Quick note: Anyone who can’t give himself a better orgasm than he can have with a partner needs practice masturbating. (A corollary, by the way, would be “anyone who can’t have as good an orgasm during sex with another person as they can by themselves also needs practice.” Pursuing the corollary at this point would detract from my upcoming point.)

I have a feeling that men who feel this way (and there are certainly a lot of them) are confusing the pleasure of genital stimulation with the pleasure of human connection/communication that comes from body (and not just genital) contact. As I’ve mentioned elsewhere, men aren’t encouraged to acknowledge the pleasure they receive from intimacy. To appropriately misappropriate Abraham Mazlow’s dictum, when you’re told the only tool you have is a screwdriver, everything starts looking like a screw.”