Holly of The Pervocracy says
I’ve often heard people talk about slutty women having loose pussies. I’ve never heard anyone suggest this would happen to a girl who had sex a whole bunch of times with one guy.
Doesn’t make sense to me either, or, I might add, to any anatomist, physiologist, or sex clinician. But then unlike the anti-(female)-promiscuity crowd I don’t confuse pussies with duct tape adhesive either.
And while I’m at it Holly also said this
Jon’s looking for a “real” girlfriend. Apparently I don’t count, because I was too upfront about wanting sex, thus making me not appear to be a “quality” woman. He actually used that word.
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And I notice that he thinks he’s quality because he’s got a good education and a successful job, even though, shit, he gave it up on the first date! Why doesn’t doing that invalidate him as a person?
And this is just another one of those areas where only women seem to have to worry about letting others lick their lollypops.
To the minimal extent possible I’ll just point out that men get off the hook not because anti-feminists think they’re superior but because anti-feminists see men as irredeemably depraved and can thus be only appeased but never truly domesticated. Which, when you think about it, is little solace for anyone.
Submitted by 1899 (not verified) on Sat, 2008-01-26 23:46.
Because certain men have double standards. There's no word for a male slut. He's an assmunch.
the only way you get a loose pussy is if you have a fucked up birthing. It has nothing to do with how many people you slept with. Because dicks are small compared to a baby.
From twenty-one inches to a dick, that's a big difference. The average baby is twenty-one inches. That's a big difference between a six inch dick. And dicks are a hell of a lot thinner. The circumference of a head is like ten fingers.
Submitted by 1899 (not verified) on Sat, 2008-01-26 23:48.
By the way, adding you to my blogroll.
Submitted by 1899 (not verified) on Sun, 2008-01-27 01:41.
the part of this dichotomy that annoys me the most is when a potential boyfriend would proclaim that another woman is not 'quality' but then actually sleep or want to sleep with that woman anyway. I mean talk about hypocrisy!
Submitted by 1899 (not verified) on Sun, 2008-01-27 07:48.
The word slut is becoming less and less gender-specific, and I have certainly heard it used quite naturally in conversation, to refer to men, as well as women. In fact, Chaucer used the word to describe men, back in the Middle Ages.
That would explain why there's no male-specific word for slut. That "slut" became gender-specific tells us something about societal attitudes in the intervening centuries, I suppose, and that "slut" is now reacquiring the non-specific meaning I suppose shows us that in some way, societal attitudes are changing again.
Submitted by 1899 (not verified) on Sun, 2008-01-27 11:03.
Not to sound like giving unwarranted advice, but either its sounds like Jon has control issues or is really not honest with what he wants sexually. For the sake of my point (and expediency since I didn't read the link), I'm going to assume the later.
Its one thing for a man to say that "I want a woman whose sexual needs match mine", but to admit that he cannot fulfill her sexual need because SHE has a higher libido seems akin to questioning one's masculinity for some men.
Despite the bravado, the wild sex stories, the copious number of partners, I find men to have as much difficulty talking about their sexuality as much as women in relationships. The same mechanisms that make some women from hiding their sexuality effects men as well, which prevents real dialogues about sex even with people you love and care about.