and women often step into, well, all sorts of things when they’re not ready, or when their hearts aren’t into it. But let’s get over this idea that, for instance, men will only comfort a crying child without pressure from women, or that women will only drool over Xana and Dax under pressure from men.
And that’s enough Saturday Non-salacious blogging for one day.
