Amanda Marcotte of Pandagon, ripping on mocking, raging, anti-feminist slurs about Feministing’s Jessica Valenti’s impending marriage, says

The joke is that he thinks it must be exhausting to be a feminist who actually tries to be a good person, presumably because we’re all fighting our “true” desires to be shallow bimbos who don’t give a shit about anything important.  But honestly, I think the anti-feminist view of the world is a lot more exhausting, and it’s obviously alienating. The cynical belief that every man is an asshole and every woman is a bimbo strikes me as way more exhausting than believing that good people exist and that real love based on understanding and equality is possible. 

She said it here.

I think I’ve mentioned (only 1000 times) that my big breakthrough came (from one of Amanda’s posts no less) when I finally got not that feminism is so great but that anti-feminism is so Teh Suck. That was when I finally stopped wanting feminism to happen because I loved, liked, respected, and worried about all the women in my life and… started wanting it because on top of all that the alternative is an actuarially predicted lifespan of 87.3 years of loathing, humiliation, and kindergarten-level expectations for me and every other man on the planet.

Oh, and by the way, congratulations for the soon-to-be Ms. Valenti and her partner Andrew.

Update: Wow. In a follow-up to the post I linked to, above, Marcotte knocks one right out of the park! Kind of interesting, if also frustrating, if also not surprising, that one of the most passionate and articulate defenders of men’s real rights and potential in the face of anti-feminism turns out to be a woman. (Not, obviously, frustrating because Amanda’s a woman but because, y’know, perhaps because men spent so long holding our hands over our ears saying “la la la la la” any time feminism cropped up we’re still a little… ok, or maybe a lot… behind the curve.)