I’m sorry to hear that VS at Dilemmas of a Virgin Slut has been in a lot of ibuprophin-doesn’t-help-it pain lately. I expect most of us in the blogosphere wish her a speedy recovery. I certainly do!

The funny thing about sex-blogging about people I don’t know in real life is that (paradoxically since we’re all thinking and talking about sex, preferably with other people) I tend to develop disproportionate respect for their minds and personalities. VS sounds like a babe, and I have to admit it would be lovely to have terminal foreplay with someone who’s never felt like having vaginal sex, but I read her because she says intelligent things like this:

To be completely honest, the pain had put a damper on my mood. Sex was the last thing on my mind…

I guess it is at times like these when I understand why some people do not like/want/need sex in their lives. So here is some virginal wisdom to all those people with no sex drives: your lack of interest in sex has probably nothing to do with sex itself, so look above and beyond it. Most importantly, do not continue to do things the way you do and expect the lack of enthusiasm to be miraculously extracted from your life; things can’t change and stay the same! In other words, if your routine is not working out, it is time for you to adopt a new act.

Get well soon, VS.