Lynn Gazis-Sax of Noli Irritare Leones, who’s been on a bit of a roll examining Medieval and earlier theological attitudes towards homosexuality, brings up as an aside early theological attitudes about incest.
The live journal Thinking Out Loud reviews gay Catholic academic Mark Jordan’s The Invention of Sodomy in Christian Theology. It’s an interesting survey of medieval reasoning about sex, which sometimes differs from modern reasoning in non-obvious ways.
arguing that a priest who has sex with someone he is hearing confessions from is a form of incestâ€â€the priest being spiritual fatherâ€â€is much more about very medieval concerns about incest, defined extremely broadly
(I note, here, that incest has been defined to include a transgression that we’d now describe as professional sexual exploitation.)
This is actually a pretty cool point. Various apologists for incest point out, not at all incorrectly, that most of the horror stories about offspring with hemophilia and other recessive-gene diseases are actually fairly weak. (Tending as they do towards one widely-distributed and widely known royal family and large numbers of conveniently “othered” sub-groups like “gee-we-want-the-coal-under-their-property hillbillies.) And a heck of a lot of pre-metropolitan social organizations consist of very isolated groups where marriage as close as cousins was pretty inevitable**. And besides now there’s birth control, right?
Fine. Points taken. But!
As Lynn hints, if theologians considered sex between priest and parishioner incest then inbreeding is not what the prohibition was all about in the first place. Instead it was about improper abuse of, and I’m sure a little further research would support, improper concentration of power.
Slight digression: Recall, as various historians of relationships have noted (my go-to reference being Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz), the real tradition of “traditional marriage” wasn’t romance, or even individual preference, but economic arrangements between (politically significant) families. And while I can’t document this I’m guessing that a little research would show that political and economic considerations rather than actual consanguinity was behind, say, the Church’s otherwise incomprehensible decisions to prohibit an individual’s marriage to a 4th cousin in favor of… a marriage to a 3rd cousin.
It also makes significant the biologically ridiculous prohibitions on marriages between cousins in law who (especially if everyone’s keeping track) are almost by-definition not related either by blood or genetics.
I’m not given to approving the policies of ecclesiastical lawyers but in this case I think they got it right, because the real but relatively*** minor problems of possible inbreeding really aren’t as significant as the equally real but considerably bigger problems of power imbalances in such relationships.
For this reason all the arguments about the biological irrelevance of incest, no matter how sophisticated, fall flat: what’s usually objectionable about incest isn’t about inherited genes, it’s about inherent power****.
[And we’re not just talking about the middle ages here. A friend I used to work with moved out of her 20th-Century northern Minnesota town, she said, because she and everyone else in her town knew by third grade who she was going to have to marry. In a long-established, very isolated town of less than three hundred the choices were very limited unless you wanted to a) marry a first or second cousin or b) marry someone else, thus forcing their designated partner to marry a first or second cousin. Oh, or c) move away. She said she knew “her” forced pick was a big doodie-head and so before age 8 she had resigned herself to option C. —fl]
[*** No pun intended. —fl]
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This would be true, by the way, whether or not that was the literal liturgical reasoning behind the policies Lynn touched on in the quoted piece. Although, based on identification of incest between priest and parishioner as strongly overlapping what we’d call sexual harassment or exploitation of position, I’m pretty sure that really was the original line of thought. —fl]




Submitted by 2561 (not verified) on Mon, 2008-12-08 18:34.
An interesting side note, however: I've heard that in the rare occasions when biological cousins or siblings do not grow up together and are not aware of each other, but happen to meet, there's a fairly high chance that they will fall in love with each other. (Apparently this doesn't just happen in bad novels.) Sooner or later they usually find out, sometimes because they tried to get married. (And even occasionally not until after they're married!) Even if they find out early on, often they try to keep it secret and continue the relationship anyway. In this case, I don't think the balance of power issue is relevant. But apparently, for some reason, there is often a strong sexual attraction to close relatives one rarely or never sees.
[Agreed, if you don't even know each other, or of each other as related in the first place, then balance-of-power prohibitions obviously don't make sense. What I though was significant, thought, is that the main prohibition, at least in the post-Roman European context, probably *was* based on power and not biology. Having recently reconnected with some cousins I haven't seen for decades I don't know about the long-lost attraction theory. I think they're perfectly nice looking people. I *will* say (I think I've mentioned this elsewhere) that I've always been attracted to the *types* of women most like my female relatives -- medium height, tending towards athletic and vigorous, dark hair, similar facial structures, etc. And at some level my cousin's husbands have tended to look like the male relatives -- taller, skinnier, long faced, dark hair, etc. But even though those are vague criteria each of us would tend to land somewhere in the middle of the ranges. So... assuming there's anything to my theory of being drawn to familiar types then it's not too big a stretch to assume unknown cousins might be drawn to each other. Something to think about. Thanks! --fl]
Submitted by 2561 (not verified) on Mon, 2008-12-08 19:14.
Intermarriage is entirely about keeping the wealth in the family dynasty. It is one of the critical underpinnings of class systems both then and now.
habit play.
[Yup, and for quite a few thousands of years keeping or managing the wealth was the real "tradition" behind the "traditional marriage" conservatives keep claiming we'd be better off going back to. Thanks, Adela. --fl]
Submitted by 2561 (not verified) on Tue, 2008-12-09 10:27.
@Nightfall: Apparently the reason that we are usually turned off by or disgusted by the thought of being sexual with our sibling/parent/family member has something to do with the early years of our lives. If we are exposed to these people early in our lives, the taboo is put in place and we do not see them as sexual objects. However, if we are not around them in that crucial developmental period, we do not have that taboo formed in our brain and it makes it more likely that we will become attracted to that person.