So… following up on my previous post about someone finally recognizing that not all men are interested in sex (or, more accurately since the original report was from relationship counsellors, as interested as their partners.)

What do you think the impact on heterosexual relations might be if up to, say, 15% of men who didn’t feel like it but felt like they had some sort of destiny to fulfill or “universal” standard to try and live up to? How likely to encourage sexual self-expression in their partners or, perhaps, latch on instead to “conventional wisdom” that erotic desire in women was “unnatural?”

Part of the problem of living in the closet — any closet — isn’t that you live a lie, it’s that your decision forces others to live your lie with you.