Binsk of A.K.A. Binsk took some kind of test on CNN.com that was supposed to demonstrate that homosexuality is innate rather than acquired. She doesn’t provide a link to the CNN page but for the purposes of this post her conclusion matters more than CNN’s.
Researchers say this is further proof that gay is a gene, not a choice.
I got your proof right here researchers.
Do you think I would actually choose to like males if I sat down and really thought about it?
Uh no.
Kidding.
Sort of.
When I talk about men consistently perceiving women as the “no-sex” class — possessed of no innate interest in sex and therefore perpetually requiring sexual shepharding from men — I try to focus on the consequences that has for men. I focus on it because I believe it’s a paradigm created and enforced largely by men and therefore it’s up to us to try on another world view.
Now the weird thing about the “no-sex” class paradigm is that, unlike the classic feminist theory of women as the sex class (instead of the “no-sex” class) is that there’s really no benefit for men.
Take street harassment. Guys do it for a wide variety of reasons including, heavily, a wishful sense of resentment that whistling from a passing car is the only contact they’ll ever have with their victim. And yet… and yet… were we to refrain from setting women’s teeth permanently on edge that way we might have a) a better chance of closer connection leading to b) less of that sense of resentment that c) leads us to catcalls that d) lead to remarks from women like Binsk: “Do you think I would actually choose to like males if I sat down and really thought about it?”
Guys, I…
Guys, I just…
Guys! I… just… have this feeling that if we stopped behaving towards women as if they’d never willingly have sex with us then… they might be more willing to have sex with us!
I mean, it’s just not that complicated! Women, being people, enjoy sex. Unless someone gives them deep and profound reasons not to. And who exactly is the main source of those profound reasons not to…? And who exactly benefits from this situation? (Trick question: the answer is “nobody we know, and maybe nobody period.”)
Submitted by 1464 (not verified) on Sat, 2007-06-30 14:03.
You got that exactly right. I always wonder what those guys would say if I asked them: "Did whistling and catcalling from your passing car ever actually GET you a date or any other positive encounter with a woman, in any way , shape or form?" I would guess that would be a no. They are doing their level best to drive us as far away as we can get when they do that! Makes you wonder why it is in our culture that a particular kind of male bonding involving the belittling of women is more important to them than actually BEING WITH a woman, even one they want. I can only believe that their worst punishment is their own isolation from the company of women, which they could have had by behaving like a human being. Sad.
[Well, the weird thing is the *intention* isn't about belittling! It arises from a bizarre sense of powerlessness that while absolutely real is also absolutely misplaced. And therefore absolutely counterproductive. In other words to the extent it's mutual bonding between men it's based on a mutual recognition that "it's not going to happen because women 'aren't like that.'" Yeah, it's stupid. And yeah, I think it can be turned around pretty simply. Or at least I hope it can. A realization, maybe, that "she does like sex if I didn't *actively turn her off*" is a very different starting point! Thanks, Flora. --fl]